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Original poster

To think DH should agree to alter hotel room?

151 replies

ObvNC · 16/04/2021 13:03

DH works 4 hours away from home in our family business.

I'll only nip down once a fortnight nowadays because of covid restrictions,

He always checks into the same room, bit of a creature of habit Grin, but was once put in a different room which I prefer because it has a bath.

The bath is lovely as we get a little bit romantic in this room - 3 nocturnal teenagers at home for a year has had a large impact on our Quality Time together, and a luxury bath adds to the ambience.

The room is exactly the same, maybe 10 yards further down the corridor. No other difference at all. Same view, same floor space, same orientation (these things matter to him Hmm)

AIBU to think he should be happy to change to this room and not be ruled by his resistance to change?

First World problems I know there's other far more pressing issues I'm well aware, Colin the caterpillar etc etv

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emilyfrost · 16/04/2021 14:32

This is a way to have more ceremonial, indulgent time.

In your opinion, not his. A bath isn’t going to do anything for him and that’s okay, he’s allowed to feel that.

So why not make it as special as it can be?

He doesn’t think it’s special. Why are you struggling with that? Confused

Why should he have to incorporate bath intimacy into your sex life when he clearly doesn’t want to?

SecondRow · 16/04/2021 14:32

Is it that he doesn't want to phone the hotel and say he needs the bath sex room because his wife is coming over?

HellonHeels · 16/04/2021 14:35

@SleepingStandingUp

So he lives in the hotel 8/14 days because you love so far from his work place? And you want the other to so you can have bath sex on one of those 8 days. Do you have a bath at home? Restrictions are lifting soon so you can have plenty of bath sex at home.
OP can't have Bath Sex at home due to marauding teenagers
Original poster
ObvNC · 16/04/2021 14:36

@JustAnotherOldMan

Boy asking him to change fir one night, he could have Room 69 rather than 73 alll the time, really wouldn't affect him. That's what I'm perplexed about.

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Kaptain · 16/04/2021 14:36

[quote ObvNC]@Kaptain tbh I was Le sighing at my own bad explantion, rather than the posters. I'm to embrace all comments.

Smile[/quote]
Fair enough. As you were!

itsgettingwierd · 16/04/2021 14:36

If he's using hotels so often and likes the rigidity of his own familiar surroundings wouldn't an air B and B or even renting a one bed be cheaper?

But other than that I agree with those who say he lives there and that's his room and I can see why he doesn't want to change it for 1 day every fortnight. Especially when you can have sex without the bath!

Kaptain · 16/04/2021 14:37

[quote ObvNC]@JustAnotherOldMan

Boy asking him to change fir one night, he could have Room 69 rather than 73 alll the time, really wouldn't affect him. That's what I'm perplexed about.[/quote]
Is it - is it actually room 69???!!!"

Original poster
ObvNC · 16/04/2021 14:37

*room numbers changed for anonymity

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HellonHeels · 16/04/2021 14:37

Op I'd just book myself the Bath Sex room for when I was staying. He can sneak down the corridor and into your room. Add an extra frisson of excitement.

Though is this a giant bath or something? I cannot imagine fitting two adult humans into a standard holiday inn bath, let alone managing a shag in it.

Alsohuman · 16/04/2021 14:38

I’ve never had ceremonial sex, am I missing out?

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ObvNC · 16/04/2021 14:40

@itsgettingwierd

If he's using hotels so often and likes the rigidity of his own familiar surroundings wouldn't an air B and B or even renting a one bed be cheaper?

But other than that I agree with those who say he lives there and that's his room and I can see why he doesn't want to change it for 1 day every fortnight. Especially when you can have sex without the bath!

Holiday inns have an amazing rewards programme!

Took a family of 6 to America last year for a fortnight and it covered all hotel room costs Shock

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Original poster
ObvNC · 16/04/2021 14:40

Disclaimer not an IHG employee Wink

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MrsKingfisher · 16/04/2021 14:41

I wouldn't be having a bath or sex in a hotel, I'm in hotels a lot. You learn things, things that spoil your view of a romantic getaway forever!

Leah2005 · 16/04/2021 14:42

How about you book the room with a bath and invite him over for the night? Smile

Original poster
ObvNC · 16/04/2021 14:42

@Alsohuman

I’ve never had ceremonial sex, am I missing out?
Far superior to having muffled sex with a background noise of Fortnite yelling coming from above HmmGrin
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Alsohuman · 16/04/2021 14:45

Far superior to having muffled sex with a background noise of Fortnite yelling coming from above

OK, I have it all the time without even knowing. Must tell the bloke. But what difference does a bath make? Mystified. 🤔

MatildaTheCat · 16/04/2021 14:47

Give him a clear choice: it’s bath bedroom with sex or shower bedroom with PJs and curlers in.

Leah2005 · 16/04/2021 14:48

@Alsohuman I get the bath thing. It means it's nice to have some lovely bubbles, a glass of wine, a nice relax and then some nice "quality time." I don't think it's necessarily having the DH in the bath with you. It's like a mini spa Grin

JustAnotherOldMan · 16/04/2021 14:49

[quote ObvNC]@JustAnotherOldMan

Boy asking him to change fir one night, he could have Room 69 rather than 73 alll the time, really wouldn't affect him. That's what I'm perplexed about.[/quote]
Maybe he doesn’t like room 69, who knows !

I’ve worked all round U.K. and Europe and it was only the baths in Germany that I could fit in, in most of the others I’ve got my knees by ears ( I’m quite tall), as. PP says, how I would have a shag in one would be a challenge

ConfessionsOfAChocoholic · 16/04/2021 14:50

If he is living out of a hotel room then presumably he would need to move everything from one room to the other for that one night? I certainly couldn't be arsed with that every fortnight.

SleepingStandingUp · 16/04/2021 14:51

@ConfessionsOfAChocoholic

If he is living out of a hotel room then presumably he would need to move everything from one room to the other for that one night? I certainly couldn't be arsed with that every fortnight.
No o thinks he should have sex bath room forever to facilitate their fortnightly bath sex.
CookPassBabtridge · 16/04/2021 14:52

You're getting a lot of weird answers OP. Your husband is very rigid to not change while you're there.

slashlover · 16/04/2021 14:57

[quote ObvNC]@JustAnotherOldMan

Boy asking him to change fir one night, he could have Room 69 rather than 73 alll the time, really wouldn't affect him. That's what I'm perplexed about.[/quote]
If he's there 8/14 then it's essentially his main residence, maybe the only way he can cope with living out of a hotel is to maintain a tiny bit of normality by having the exact same room every time. You're asking him to pack up all of his stuff to move to a different room for one night and then move back to his preferred room. You don't know it wouldn't affect him.

Original poster
ObvNC · 16/04/2021 15:00

Apologies that should read

Not asking him to change for one night, he could have Room 69 rather than 73 alll the time, really wouldn't affect him

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JustAnotherOldMan · 16/04/2021 15:02

@CookPassBabtridge

You're getting a lot of weird answers OP. Your husband is very rigid to not change while you're there.
Completely disagree,

I’ve worked away a lot, once you’ve got all crap in a room for a week or more, I absolutely wouldn’t swap for one night to satisfy someone for one-night, even if was on a promise

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