To tell DH he's not on a sodding low carb diet

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DH is a bit funny about food. In that he likes to do the shopping and decide what we eat.

He'll ask us but if 'he doesn't fancy it' he'll decide we're having something else.

This involves sometimes daily trips that the supermarket.

What annoys me is that he keeps pretending he's on a low carb diet. He's not. He eats crisps, bread, chips, whatever he fancies. Whenever I go to the supermarket or suggest dinner he'll complain that I am sabotaging his diet.

Tonight texted me at work to ask if I wanted him to get dinner. I said yes. DH has taken DS to training but didn't have time to go shopping.

I've said fine, I'll rustle everyone up some pasta for everyone to be ready when they get back.

DH has said no, because of his low carb diet. So he's planning to go shopping when training has finished.

It's a weird control thing.

I'm fucking starving! It will be at least an hour before we eat.

Just make something for you and DS. DH can make his own if he's that bothered

Make yourself pasta. He can sort himself out.

(But yes, it would piss me off of he was saying this sort of thing but eating carbs when it suited him.)

You sound like you need to eat separately.

But surely whoever goes to the shop gets the family shop?

What would happen if you just completely disconnected?

Start saying "well you weren't on a low carbon diet when you ate that toast earlier." Or "well me and DS aren't so you can make yourself something different if you want."

I think in your situation I would be asking him to prepare his own low carb meals and stop dictating what/when the rest of the family eats. Does he think he’s the only person in the house who needs to eat? If he doesn’t want what the rest of you are having he can jolly well sort himself out.

Good god woman, go get yourself some dinner!
He's a grown ass man, he's so specific then he can make his own meals!

You’re a lot more tolerant than me. If he moaned my suggestion didn’t work as he is low carb I would say ‘well you weren’t when you ate those crisps earlier, toast this morning or chips yesterday so it’s pasta or you sort yourself out’.

@AcornAutumn

You sound like you need to eat separately.

But surely whoever goes to the shop gets the family shop?

He won't shop for more than a couple of days at a time. Sometimes will just buy one meal.

Also, what a huge waste of time, energy and money to go to the shop so frequently!

My text back would be
“Ok no probs, I’ll make enough for me and the kids, DS can have his when you get home. You can pick up what you’d fancy from the shops, see you later x

Why would you sit there starving.

You’ve openly said your husband is trying to control what everyone eats.

That shit wouldn’t fly in this house, we agree what we fancy or we just make our own. My DP has certain dietary requirements and if he doesn’t want what I fancy then we just rustle up our own plates but still eat together.

Couldn’t be arsed with someone who didn’t see a problem with behaving like this

'Well I fancy pasta tonight. You're welcome to have something else after you've been shopping'

If he is insisting he is on a low carb diet write a list of all carb things he likes ( crisps , bread etc ) and show it to him , tell him he can not eat any of them , or at least only a very limited amount ,
Then every time he eats some of them very casually ask him id he is on a rest day from the diet .
In the mean while cook yourself something that you fancy that is carb heavy and tell him you dont want to spoil his diet

DH has said no, because of his low carb diet. So he's planning to go shopping when training has finished

“DH I’m starving and the DC will be too, so please drop the DC at home before you go to the supermarket. We will have the pasta I’m making, and you can cook yourself whatever you want”.

That would not work with me.

I'll admit I am a bit on the controlling side when it comes to what we eat but it's mega-inefficient and a risk at the moment all the trips to the supermarket.

OP based on your reply to me, he shops and cooks for himself. Can he be trusted to cook for DC? If he can't then he's not fit to parent.

Take alternate days or halve the week for cooking DC food?

Tell him to do his own shopping and you will do yours and your sons. Regain some control.

Maybe get a supermarket delivery and tell him that he can cook his own 'low carb' meals.

What would he do if you cooked pasta for everyone but him?

He fancies a checkout woman at the supermarket..

Why would you sit there hungry? Just make yourself your own dinner.

@AcornAutumn

OP based on your reply to me, he shops and cooks for himself. Can he be trusted to cook for DC? If he can't then he's not fit to parent.

Take alternate days or halve the week for cooking DC food?

Sorry, I meant one evening's meal.

The ridiculous thing is he gets annoyed if DS wants something different and says he's fussy.

I've tried pointing out that HE'S the fussy one.

It's weird.

Just cook for the rest of the family and leave him to it

Just leave him to it OP. Just make your own and the kids dinners and leave him to make his own meals if he doesn’t want what you’re all having or wants something specific, whether that’s high carb, low carb, no carb or fictional carb

Start cooking for the rest of the family, let him sort himself.
He's being controlling or has some weird supermarket fetish.