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AIBU to be mega pissed off with DS nursery???

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user1468829213 · 09/04/2021 08:09

Opinions please...my 13 month old has been absolutely fine this week apart from teething so a bit more clingy than usual. No raised temperature or illness. He went to nursery as usual Wednesday & was absolutely fine when I dropped him off, nursery updated the app to say he’s fine eating normally etc. Then at about 2 they call to say he woke up from his nap hot so they did his temp & 39.5 so we need to collect him as so high but till we get there they gave him some calpol. DH went to collect him 30 mins later & he said he seemed fine, got him home did temp & 36, put him down for a nap & temp still 36 when he wakes up & happily eating Easter egg on sofa!
Nursery told my DH because of his temp he needs a negative covid test before coming back...bit extreme I think with his temp rise seemingly lasting less than an hour but fair enough rules are rules. Do him a lateral flow test as we have these in the house & negative...send this off to nursery to which I get a message saying it needs to be a PCR test.
At this I ring the nursery to tell them DS is absolutely fine & I’m not putting him through another PCR test unnecessarily. Their response was if he doesn’t have a test he will need to isolate for 10 day’s as he has ‘covid symptoms’. I tell her surely a fluke temp rise of less than an hour isn’t covid & definitely teething especially as it went down straight after having calpol. She sees my point so rings the director but she again won’t back down & says it’s ‘government guidelines’ & he can’t come back without having a negative PCR test.
Since I was backed into a corner we took him for the test yesterday morning even though yet again he has been ABSOLUTELY FINE & I have myself seen no evidence of a high temperature or illness & are taking their word for it he had a temp of 39.5.
The thing that really makes me angry is their ‘Covid terms & conditions’ means we still have to pay them for his sessions thurs & today un till we get the negative result back...husband works in professional cricket & has had to miss the first game of the season too so not good.
AIBU to be mega pissed at nursery, It all seems so unfair for such a sudden rise & fall in temperature that I never saw evidence of myself??

OP posts:
GrumpyHoonMain · 09/04/2021 10:53

Lol your post illustrates how little people know about the disease in children. I come from a part of the UK where we haven’t come out of Lockdown and here almost all the kids at my son’s nursery who tested positive only had a temp spike at nursery. Their temp and behaviour was totally normally after that until they tested negative again. That’s why testing your child is important - they won’t show symptoms but may well infect and potentially even kill their carers / carers of the other kids around them.

user1492433228 · 09/04/2021 10:54

My son (7) tested positive for COVID in January. He appeared a bit ill for at most 90 minutes (he has ADHD so it’s obvious when he slows down). He described feeling feverish but I never registered a temperature. He mentioned a headache in passing the day before but was acting normal. I got him tested (despite the fact he hadn’t really met the criteria) as he was due to go to school the following day and I just knew he wasn’t 100% and didn’t want to spread it if it was COVID. I was still surprised when it came back positive because he’d been normal other than that brief 90mins!
Children don’t present as obviously or severely and often have incredibly mild and varied symptoms compared to adults. It’s a pain but your nursery were completely justified and correct to insist on a proper test.

ChazP · 09/04/2021 10:55

My son (6) had a very mild temperature one Friday at the end of Jan. Just on the cut-off for seeking a test (37.8), but came down with calpol and never went back up again.

On the Sunday we had an e-mail from his school telling us he’d been in contact with someone who tested positive. On the Monday I developed a very mild temperature. On Tuesday my partner developed a very high temperature. We both tested positive for covid a few days later, closely followed by our nanny.

Don’t disregard a short-lived temperature. The nursery were right to be cautious.

jessstan2 · 09/04/2021 10:56

op....happily eating Easter egg on sofa!
........
Hopefully not a white/light coloured sofa :-).

It is probably the nursery's policy at the moment to send children home if they have a raised temperature, and insist on a Covid test. They work on a 'better safe than sorry' premise. It must be a pain for you though.

