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AIBU to be annoyed by message about washing my car

430 replies

21summers · 13/04/2021 13:42

Neighbour has sent me a (second) message asking us when we’re going to wash our car. We ignored the first message.

It’s not muddy or dirty. The alloys are still silver. It’s just dusty because car washes have been closed for months. They’re good neighbours otherwise. AIBU to be irritated and to think I can decide when I want to wash my own car that’s doing nothing to them except sitting outside on the public road (and it’s not parked in front of their house, it’s parked in front of ours).

OP posts:
RampantIvy · 13/04/2021 17:51

I don't understand why you posted your sarcastic remark @Youdontknowwhatyouronabout. Maybe you should read my second post instead of being so snippy Hmm

happinessischocolate · 13/04/2021 17:54

I'd reply "I was going to get it washed tomorrow, but I don't like being nagged so I'm now going to leave it a couple of weeks 😊"

1Morewineplease · 13/04/2021 17:54

Oh my days!
This reminds me of our neighbour who knocked on my door to complain that I needed to mow my lawn as it looked a mess.
I was mortified, particularly as we are keen gardeners, but as I looked at our front lawn, it transpired that she objected to the mass of daisies and a few dandelions.
The grass wasn't even long as it was mainly moss.

Ironic that we are now being told to mow less often.

PrematureConker · 13/04/2021 17:57

I'll come round and draw a cock and balls in the dust if you want?

Just text back saying "no plans".

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 13/04/2021 17:58

Do you live in a naice area like Virginia Water or something? That's the only place I could see why you'd have such snobby neighbours!

RogueV · 13/04/2021 18:04

Da fuck?

rwalker · 13/04/2021 18:08

Seriously there is noway you can ever wash your car again .

DartmoorDoughnut · 13/04/2021 18:09

I’m just following for further batshit neighbour requests

Donotgogentle · 13/04/2021 18:09

Given they’ve messaged twice now I’d respond with a cheery:-

“Hi- yes, it’s a job we’ve got pencilled in for after the summer hols”.

longwayoff · 13/04/2021 18:10

Nobody sane behaves like this. Have you upset them? Or misinterpreted what he thinks was a humorous remark? Ignore it.

longwayoff · 13/04/2021 18:23

In the days when there were still daily milk deliveries, the local one parked his milk float outside my house and buggered off for a couple of hours. After an hour or so, indignant next door neighbour at my door "Have you got the milkman in there?" Angry "Yes, of course I have, we're just waiting for the greengrocer to join us. Do you want to come in too?" Doorslam. I was very cross indeed. His wife must have been embarrassed by the little git as she made him come and apologise to me. I'm still quite cross and this was years ago.

topcat2014 · 13/04/2021 18:24

You're welcome to the bird droppings off my car if it helps!

ArabellaScott · 13/04/2021 18:31

Are you sure your neighbours aren't bob-a-jobbing?

ArabellaScott · 13/04/2021 18:31

@longwayoff

In the days when there were still daily milk deliveries, the local one parked his milk float outside my house and buggered off for a couple of hours. After an hour or so, indignant next door neighbour at my door "Have you got the milkman in there?" Angry "Yes, of course I have, we're just waiting for the greengrocer to join us. Do you want to come in too?" Doorslam. I was very cross indeed. His wife must have been embarrassed by the little git as she made him come and apologise to me. I'm still quite cross and this was years ago.
Grin
louisejxxx · 13/04/2021 18:36

Confused how bizarre!

IntermittentParps · 13/04/2021 18:36

IGNORE. Block (why do they have messaging details anyway?). Don't give it a second more headspace. They just don't have lives, clearly.

pam290358 · 13/04/2021 18:36

Don’t reply, no matter how tempted you are. Once they know you can be goaded they’ll find other things - lawn needs cutting, windows are dirty, tidiness of front garden, have you polished your wheelie bins and swept the highway in front of your house !!! Can’t believe the cheek. If they confront you in person tell them you have no current plans but if it’s getting on their nerves they’re welcome to do it themselves.

UntamedWisteria · 13/04/2021 18:37

tell them you have decided to never wash your car to protect the environment (waste of water & detergent).

In my case it is true!

LondonStone · 13/04/2021 18:38

People lost their fucking minds during lockdown. YANBU.

Tooshytoshine · 13/04/2021 18:38

@1Morewineplease

Oh my days! This reminds me of our neighbour who knocked on my door to complain that I needed to mow my lawn as it looked a mess. I was mortified, particularly as we are keen gardeners, but as I looked at our front lawn, it transpired that she objected to the mass of daisies and a few dandelions. The grass wasn't even long as it was mainly moss.

Ironic that we are now being told to mow less often.

Our neighbours moan if we don't mow our lawn weekly in Summer.

I bought a black car, deliberately, as it shows the dirt less...

maddy68 · 13/04/2021 18:41

I would message back saying "it doesn't bother me ". And leave it at that

iklboo · 13/04/2021 18:41

Tell them you can't as it will anger your gods and last time you did that

maddy68 · 13/04/2021 18:43

I would reply. Simply "not soon"

Cherrysoup · 13/04/2021 18:55

They’ve sent you multi messages about this? I would totally ignore. Bonkers.

Heathcliff27 · 13/04/2021 18:59

@SaltyAF

Write 'if you think my car is dirty you should see my husband' on the boot.

Also @MumsnetHQ this is surely one for classics.

I read that as "you should see my husband In the boot"

Thats sure to shake them up 😂😂😂