To have pomped my horn?

[Friedmushroom]

Will try and keep this quick but I’m so annoyed by the car park stand off I’ve just had that I need to know AIBU?

So, I’ve just been parked up in a dark car park, in a dark coloured car, no lights on. Another car pulls up and starts to reverse into the space right next to me, which is a disabled spot so huuuuge, and with plenty of other spaces around. Car reverses at a funny angle, at speed, and VERY close to my car, so close both passenger and me think it’s going to make contact.

I pomp my horn, car keeps coming so I lean on horn. Driver peers round at me shouting and gesticulating. She finishes parking (with me and passenger both wincing), winds window down and starts having a go.

Apparently I’m BU to have pomped as she has reversing cameras so knew I was there. My stand point is; you were literally an inch away from my car (when there’s two whole empty spaces to play with), I don’t know you have cameras, I was warning you that I was there. Car accidents happen every single day so I was making sure you didn’t hit me. She thought this was a ridiculous point and can obviously drive properly as she has passed her test , “people wouldn’t pass their test if they didn’t know how to park”.

I’m so annoyed by her attitude, but she clearly thought I was completely ridiculous. I think it would have been ridiculous for me to have sat in my car and just allowed her to reverse into it. So Mumsnet, AIBU?

[Bornlazy]

YANBU and the alarm sensors in her car must have been going crazy if she was that close to you. Assuming she had them along with her reversing cameras.

On the other issue... surely it's pumped the horn

[SavingsQuestions]

Bib bib or bibbed sounds equally odd to me and my accent. It really would be beeped and a p not a b!

[Queenoftheashes]

It’s Schroedinger’s pomp as you’ll never know whether it was really needed as you pomped before you got bumped.

[JinglingHellsBells]

Noddy used to 'parp' his horn (if you ever read the books.)
Parp parp!

Other people beep, toot, or maybe blast, if necessary.

But no, you were very reasonable.

[denverRegina]

Mate, I'm in Lancashire - no pomping 😂

[treeeeemendous]

YABU someone did this to me recently when I was reversing into a space and I was more likely to hit their car from them making me jump with the noise of the horn.

I too may have shouted about cameras and sensors when I got out. I had plenty of distance.

[firthy85]

YANBU OP. you thought she was going to hit you so you blasted the horn at her to warn her. she sounds like a total feckwit. quite shocking actually how many shunts happen in car parks. it seems that people take a driving test then once they pass it totally hang up their brains

[VienneseWhirligig]

It's bib here for a quick notification of arrival when picking someone up, or beep for alerting another driver of presence (or expressing dismay or anger). DS refers to it as "giving them the horn" in the same vein as "giving them the finger".

[LaLaLandIsNoFun]

Jumping on the bandwagon

YABVU for ‘pomped’

[nannybeach]

I had this situation in reverse. Morrisons car park reversing into a space, (yes, I do have parking sensors) I also passed my test with a Police examiner. Am reversing into a space, woman behind is screaming,shouting,beeping her horn, waving her arms in a go away gesture. Had young GD in the car. I parked opposite, her vehicle was actualy not in a space between the lines, signs up saying you must park in the marked bays.She was sitting eating, window down, as I walked past I said very politely, that she didn't need to worry because I had parking sensors, I was actually about a mtr from her car when she started up. She said how was she supposed to know. Then the bloke came out from the passenger seat, right in my face, swearing, told me in no uncertain terms I was being agressive, and if I didn't fuck off, he was calling the Police. Was tempted to say, go right ahead,but my GD was absolutely terrified, and after finnishing the shop, she didn't want to go into the car park.

[Blueuggboots]

"Pipped" if it's a quick noise, "honked" or "parped" if longer.
YANBU

[Mellonsprite]

I’m from Lancs too (waves at OP ) and I’ve never heard the word pomped. I’ve heard of pipping your horn at someone, or beeping.
I don’t think you were too unreasonable but maybe leaning in your horn was a bit to aggressive!
I’ve had the same though in a hospital car park and she got out and started to shout at me for beeping, so I got out too and we ended up with a toe to toe row 🙈

[Bearnecessity]

Loving the pomp here....

[Bearnecessity]

Parped...😂

[Phrowzunn]

I’m in Scotland and we say ‘pomped’ and ‘pomp’ in place of ‘farted’ and ‘fart’ with our children. That’s what my mum did when we were growing up and it has just stuck.
As in ‘did you just pomp?’ or ‘who’s pomping?’
But I’ll admit I know it’s weird and I clicked on this thread specifically to read all the comments about the OP’s use of the word 😂

[Phrowzunn]

I would say ‘beeped my horn at her’

[Nannewnannew]

It’s hard to comment as obviously we weren’t there and peoples ideas of being too close can be very subjective.
Are you normally a nervous driver? My SIL is, and has poor spatial awareness, and will sometimes gasp when I’m pulling up behind people or put on her ‘imaginary brakes!’ 😂 She also gasped when pulling up outside her house behind a parked car and when we got out there was about 8foot distance from the car.

[Glitterblue]

Pomped 😂

[GhoulWithADragonTattoo]

YANBU she should have been grateful for politely letting her know you were there. That’s what the horn is for.

[Oneeyeopen]

I was very grateful when the elderly neighbour opposite beeped her horn as I reversed out of our drive.
She is obviously a more careful driver than me because I hadn't even noticed that she too was reversing.

[QueenPaw]

I'm amazed so many people haven't heard of pomped I am in Lancashire though...

[peridito]

Another here for the pomping ,has made me laugh !

Is there an emoji?

Seriously - first use of horn ,fine ,leaning on horn ,not fine .

Could we have more detail on "one thing led to another" in the dark car in the dark car park....

[PussGirl]

I once reversed into a woman who had parked across the road from me (on yellow lines) while I reversed out of a drive at a funny angle (uphill so I couldn't see her at all) in the days before reversing sensors / cameras. She wasn't there when I got into the car & started to move.

I crunched slowly into her driver's door & leapt out, horrified.

"I could see you were going to hit me!"

"Why didn't you blow your horn????"

"Er..."

FFS

[RolloTomassi]

Love pomped!!! I say pipped, beeped or horned (that one probs comes up on the same google searches as Pomped!)

To your question I think the first Pomp was fine, leaning on it must have seemed pretty aggressive. But much better than being hit if she HAD been unaware!

[QueenPaw]

From Preston police...