My 16yo DS and his girlfriend (Part 2)

[workworkworkugh]

Just opening a new thread as I believe the other one is getting full.
Will try and link the old one

Can you provide a link for Part 3 please? I cant find it.

My 16yo DS and his girlfriend (Part 3) http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/4245195-my-16yo-ds-and-his-girlfriend-part-3

Has there been much more in the way of contact from your DS recently, OP?

@SofiaMichelle there are more updates over on part 3, linked below ☺️

Update from Part 3 thread:

Update... he is home!
He came home an hour ago and was in an ok mood. We're not even going to address what's happened, not yet anyway.
But he's also asked twice within 30mins of being home if we want him here for dinner or there (her house)

He's in his room and has been on his phone constantly, to her we assume.
The longer he is here, the grumpier he seems to be and we can only imagine what's happening on his phone between them.
But we are not harassing him and are giving him space so not to bombard him.

But he is here. How the next few days go will determine how we move forward, will have to take it a day at a time.
But I got to see my son for the first time in just over a week and give him a hug for the first time in two weeks.

That is great progress. Probably not out of the woods yet but could be a huge step.forward for positive change. So pleased for you.

[quote workworkworkugh]@SofiaMichelle there are more updates over on part 3, linked below ☺️[/quote]
Apologies - and thanks for pointing out the thread 3 link. You'd only just posted it and I completely missed it!

Sounds promising @workworkworkugh x He might go back and forth a few times but I'm sure this thing won't last. x

What’s the latest?

@Cherryberrybonbon there is a part three, the link is a few posts before this one

How are things going, hope you are OK. Part 3 is full hence posting here you might want to open Pt4, fingers crossed she is dumped before long.

@Lockdownbear

How are things going, hope you are OK. Part 3 is full hence posting here you might want to open Pt4, fingers crossed she is dumped before long.

Op started part 4 and it was deleted. A lot of internalised misogyny from posters unfortunately, forgetting this is a 16 yo girl.

In brief, gf wanted to put the past behind them and get on with op, which was dismissed as manipulation. The gf stating she was seeing op’s counsellor (she isn’t) and the counsellor telling her they should take a break. Ergo op’s ds was sent home with gf telling him she wants to see other people.

The last we heard was he’d got on the apprenticeship of his choice and was becoming increasingly manipulative of his parents and speculation this is finally unravelling. They were supposed to go out for a meal last weekend sans gf but he was saying he wasn’t going and op was advised to go with or without him. Idk if it happened due to deletion.

I wish OP would update. Hope there's some improvement

@workworkworkugh, not sure if this thread will be zapped too, but how are things going? I felt bad that you lost your MN support. Seemed unfair.

Another one here thinking it's sad you can't have support here now.

Hope you're ok workworkworkugh

Me too. I don’t think it was HQ’s place to decide that you were no longer getting worthwhile support.

Really hope you’re ok @workworkworkugh

Thanks for checking in.
We're fine for now, DS took the apprenticeship and starts soon, he still hasn't seen GF (but did go and have an hour long d&m with her dad as he was confused)
DH tried to tell him that if he didn't want to talk to us and wanted to open up to someone else, that's fine, but her parents aren't the best choice.

I just don't want to get this thread deleted as well as it has been sort of a diary and it has a timeline of things that happened that we may need in the future.

A lot of women are like this, you perhaps don’t hear of it much because most blokes won’t complain. It’s a double standard really, because when men act in this sort of way there’s outrage. I know a few women who treat thier partners like this and it ain’t right. I’ve always been a firm believer of letting someone make mistakes so they can learn from them but in this case maybe your DS is too young and might need a little intervention. He might not like you for a while but when he gets a gf that treats him better he still see why you did what you did.

Op I'm really sorry MN deleted your last thread and I missed it. I do keep looking for your updates but nearly always need to search.

I agree her Dad isn't the best person to council your DS. But it's one of those things if the boy won't listen.
Fingers crossed she does meet someone else and leave you boy alone. It was noted that he was starting to stand up to her which was probably the beginning of the end. But I didn't think it would end this soon.

How are you feeling about him going for the apprenticeship?

Glad things are unravelling between them.

Idk how to, but you can archive threads in case they are deleted. I’m so glad your ds hasn’t seen her and hope your family can have a peaceful, drama free Christmas.

Has your ds been mixing with his friends at all? Hopefully with the new apprenticeship, he will mix with new people at college and change his mindset.

I agree counselling would be a wonderful thing for him.

Why were OP’s previous threads deleted?

Op I'm so sorry you had a thread deleted. Really not on at all mumsnet.
If it's still helpful start a new one from here and use it. I think of you and your son from time to time and hope he escapes soon

Take screenshots of all your threads.

@workworkworkugh
Which thread are you missing?
I've got Three of them in my watch list that i can still access. If you want them linked let me know.