To be having a (secret) stand-off with DH over an empty shampoo bottle?

[Cheekyweegobshite]

Over the years it has become apparent that removing empty bottles of shampoo, shower gel, toothpaste packaging etc from the bathroom is 'my job'.

We finished a bottle of shampoo last Saturday and I duly removed it from the shower and placed it on the bathroom counter to take down to the recycling. Then I thought sod it and I left it there to see how long it would take DH to notice it.

It's still there. In the last day or two I've started moving it around - I put it in the sink, he duly removed it and put it back by the sink. I put it on 'his' side of the counter yesterday, he moved it back to the sink. I put it on the floor, he picked it up and put it by the sink.

Why doesn't he just take it downstairs to the bin???

[whenthebellsring]

Oh goodness! My post was meant to say

[WhySoSensitive]

Over a few weeks I stacked every empty toilet roll tube in the windowsill... I had a full Egyptian damn pyramid before I gave up and got rid of them myself.
I asked him why he never bothered to put rubbish in the bin and it was always me and he said.... he didn’t see it. 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

[NewlyGranny]

I do a nice line in miniature crime scene tape and POLICE AWARE signs for abandoned toilet roll tubes, discarded tissues and size 11 shoes in traffic areas...

[papaver]

Mine would never use the last of something - perhaps that was his way of avoiding getting rid of the empty container. So his shampoo, cereal etc if I put a new one anywhere within sight he would start on it before the old one was finished. I so do not miss him😁

[clpsmum]

Hahahahaha I love you. Please find more and more random places to move it to, his car? His bag? Up the sleeve of his jacket?

Men and children, in my experience, are lazy selfish prays they expect t to be waited on

[ChiefBabySniffer]

@LaurieSchafferIsAllBitterNow

I raise you 17 toilet roll tubes stacked up around and ONTOP off the toilet bin. That's how many it took for me to crack and remove them. But I then solved it by taking all the full toilet rolls. I made the people in my house come and request toilet roll from me in writing and then doled out their sheet allowance. Took a week and no more toilet roll tubes in the floor!

[Pyewackect]

We have a bin in each of the bathrooms. All used bottles and general detritus goes in there. The housekeeper empties the bins. Sorted.

[HairdresserTara]

Life’s too short for petty arguments. Just put it in the bin yourself and be done with it.

[LovelyLovelyWarmCoffee]

We a toothpaste standoff but truly lighthearted as we are both aware that it is happening.
Basically we both don’t want to be the one having to replace the toothpaste tube so we both do our best to scrape some out of the old tube to make it last as much as possible. It can take days, we end up cutting the tube open for better access etc.

It started with me being annoyed that I was always the one replacing it but now it really is funny.

[poundoflard]

I feel everyone's pain , it's the same here.
We have 2 bathrooms. The one used by the men in this house is known for being a burial ground for empty things. I last saw 12 old toothbrushes, 4 shower gels, endless loo rolls a washing basket with items plonked around but not in it.
I rarely go in and leave new items outside, (clean towels, loo rolls etc) that they merrily step over and leave in the doorway.
I did say I left a face flannel on the landing for over a week to see if anyone moved it. They just stepped over it and said why didnt you move it then?
Pigs. I live with pigs.

[poundoflard]

Oh and one my dd gathered up all the "empties" and we continued to use the last dregs for a month! The males cannot even be bothered to squeeze the last inch or so out of the bottles/ tubes.
Stinky lazy pigs.

[Raindancer411]

We have a toilet roll tower on the back of the cistern!!

[Ishoos]

@MyVisionsComeFromSoup

I left an empty shampoo bottle on the corner of the bath last summer when I left H (by mistake, I wasn't being lazy or a bitch), it's still there by all accounts, 9 months later . I'm going to have to come up with a reason to go back and actually check now, aren't I?

You left him by mistake? 😂

[Skateosaurus]

I’m really sorry to tell you OP, but although he moves it, he probably doesn’t ‘see’ it.
The reason I know, is because this is me in my relationship. DH has tried to ‘test’ me a thousand times over our 11 year relationship and I’ve just not noticed! It’s a constant source of annoyance for him, and I do really try, it just slips my mind somehow. I feel crap about it, and I feel a failure as a woman because despite my feminism I feel I’m supposed to be good at this shit, but I’m just not. The tidying just overwhelms me. Should also point out that it’s not DH making me feel crap, that’s all in my own head.

