Who pays?

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Have had my niece (11) for a day at the park. We parked and as it was crowded said to my ds and dn be careful opening car doors please.

Dn and ds acknowledged and then dn Flung open her door and has hit a gorgeous merc beside us.

We were all wtf and she said sorry I didn't think.

There was approx 5 seconds between the warning and her opening the door.

I've left a note for the car owner and taken pictures.

Dn lives with my dsis and my parents. My mum said they will pay but my dad has said he's pissed off and I should pay?

Aibu? If my kids damaged someone's property even if they were with someone else I wouldn't expect them to pay.

So if a child was round your house PPS and broke a vase or something, you'd pay for it would you?

@TheThingsWeAdmitOnMN
So if your child had a friend round and they ruined your sofa or broke a glass , you'd payx would you?

Course you wouldn't.

Her parents should pay but at the same time you should probably have opened the door for her to make sure nothing like this happened

@Butwasitherdriveway

Oh fgs . You all knew I met the nieces mother

How would anyone know that, when that's not what you said. Words have meaning for a reason.

@Butwasitherdriveway

So if a child was round your house PPS and broke a vase or something, you'd pay for it would you?

Well if I wanted to replace it I would, I certainly wouldn't expect their parents to pay fir damage while they're in my care unless they did something deliberately. If they'd picked the vase up and deliberately dropped it then maybe, but in reality I'd just not invite them again.

Incidents like this is why cars have insurance. I would have left my insurance information and not thought anything else of it.

God I'd hate to live in a world where we are so unable to take or accept responsibility we just don't see someone again rather than you know, have the right person pay.

After excesses and possible insurance premiums rising, the owner of the Merc might not want to claim. They might get a body shop to buff it out privately.

[quote Butwasitherdriveway]@TheThingsWeAdmitOnMN
So if your child had a friend round and they ruined your sofa or broke a glass , you'd payx would you?

Course you wouldn't.[/quote]
Yes, of course I would. As I explained in my
Previous post. If it was accidental or careless then yes. If the child had deliberately attacked the sofa with scissors or something I'd be discussing it with their parents. Big difference between accidental/careless damage & wilful damage.

If you take her out again use child locks

So if a child was round your house PPS and broke a vase or something, you'd pay for it would you?

I would, I’m not in the habit of frogmarching guests to the cash machine 😂

@LizBennet

So if a child was round your house PPS and broke a vase or something, you'd pay for it would you?

I would, I’m not in the habit of frogmarching guests to the cash machine 😂

Neither am I.

But I also don't expect other people to pay for my child as DN clearly does.

Sorry, dsis

Another who thinks you should pay as she was in your care, therefore your responsibility.
Would’ve nice if your sister went halves with you though.

What has your sister said about it? Why should your parents be paying? Your sister should offer to pay towards it and you should pay towards it seeing as she was in your care and you parked too close to another car. You could have let her out before driving into the space if it was so tight.

Should you not have had a child lock on to prevent this happening?

If someone else took my child out for the day and my child damaged something I would definitely pay.

Therefore I think your sister should pay.

Depends on finances. If any of you would be strained by paying it, would be good if other family chipped in. If none of you are under financial strain, then I would suggest you go halves with her parents or hope they would insist on paying.

GPS definitely not obligated to pay In Any way.

@Notaroadrunner

What has your sister said about it? Why should your parents be paying? Your sister should offer to pay towards it and you should pay towards it seeing as she was in your care and you parked too close to another car. You could have let her out before driving into the space if it was so tight.

Sorry I see you said the space was wide enough to get out with ease. I'd still pay towards it but I'd hope that your sister would also offer. Has the car owner been in contact?

Neither am I.

But I also don't expect other people to pay for my child as DN clearly does.

I agree with you there. If my child had done it whilst in my sister’s care I would pay for any repairs needed. I do feel bad for OP’s sister though, it wasn’t actually her who did it. Like I said originally, I think it’s a tough one.

next time (and for the forseeable future) she sits in the back with the child lock on.

this time - insurance job. will probably hit your no claims so that's the argument to have.

Can I just say well done you for being honest and leaving a note! We were on holiday in Ireland and parked in the hotel car park. DH always takes care to park in the safest space poss in terms of getting dinged. In this case he had parked in and end so only one side of the car was at risk and even then there was lots of room between us and the next space and yet we can out the next morning to a huge ding in that side of the car and no note and the hotel couldn’t help. So annoying!

@Happycat1212

I think you because she was in your care 🤷‍♀️

Yeah. I agree with that

I think legally you don’t have a leg to stand on. You took responsibility for an 11 year old and all their ‘quirks’ as well. You warned them first, which shows that you were aware that they could possibly do some damage. Instead of opening the door yourself you allowed her to, despite knowing the potential for incident. Legally it’s your responsibility I think. But morally, maybe half and half?

She doesn't have a leg to stand on?

Bloody hell. I can't even handle how much stick OP is getting for taking DN out. Next time the sister can take her! Poor OP.