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To think DH should agree to alter hotel room?

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ObvNC · 16/04/2021 13:03

DH works 4 hours away from home in our family business.

I'll only nip down once a fortnight nowadays because of covid restrictions,

He always checks into the same room, bit of a creature of habit Grin, but was once put in a different room which I prefer because it has a bath.

The bath is lovely as we get a little bit romantic in this room - 3 nocturnal teenagers at home for a year has had a large impact on our Quality Time together, and a luxury bath adds to the ambience.

The room is exactly the same, maybe 10 yards further down the corridor. No other difference at all. Same view, same floor space, same orientation (these things matter to him Hmm)

AIBU to think he should be happy to change to this room and not be ruled by his resistance to change?

First World problems I know there's other far more pressing issues I'm well aware, Colin the caterpillar etc etv

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bunnyhopsbunnyhops · 16/04/2021 13:43

YANBU. Is he a creature of habit usually? I'd feel hurt if he wasn't willing to adjust to include something I would like, especially following a very long drive.

As for the 'baths are disgusting, swimming around in your own filth' crew, honestly, how dirty are you?

Propagandalf · 16/04/2021 13:44

Just have sex on the bed OP!

LaurieFairyCake · 16/04/2021 13:44

Cant you just say "you're getting a shag if you take the room with the bath"

That would swing my dh Grin

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ObvNC · 16/04/2021 13:44

Bath is setting the mood folk Wink

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PredominantlyPurple · 16/04/2021 13:47

I don't like baths, haven't had one for years. Certainly wouldn't appreciate sharing one. I wouldn't mind sharing a shower though. Does your dh enjoy baths at home or does he always shower? That might give you a clue.

Kaptain · 16/04/2021 13:48

@ObvNC

Bath is setting the mood folk Wink
For you, yes. Maybe less so for your DH.

And I'd be pretty upset if my DH only wanted to have sex with me if there was a bath available Hmm

emilyfrost · 16/04/2021 13:48

@ObvNC

Bath is setting the mood folk Wink
Not for him. Why do you need a bath to set the mood? Confused

If this is the only way for you to get in the mood you have bigger problems.

SwedishK · 16/04/2021 13:49

If he prefer to shower, rather than yaking baths it’s much nicer to have a freestanding shower. Showering in a tub is a bit of a pain. Since he’s staying there for much longer, he should choose. I’m sure you can have sex in the bed if that’s what you both want.

PredominantlyPurple · 16/04/2021 13:50

Bath is setting the mood folk

It would put me in a bad mood. I just want a shower.

SleepingStandingUp · 16/04/2021 13:56

So he's working away from home, how long between trips home? How long is he in the hotel for?

WhereYouLeftIt · 16/04/2021 14:06

"DH works 4 hours away from home in our family business."

I realise this isn't the point of the thread, but - why do you live so far from your business Confused?

CovidSmart · 16/04/2021 14:08

There is something I must be missing there.

You are asking to make a change for ONE OCCASION when you go there, not every time/every week right? So the rest of the time, he is getting the same room that usual.

Why is it such an issue to make a change on that ONE time? Confused
I mean it's a hotel room, not a flat you are going to be stuck with

SleepingStandingUp · 16/04/2021 14:09

@CovidSmart

There is something I must be missing there.

You are asking to make a change for ONE OCCASION when you go there, not every time/every week right? So the rest of the time, he is getting the same room that usual.

Why is it such an issue to make a change on that ONE time? Confused
I mean it's a hotel room, not a flat you are going to be stuck with

But presumably he's not sleeping there for one night, so he'd have to be in the sex bath room all week in the hope that op would see the bath and want sex
SnowAllSpring · 16/04/2021 14:16

@ObvNC Well he was happy sharing the bath with me That One Time wink

He's obviously not really bothered about it, is he? wink.

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ObvNC · 16/04/2021 14:19

Le sigh.

Yes, we'd have the sex of it was only the shower.

But for the majority of the year we've been trammelled in our sex life bc of teenagers at home. This is a way to have more ceremonial, indulgent time.

So why not make it as special as it can be?

When all it means is he walks 10 yards extra twice a day 8 days a fortnight. There is no other affect on him

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Franklyfrost · 16/04/2021 14:20

So you’ve given him a choice: bath sex or usual room and he’s chosen the room over the sex. I’d give up trying to get him into the bath while you can still can to hold onto some dignity. (Although I do like putting a man in a bath, they're like a specimen in a tub and I’m the evil scientist).

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ObvNC · 16/04/2021 14:21

@HelpMeh

He does sound a bit rigid... My DH would be the one pushing for the room with the bath. Personally I hate sharing baths and showers.
Brilliant! I've been with him 25 years, and never found the correct word.

Rigid.

He's rigid.

DH is rigid.

Tyvvm Smile

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SleepingStandingUp · 16/04/2021 14:21

So he lives in the hotel 8/14 days because you love so far from his work place? And you want the other to so you can have bath sex on one of those 8 days. Do you have a bath at home? Restrictions are lifting soon so you can have plenty of bath sex at home.

SleepingStandingUp · 16/04/2021 14:22

Now op wants him to be rigid naked in the bath

JustAnotherOldMan · 16/04/2021 14:24

@CovidSmart

There is something I must be missing there.

You are asking to make a change for ONE OCCASION when you go there, not every time/every week right? So the rest of the time, he is getting the same room that usual.

Why is it such an issue to make a change on that ONE time? Confused
I mean it's a hotel room, not a flat you are going to be stuck with

I used to travel and work away a lot, you don’t generally change rooms for one night, especially if your staying all week,
Kaptain · 16/04/2021 14:25

@ObvNC

Le sigh.

Yes, we'd have the sex of it was only the shower.

But for the majority of the year we've been trammelled in our sex life bc of teenagers at home. This is a way to have more ceremonial, indulgent time.

So why not make it as special as it can be?

When all it means is he walks 10 yards extra twice a day 8 days a fortnight. There is no other affect on him

Le sigh.

Yet another poster asks a question in AIBU, doesn't like the general answer, and gets all arsey longsuffering and posts things like "Le sigh".

Honestly, if you only want people to agree with you then why not say so at the beginning, and save us all a lot of time?

Aprilshowersandhail · 16/04/2021 14:25

The way people are going against the op you would think she has suggested her /dh sleep in the bath!!
Grin

SnowAllSpring · 16/04/2021 14:27

@ObvNC

Clearly he prioritises not walking the extra 10 yards over 'ceremonial, indulgent' Hmm time with you.

Perhaps it's because you are apparently a middle-aged, married woman who says 'le sigh'.

SleepingStandingUp · 16/04/2021 14:28

And he's still getting the sex so there's really no incentive for him op.perhaps refuse to have any sex that isn't bath based. Ever.

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ObvNC · 16/04/2021 14:30

@Kaptain tbh I was Le sighing at my own bad explantion, rather than the posters. I'm to embrace all comments.

Smile
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