The really dumb thing is that I love a tidy house! However, I am somehow incapable of actually making it happen. We did get round it by having a cleaner pre lockdown, but I lost my job, and now can’t afford one.

[rubydoobydoo]

I had an ongoing stand off with my DH regarding him buying new bottles of things (shampoo and ketchup being the main culprits) and opening the new one before the old one was finished.
I used to empty the dregs of the old one into the new one until one day I had enough and just stopped, hoping he would notice and see the error of his ways.

No. Bottles about a quarter full just started building up and up and he NEVER EVEN NOTICED!

Until I lined them all up together in the kitchen one day - he's got a bit better with the sauce these days but the shampoo has started to build back up again. I'm not touching it!

[StripedLeopard]

Mine leaves the loo roll tubes on top of the loo or on the windowledge. Drives me nuts

It’s like the episode of Everybody Loves Raymond where Ray and Debra are arguing over who will move the suitcase.

[Thisgirlcando]

We have this! We use different stuff though so fits his bottles. There are three of the hanging radox bottles empty on the floor of our shower. I used to move them, then I used to open the shower door and leave them on the floor outside, now I hang them back up in the way of his current bottle!

[easterndreaming]

Does he mind it being there though? That's the point. If he complains to you about it, he is clearly in the wrong, otherwise he may prefer to wait till the situation becomes more evident, ie there being more than one, etc. I personally find organising everything immediately draining, I can't keep it up all the time, but I try to do it the best I can with it, to contribute to the well being of home/family. I think that as long as everyone contributes their time, in one way or another, you should respect each other's way of living. If you can't, because either one of you is too extreme, well then it needs addressing further

[IstandwithJackieWeaver]

This kind of thing drives me nuts. DP said to me yesterday that I hadn't bought any marmalade and we'd run out. I do the shopping and I did buy some more, as asked, two weeks ago. It's in the pantry. I even showed it to him when I unpacked the shopping and he knows unopened stuff is in the pantry.

He leaves jars/bottles/packets in the cupboard or fridge when he thinks they are empty or past their use by date. This is infuriating beyond belief.

The not-quite-empty-but-he-can't-be-arsed-to-scrape-it-out previous jar of marmalade is still in the cupboard. So I said to him he needs to deal with the empty jar then go and get the new jar.

Honestly I know five year olds with more commonsense.

[JudgeJ]

@SuitableJobForaWoman

Because he has a slave who does such things.

He's probably thinking that two can play this stroppy childish game!

[ifonly4]

It's empty toilet rolls here, left on the cistern. Sometimes they are thrown down the stairs, but I suspect that's usually the point that the cat can't get on the cistern (which he does) without knocking them everywhere.

[endofmytether26]

In addition to my previous post - yes yes yes to the opening new packets of stuff before using the old ones up. I really don't get it? Do they do it to deliberately to annoy us or are they really so uncaring it doesn't bother them as to how utterly infuriating this is. I've just been hanging up clothes, kicking dirty pants into the laundry basket area, removing rolled up socks from the sofa and generally swearing and seething as I go around my house. If I don't do it it won't get done and I cannot live like that. I've left all the mess for a few days, have asked nicely, screamed, shouted and even pleaded with him to just try and do simple tasks but no - nothing changes. I know that this thread is lighthearted and it makes me feel a bit better to know that other people's DH are just as bad but it's got to a stage where it's just downright laziness and not remotely funny anymore. Can you tell I've had enough 😂😂😂😂!!

[IstandwithJackieWeaver]

DP also does things like leaves his shoes in the living room because he's going to put them on again tomorrow. Lo and behold, tomorrow comes and he can't find them so asks me if I've seen them . The answer is "where you left them". Then 50% of the time, depending on what is easiest or quickest for him, he doesn't bother looking for them or going to get them and puts different ones on.

[CeeceeBloomingdale]

We have our own preferred toiletries therefore it’s obvious that it’s his problem to deal with when his runs out. Toilet roll tubes on the other hand...🙄

[LadyJaye]

I would start putting it in unexpected places, such as tucked up under the duvet on his side of the bed, sitting in one of his shoes, hiding in his wardrobe etc.

What would make this even better would be if you could get some googly eyes for it? Really give it a personality. Maybe start sending him texts /WhatsApps 'from the shampoo'.

As I always say, if you're going to be passive aggressive, get as much fun out of it as you can.