To be having a (secret) stand-off with DH over an empty shampoo bottle?

[Cheekyweegobshite]

Over the years it has become apparent that removing empty bottles of shampoo, shower gel, toothpaste packaging etc from the bathroom is 'my job'.

We finished a bottle of shampoo last Saturday and I duly removed it from the shower and placed it on the bathroom counter to take down to the recycling. Then I thought sod it and I left it there to see how long it would take DH to notice it.

It's still there. In the last day or two I've started moving it around - I put it in the sink, he duly removed it and put it back by the sink. I put it on 'his' side of the counter yesterday, he moved it back to the sink. I put it on the floor, he picked it up and put it by the sink.

Why doesn't he just take it downstairs to the bin???

Take a sharpie and draw a face on it and little waving hands.

We have a stand off over me putting things in the bin! DP likes to cut the tubes/bottles in half and use every last tiny bit!!

Are you my wife?
There's a bottle that's now back on the windowsill.

@Cheekyweegobshite Jaysus, what is he 11? Ffs. Get you’re own shampoo, toothpaste, shower gel, don’t share it, then let him figure out where to get his own and how to recycle stuff. He’s setting a shit example to your kids. Oh and you probably need a bottle of gin or two to cope with this child man 🙄

Me and my oh use different shampoo and he never removes his from the shower, drives me potty to see he has one full one and an empty one hogging space.

www.scarymommy.com/mom-creates-art-exhibit-out-of-sock/

A mum created an art exhibit of an abandoned sock.

My husband is the same..just not on his radar.Overflowing bins..empty bottles..toilet rolls..empty.The list goes on.I think he thinks its my job...must be a man thing...

Every now and then DH slips into sloth mode. So, in return, I remind him that I'm not his maid by hiding all his shit under the duvet on his side of the bed. There's nothing more hilarious than watch him slide into bed and seeing the confused look on his face as he realises that all the shit I've been asking him to pack away has found a home at last 🤣🤣🤣

You think that's bad my sisters husband used to throw empty bottles and rubbish out of the window into the garden so she could then dutifully pick up and bin. (Might I add ex husband )

My mischievous (has had a glass of Friday Prosecco!) side says “never give in”! Good luck and keep us posted.
This kind of thing p’s me off too!

We have the 'jars and tins left by the sink waiting to be washed' out problem. Like I am the only one who can wash a jar out because I'm a woman.

Read some of these out to DH in the hope he recognises that he does these things and think oh that must pass her off but no...he said, to every single one I read out...thats just weird, why wouldn't you just put it in the bin, put the washing away etc.

No clue

Haha good luck, I went 2 months once and ended up blowing my lid before he even noticed.

I’ve done the silent stand off so many times, I loose every time. I once lined all the recycling around the waste bin in the bathroom. He actually emptied the bin and put it back in the middle of the recycling 2 weeks in a row. It’s his job to go around all the bins in the house before putting the big bins out, it took me 2 years to train him on this. When I asked why he did it, his response as with everything else was, o I didn’t see them 🤬

It’s sexism.
It’s your job as far as he’s concerned.
He sees you as staff.
You’re not equal. You are his wench.

I once got to 6 empty loo rolls then mentioned it to my dh. He said he knew I’d left them deliberately and wanted to see if I’d crack first. I didn’t.

My husband does exactly the same, so I now fill them up with water or something non shampoo based. So far he has washed his hair four times with just a bottle of water, twice with hand cream and the only time he has said bathing is when his "head and shoulders" shampoo left his hand blue and part of his face and tinted his haur, because I'd mixed hand wash and blue hair dye to simulate the shampoo. He still believes it's a fault from head and shoulders and still leaves empty bottles that get refilled. Next on my list is a hair removal cream.

@MonsteraMother

Every now and then DH slips into sloth mode. So, in return, I remind him that I'm not his maid by hiding all his shit under the duvet on his side of the bed. There's nothing more hilarious than watch him slide into bed and seeing the confused look on his face as he realises that all the shit I've been asking him to pack away has found a home at last 🤣🤣🤣

Go for it!

@MissKeithsNeice

I leave empty bottles in bathroom. Its not cause I think DH is lesser its not aome crazy power play in which I exert dominance over him. Having an empty bottle in the bathroom just isn't a big deal to me. Whoever next tidies/cleans bathroom will sort it then.

This! 100%

Love this, OP I've had a similar standoff over lockdown (cleaning the downstairs loo; I didn't do it, waited to see how long he'd let it be absolutely disgusting before he cleaned it. I mention lockdown because it made it easy to do, otherwise I'd be shamed into it because other non household humans would see it)

Anyway, just wanted to say I approve of this and look forward to hearing about you incorporating this shampoo bottle into your Christmas decorations

Same issue here. It also extends to toilet roll cardboard, the bins are a particular bugbear. We both work 12 hrs shifts. He does 5 more and he honestly believes that his job is more stressful despite the fact many aspects are similar. I could do 3 in a row and he's still taking clean dishes from the dishwasher and piling the dirty in the sink, he knows that as he's in work the next day I'll have to clean it all up.

Put it in his pants drawer and wait for his reaction

Put it under the bottom sheet on his side of the bed, right where he would like on it.

...or even in his lunch box instead of lunch or the bag he takes to work or the driver's seat of his car.
Make it pop up everywhere. Draw a smiley face on a circle of paper and tape it to the front of the bottle with the words 'ME AGAIN' .

Men are odd with this stuff, they just don't see things like us women do. My Dh steps over items I've next in the stairs that feed taking up like a loo roll or bee toothpaste from the shops, I mean just carry it up with you 😣

In the end, we teach people how to treat us. And I've been as guilty of that as anyone. You've always done it without questioning, so the lesson has been that you will continue to do it. Sometimes those non-verbal lessons we teach require verbal new lessons to overcome. Tape a note to the shampoo bottle saying, "PITCH THIS! It actually is NOT "My Job. Thanks."