AIBU to be annoyed by message about washing my car

[21summers]

Neighbour has sent me a (second) message asking us when we’re going to wash our car. We ignored the first message.

It’s not muddy or dirty. The alloys are still silver. It’s just dusty because car washes have been closed for months. They’re good neighbours otherwise. AIBU to be irritated and to think I can decide when I want to wash my own car that’s doing nothing to them except sitting outside on the public road (and it’s not parked in front of their house, it’s parked in front of ours).

Can you go find somewhere really muddy to drive in to really annoy them?

Only time ours gets washed is if we are incredibly bored and want an activity for DD.

There's been mud inside the front window for years 😂

I had my car washed once. Just before my child was born. For some reason, I wanted her to come home in a valeted car. And then the dog jumped THROUGH the window and millions and millions of pieces of broken glass shattered all over the inside. And I had a little breakdown.

I've never bothered since.

I wish all I had to worry about was the dust on my neighbour's car.

I'm so angry on your behalf. I'd clean it all really nice and then buy these stickers for the windows. www.etsy.com/fr/listing/799456314/feuille-dautocollant-de-vulve-6x4-vullva?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=vagina+stickers&ref=sr_gallery-1-31&from_market_listing_grid_organic=1&frs=1&sca=1

10-year-old car washed once on way to a funeral, so in my post lockdown activity to-do list it won't even reach the bottom of the page.

what other parts of your life do they boss/parent?

@21summers WOW, what a cheeky fucker your neighbour is.

Send THEM a message saying 'how dirty - or clean - my car is has got NOTHING to do with you. Any further contact from you about it will be classed as harassment, and further action will ensue... '

I'd just tell them.they can do it anytime if they are bored.

I can be petty as hell when I want so I wouldn’t be getting it cleaned for quite a while longer if I was in your situation!

I’m also happy to come and park mine next to yours as it’s currently sporting a good few splatters of bird mess from when I parked under a tree the other week.

This is hilarious 😂. What’s your non-car-related relationship with them like??
I would just love to live somewhere with no neighbours in sight. I’ve discovered over the past year that I’m not quite the people person I thought I was

@cunningartificer

I agree don’t reply or you’ll be in a world of pain. They have absolutely no right to ask; it’s nothing to do with them. If they speak to you say you thought it was some odd joke or scam as you couldn’t work out why they would be asking such an intrusive and weird thing.

That’s a good idea, I’ve been wondering what to do/whether I ought to reply.

They can be a little nosey so we keep to an amiable but polite distance.

I recall now they’ve commented about a few other people on the street about minor things, like bins and what have you.

I guess it’s us in the firing line now 🥴

What a pair of idiots. Tell them you'll lend them a sponge and they can do it themselves since its bothering them so much.

@Mrgrinch

"Hi neighbour, I'm not going to wash my car any time soon. You are welcome to wash it if it upsets you so much."

This, they clearly have nothing better to do

What a bloody cheek

I hate people like this. Call them out op. It's none of their business and they are rude for asking.

Obviously Lockdownitis. They're twats.

Surely your car being dirty would make theirs look clean in comparison?

Anyway they sound awful; I'd message back ' When I feel like it. When are you going to stop being tits?'

🤣@askingrandomsonlinemighthelp

Those stickers?! They’d have a coronary!

My car has been washed once in the last two years.

They must be very bored

Wow. If I got a message like that, you can guarantee I would never wash my car again until one of us moved house!

Where do you live? I have never heard such a thing.
Who cares?
I'd march round to their house and tell them to mind their own business.

I thought this was going to be about them complaining about you using a pressure wash and the spray making a mess all over the place.

Message back "car is clean, maybe your windows are dirty? The other neighbours were all talking about it at the BBQ" leave them to ponder what BBQ, which neighbours and how long you have all been chatting about them.

Good job he doesn't live next door to me. The only thing mines had in about a year is a quick rinse on the window to get the bird shit off it before it went for its MOT other than that I haven't washed it I rely on the rain to do that for me. Even the inside only gets cleared out once every few months. I really am a slattern

The cheeky bastards. I had a neighbour ask what had happened 'my nice Honda' (3 years old, in good nick). Said it'd been written off in an accident and her very disapproving response was "Shame. The new one does bring the tone down a bit."

Now, it is a 15 year old shed of a thing I got for free off a relative and no, it's not pretty. But no 'god I hope you weren't hurt' or anything, just "Shame your ugly replacement car is uglying up our lovely suburban street".

I don't wash it on purpose, now. (Also because I am lazy)

Cheeky bastards! Although this does remind me of a story from a friend whose MIL washed her neighbours car in the dead of night as she had someone coming over the next day and wanted them to think she lives in a "naice" area

I'd just reply with I'm not and a big smiley face. You could get hours of entertainment from winding them up, which is much more fun than washing a car. When we first moved into our current house it needed loads of work doing. One batshit neighbour knocked after a fortnight to ask wnhen we were painting the outside and gave us a number for a decorator. She had a looooong wait!

I personally have never washed a car in my entire life and I'm 50, I blame a fear of car washes and general laziness! Once a year when we need it as a family to go to France my DH gets it cleaned and valeted and I have to put with his sarky remarks about the state of it. The stuff they found in the back seat and floor and pockets one year had clearly been there from the previous trip!

So weird. If my neighbours messaged me that, I'd probably try and make a joke of it but say 'Why you are asking me when I'm going to wash my car? (Laughing emoji) Are you offerering to do it for me?'