Would you trust someone with these convictions?
goodbyeyellowbrick · 15/04/2021 14:17
Would you trust a female who at age 17 got these two convictions -
- breach of the peace domestic
- assault to injury domestic
And then at 19 got these two convictions -
- communications act domestic
- drink driving
Would you trust her? She is 30 now and has had no issues with the law since and has seemed to turn her life around. Would you still think she was the same person though inherently?
AOwlAOwlAOwl · 15/04/2021 14:23
Breach of the peace isn't something you can be convicted for. Do you mean a public order offence? Neither is assault to injury. Do you mean common assault? GBH? ABH?
Aside from you being very vague about the actual convictions I think enough time has passed to say that these are not relevant on a personal level. Jobs are a different matter potentially.
Natty13 · 15/04/2021 14:28
Plenty people had rough childhoods/early adult years and turn their lives around. People deserve benefit of the doubt and the chance to move on.
Loads of youth workers for charities helping young kids get away from gangs and knife crime have convictions from their younger days themselves. They have chosen to dedicate their lives to helping children but would you not trust them for decade old convictions?
AryaStarkWolf · 15/04/2021 14:29
Plus they weren't much more than kids, 19 is so young really
ddl1 · 15/04/2021 14:30
In general, I would think that they were a reformed character. It would depend on exactly what the offences were (e.g. how serious the assault was). Also, it seems quite likely, reading between the lines, that she had a serious drink problem in her youth, but conquered it.
If it's for a job, I would, however, be more active in seeking recent references than I would for someone who has no criminal record.
paralysedbyinertia · 15/04/2021 14:30
Trust her with what, exactly?
I certainly wouldn't assume that someone can't be trusted because of previous convictions when they were much younger. People make mistakes, go through difficult experiences etc.
Is this you, OP? If so, maybe time to stop judging yourself and put the past behind you?
purpleboy · 15/04/2021 14:33
The convictions were a long time ago, relating to a toxic relationship, if she has shown that she can have healthy relationships then there is no reason to think she hasn't changed, and it won't stay this way.
But most people love to write off anyone with a criminal conviction instantly. Although many times they don't even know someone in their life has a criminal conviction!
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