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To tell DH he's not on a sodding low carb diet

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puginamug · 15/04/2021 19:35

DH is a bit funny about food. In that he likes to do the shopping and decide what we eat.

He'll ask us but if 'he doesn't fancy it' he'll decide we're having something else.

This involves sometimes daily trips that the supermarket.

What annoys me is that he keeps pretending he's on a low carb diet. He's not. He eats crisps, bread, chips, whatever he fancies. Whenever I go to the supermarket or suggest dinner he'll complain that I am sabotaging his diet.

Tonight texted me at work to ask if I wanted him to get dinner. I said yes. DH has taken DS to training but didn't have time to go shopping.

I've said fine, I'll rustle everyone up some pasta for everyone to be ready when they get back.

DH has said no, because of his low carb diet. So he's planning to go shopping when training has finished.

It's a weird control thing.

I'm fucking starving! It will be at least an hour before we eat.

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oohyoudevilyou · 15/04/2021 20:39

DH tries this trick....he doesn't eat a low carb diet - he just likes meat! He starts stropping when I'm doing jacket potatoes with cheese and beans, omelettes or pasta. Twat.

LockdownCheeseToastie · 15/04/2021 20:41

Sod that- cook for you and the kids and let him sort himself out from his own money esp if his ‘low carb’ means lots of treats for him.

Longdistance · 15/04/2021 20:41

If he doesn’t like the offerings, don’t include him in dinner. There’s no menu as it’s not a fucking restaurant.

KindleRemote · 15/04/2021 20:42

@user1470132907

Just cook for the rest of the family and leave him to it
This.

You shop and cook for you and the kids. If he doesn't like it he knows where the nearest dominos supermarket is.

My DH is like this. I'm doing VLCD at the moment. He's going to do with me but not on weekends. Will be interesting to see how much weight he doesnt lose

Unanananana · 15/04/2021 20:45

Who the fuck is he to dictate what and when you eat?? What is he going to do if you feed yourself?

Feed yourself and the DC and let him sort his own food out. Like fuck would I be waiting on him to deign to feed me something he chooses. And going to the supermarket daily is just beyond ridiculous, even in non covid times. How does he even have the time?

Its all just so ridiculous sounding.

JeanClaudeVanDammit · 15/04/2021 20:47

Leave him to it. My DH gets like this sometimes. He claims to be avoiding carbs but that seems to just mean pasta and potatoes. Biscuits don’t count, apparently.

Neonprint · 15/04/2021 20:47

Oh god he sounds really controlling and hard work!

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puginamug · 15/04/2021 20:50

I think lockdown has made it weird.

So I used to do the midweek meal plans because he was at work, and he would sort out food for the weekend as he enjoys shopping.

I'm planning on wrestling back control when school holidays are over.

Oh, and he's just announced that tomorrow he's cooking burger and chips!

Utterly baffling.

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doctorhamster · 15/04/2021 20:53

My DH is like this. I'm doing VLCD at the moment. He's going to do with me but not on weekends. Will be interesting to see how much weight he doesnt lose

No doubt the weight will fall off him. Men are fucking irritating like that.

Tartyflette · 15/04/2021 20:54

Burger and chips -- double carbs!
He really has no idea, does he?

HelloDulling · 15/04/2021 20:54

When you cook, plate up his minus the carbs. Curry/chilli no rice; pasta sauce; tuna no jacket; stir fry no noodles.

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puginamug · 15/04/2021 20:55

@Tartyflette

Burger and chips -- double carbs! He really has no idea, does he?
He really does. He's not stupid.

He just uses it as an excuse to eat what he likes.

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ConnieCaterpillar70 · 15/04/2021 20:55

I'm vegetarian, and DD is mostly veggie too. So I tend to cook a veggie main with some sort of meat to accompany it for the meat eaters.

Every so often though I won't bother with the meat side and DH looks most put out....... and he gets the same reply every time that he's welcome to sort himself out and that I'm not his personal chef.

Redburnett · 15/04/2021 20:57

I thought all diets were like that... trying to do low carb or low calorie or 16:8 or whatever but never quite having the will power to do it consistently.
If this was a reverse.....

Sillysandy · 15/04/2021 20:58

My DP will inform me he is fasting AS he is putting food into his mouth. When I tell him he isn't he says "but this is fruit / nuts". I find it intensely annoying.

RhubarbTea · 15/04/2021 21:01

He sounds both controlling and deeply irritating. Does he have other redeeming features?

WhereYouLeftIt · 15/04/2021 21:03

"He'll ask us but if 'he doesn't fancy it' he'll decide we're having something else."

Why are you putting up with this? You've already correctly seen that he's not on a low-carb diet even though he says he is. Now see the rest. He decides what everyone eats. He'll even tease you with the illusion that you might be able to eat what you want by asking you, but, blow me down, he doesn't fancy it and you're eating what he wants you to eat.

What do I want you to see from this? I want you to see that your husband is being a controlling arse, and you can say no to that shit. He wants to shop daily for his carby-no-carbs, fine; you shop for you and the children and cook what you and the children want. Leave him to it - but you don't have to dance to his ridiculous tune.

ohgenome · 15/04/2021 21:06

"Why are you putting up with this? You've already correctly seen that he's not on a low-carb diet even though he says he is. Now see the rest. He decides what everyone eats. He'll even tease you with the illusion that you might be able to eat what you want by asking you, but, blow me down, he doesn't fancy it and you're eating what he wants you to eat.

What do I want you to see from this? I want you to see that your husband is being a controlling arse, and you can say no to that shit. He wants to shop daily for his carby-no-carbs, fine; you shop for you and the children and cook what you and the children want. Leave him to it - but you don't have to dance to his ridiculous tune."

Sums it up really !

Purpleweeks · 15/04/2021 21:06

He's unreasonable in 3 counts
1 Dictating what everyone else eats
2 Going shopping daily
3 Claiming to be on a low carb diet

GlutenFreeGingerCake · 15/04/2021 21:08

My DH is your classic meat and 2 veg man, he eats a piece of meat, grilled chicken, chop, sausage or roast beef, boiled or roast potatoes and boiled vegetables with gravy every day it's soo boring but he loves it and I guess it's reasonably healthy. My dd and I have to have a bit of variety so I do us separate meals when we want. DH works shifts so it's actually better for us to eat separately quite often anyway but even if we eat together I do us different food if we fancy it. DH often does the shopping but I just make a list, he is a bit annoying about picking the right spices and things so I try to get those myself.

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puginamug · 15/04/2021 21:09

You are of course right.

He does have lots of redeeming features. Things have been very tough for us recently and I think a lot of this is his coping mechanism so I'm willing to give him a bit of leeway.

I've also struggled with being able to go to the supermarket so am pleased he's been willing to go (although not so often).

But you are right, I need to redress the balance.

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CandyLeBonBon · 15/04/2021 21:12

He sounds like a twat op!

OnTheHuntForAHome · 15/04/2021 21:13

Is he controlling about anything else?

Unanananana · 15/04/2021 21:14

I bet he is a spoony fucker as well.

His redeeming features best be big ones. Because he sounds like a controlling twat.

ImpatiensI · 15/04/2021 21:18

His redeeming features best be big ones. Because he sounds like a controlling twat

Spot on. No idea why anyone would put up with this.

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