To tell DH he's not on a sodding low carb diet

[puginamug]

DH is a bit funny about food. In that he likes to do the shopping and decide what we eat.

He'll ask us but if 'he doesn't fancy it' he'll decide we're having something else.

This involves sometimes daily trips that the supermarket.

What annoys me is that he keeps pretending he's on a low carb diet. He's not. He eats crisps, bread, chips, whatever he fancies. Whenever I go to the supermarket or suggest dinner he'll complain that I am sabotaging his diet.

Tonight texted me at work to ask if I wanted him to get dinner. I said yes. DH has taken DS to training but didn't have time to go shopping.

I've said fine, I'll rustle everyone up some pasta for everyone to be ready when they get back.

DH has said no, because of his low carb diet. So he's planning to go shopping when training has finished.

It's a weird control thing.

I'm fucking starving! It will be at least an hour before we eat.

Meal plans
Shopping lists
He plans and cooks his own meals.
If he won't share the shopping he can plan, shop and cook separately.

No, it isn't weird. It is absolutely typical manipulative behavior, and he will continue it until you put your foot down and keep it down. Tell him, that although you will not adjust an entire family's eating habits to accommodate his diet, you will give him all the support you can. Then start calling him on his "cheating." "DH, darling, those crisps are NOT 'low carb.' Mind your diet!"

I will tell you that if you are successful in this, he will almost certainly try controlling in a different area, if he isn't subtlely doing that already.

Your head must explode. I’d explode at him for calling ds fussy - I’d tell him if that ever happens again every ‘diet’ meal he buys is going in the bin for a week, he eats carbs half the time so there’s no dietary need it’s just plain fussy and he’s setting a terrible example and I can’t just stand your bloody hypocrisy for one second longer.

You really do nerd to take back control - let him sort out his own low carb chip sarnies with a side of rice.

If you're struggling to get to the shop, any reason why you can't shop online? They're pretty much back to normal, for now.

Get an online delivery sorted. You do week meals (and therefore get to eat something suitable when you are hungry) and dh takes control of the w/ends. (Though I think you might still need some stock-cupboard items in case of a repeat of last night's experience.)

I'm chuckling with recognition at all the stories of men who have their heads in the sands about their diet. It reminds me of my late dad, who would claim in all innocence that he didn't have much of a sweet tooth. Yet there was a nightly rummaging in the cupboard for a packet of biscuits, and often he'd scoff half the packet in one go! When presented with the evidence, he'd deny that it was a regular occurrence, despite us seeing him do it nightly. All in good humour though, and I wouldn't go as far as some PPs in extrapolating all sorts of deeper problems from this.

If you can, show him these results. He sounds like he has a problem, and you must do something to preserve some control. His behaviour doesn’t sound normal- unless he has an ulterior motive?

He really does. He's not stupid.

He just uses it as an excuse to eat what he likes.

Like avoiding any vegetables?