AIBU about people peeping in garden (pic inc)

[Futuremrs]

I live in a newish estate so appreciate gardens are pretty close together and I can see in my neighbours garden from my upstairs windows.

I share a fence with 2 others. Our ndn and the people at the back. Don’t have a problem with either of them, get on well with ndn and actually work at same place with both ndn and other people we share fence with.

People at the back of our two houses have spent quite a bit of time and money on their garden. They have decking all around the perimeter and have created a sitting area (I think) against the fence we share with them at the back. The decking is quite high, about a foot off the ground.

When they have people over (frequently) they congregate at this seating area but I have noticed whilst most are sitting there is one person constantly standing and it means he can look into our garden (and does) very easily. He doesn’t need to tiptoe or anything. I can look into the back garden and just see a floating head.

I feel a little uncomfortable with this. I have a daughter that in the summer will be out in swimming costumes or pants and T-shirt etc. As does our ndn.

It isn’t the neighbours head I see, it’s someone who doesn’t live there, she has young adult sons and it looks like one of their friends (around 22).

Would I be unreasonable to ask her to ask him to not keep looking in? Should I put something on top of the (6ft) fence to hinder his view or should I just leave it.

I have no problem saying anything just wanted to know if I was being a bit of a dick mentioning it. Like I say it’s not the couple that live there, it’s a guest.

YANBU - say something
YABU - leave it it’s their garden and guests

Put something on the fence.

Or a super soaker.

Nice big tree to block his view ?

Hubby wants to get the hose out every time they are out there

It looks like there is just one smallish area he looks through, so I would block that. No need to say anything.

Add a trellis to the top of the fence and plant a climbing plant of some description

A bit of trellis at the top of that section of fence should solve that issue, especially if you grow a climbing plant up it for extra coverage.

I imagine the seating area has been put in a sunny corner of their garden and they don't currently have enough seats for everyone to sit down at the same time.

I read this as "peeing".

I'd block the view, wouldn't bother saying anything.

I'm with your DH!! A couple of drenching should solve the problem.

Add to the fence and grow a climber of some sort, until it's done just shout can I help you, or trunky want a bun? that'll stop them.

@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants

I'm with your DH!! A couple of drenching should solve the problem.

This is all the encouragement he would need

I will look at a trellis or bamboo type sticks or something

Thanks

Have a look at your local council planning information. I just looked at my local council site, and there are restrictions on decking, including how high off the ground it can be.

Next time he stares start a full blown conversation but ask really prying questions. Do it every time he looks over and stares.

@TurquoiseDragon

Have a look at your local council planning information. I just looked at my local council site, and there are restrictions on decking, including how high off the ground it can be.

I will do thanks. I didn’t think there would be restrictions.

@Camandmitch

Next time he stares start a full blown conversation but ask really prying questions. Do it every time he looks over and stares.

Ha. I might leave my daughter to it. She could talk the hind legs off a donkey

I'd go with trellis and a climbing plant, honeysuckle smells amazing in summer

Am I the only one just thinking, poor guy? He obviously doesn't get a seat and so stands to face the other people who are sitting. Why do you think he's peering in? Why on earth would you soak him? Why are you worried about your child wearing a bathing suit? Do you not take them to a swimming pool/beach?

Bamboo is your solution. We have it all along the back fence and it's an excellent screening plant. It also grows straight up so doesnt over hang the fence on their side and needs very little maintenance

It's so easy to grow something tall there it's not with getting into an awkward conversation about it. Is he really peeping, or is it just that his gaze will sometimes fall in your garden if he's facing that way?

Definitely add a bit of trellis with some leaves/plants on or something.

To be honest I think the posters saying soak him etc are being a bit harsh, chances are he's not paying attention to what's going on in your garden, it's a bit like when some people walk past houses and look in windows, I think most people just do it automatically without really taking in what they're seeing. The guys probably just facing the people all sitting.

If it's really bothering you, of course you can politely say to him that you'd rather he didn't but I'd expect he'll be really embarrassed as probably not paying attention to what's happening in your garden rather than just glancing around. I can see why it would be annoying for you though

I would just put something up to block the view. You’re going to cause bad feeling if you say something and you’re making quite a few assumptions about why he’s looking.

that would piss me off too.
trellis/tree/bamboo - any of those

Can you imagine the posts on here if someone had a guest over who was soaked by a neighbour with a hose. Surely anyone suggesting that can’t be serious?

I’d definitely just stick a bit of trellis up and grow a plant. The trellis will give enough screening for this year and the plant will add more privacy in years to come.

An umbrella/sail is a quick fix. If you want to piss them off put a slide/treehouse next to it so dd can climb up and watch them