SuperintendentHastings · 09/04/2021 10:59

The worst thing about this is that the majority of nursery workers still aren’t entitled to the jab but this is the kind of stuff they have to put up with. Alongside parents sending their kids in when they know they’ve had a temp, cough etc because ‘it’s just a cold’. It’s a joke

@Thefaceofboe
Absolutely. I ran the baby room of a nursery for years until 2015 and loved it most of the time, but the shit they have to put up with is appalling. People send their children in with tummy bugs and god knows what. They know they're doing it and they don't care that other children may become ill or the nursery nurses and their families. I worked for a private nursery and we didn't get paid if we didn't work but so many people just don't give a damn.

B1rthis · 09/04/2021 11:02

What a truly broken world to subject a baby to a swab for a temperature.
I would be inclined to keep your child at home for ten days and decide if you want them in nursery at all!

4PawsGood · 09/04/2021 11:03

Sorry if it’s already been said, but I think it’s an old wives’ tale that teething can cause a temperature. Just for future reference.
www.nhs.uk/conditions/baby/babys-development/teething/baby-teething-symptoms/

Thatwentbadly · 09/04/2021 11:03

Government guidelines are also that in addition to a negative test you have to wait 48 hours after a temperature before they can return to nursery.

Brazilianut · 09/04/2021 11:04

You are being v unreasonable. It is the rules and Calpol masks temperature and brings it down.

As you’ve had a test the results should be back soon and he can go back.

My sisters 2.5 year old had teething symptoms similar to a cold, no temp seemed well and tested positive for COVID.

Thatwentbadly · 09/04/2021 11:06

@B1rthis

What a truly broken world to subject a baby to a swab for a temperature. I would be inclined to keep your child at home for ten days and decide if you want them in nursery at all!
That would require the rest of the household to isolate for 14 days. Many people aren’t able to do that.
Brazilianut · 09/04/2021 11:06

@B1rthis oh please, it’s a pandemic and simple rules need to be adhered to.

PurpleWh1teGreen · 09/04/2021 11:07

You are not unreasonable to be pissed off. I doubt many parents would be thrilled.

However - you are not at all reasonable to suggest that the nursery should make an exception to national policy for you, your DH and your DC.

Rukaya · 09/04/2021 11:11

The nursery is following Government rules that we have all been told must apply to children displaying Covid-19 symptoms

The child is NOT displaying any Covid symptoms though. No idea why so many people think this is ok.

darlingsweetpea · 09/04/2021 11:12

It's so annoying but I booked a test on Monday as my daughter had a cold and slight cough from teething just so I could present the nursery with a negative test. I did get the results within 18 hours so hopefully you can do that.

Mylittlesandwich · 09/04/2021 11:16

DS had a temp for a similar spell of time. They didn't even ask us to pick him up early. He then came out in a rash and the doctor told us it was a viral infection I forget the name of. The nursery were happy that this was the explanation for the temp and didn't require a covid test. Which is just as well as DS has quite awkwardly small nostrils and the swabs don't fit up his nose properly.

Mistressinthetulips · 09/04/2021 11:16

You did the wrong test and ate the annoyed when they want you to do the right one?

insancerre · 09/04/2021 11:16

“Rukaya

The nursery is following Government rules that we have all been told must apply to children displaying Covid-19 symptoms

The child is NOT displaying any Covid symptoms though. No idea why so many people think this is ok”

A high temperature is a symptom of Covid

Mistressinthetulips · 09/04/2021 11:16

then got

TotorosFurryBehind · 09/04/2021 11:18

If you want to be pissed off about having to pay,be pissed off at the government. In most other developed countries (EU) nursery fees are highly subsidised or even free for most.

SuperintendentHastings · 09/04/2021 11:18

@Rukaya

The nursery is following Government rules that we have all been told must apply to children displaying Covid-19 symptoms

The child is NOT displaying any Covid symptoms though. No idea why so many people think this is ok.

The child was displaying covid symptoms while in nursery - a high temperature. No idea why so many people don't understand this, it's not like it's new information.
ouchmyfeet · 09/04/2021 11:23

YABU. But you know that.

When my 8 year old had COVID his only symptom was a slightly raised temperature one evening. He had calpol and woke up completely fine.

lunar1 · 09/04/2021 11:24

Glad that the nursery aren't picking which bits of the rules they want to follow, or deciding which families the rules do and don't apply to.

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 09/04/2021 11:24

I understand it's frustrating when you think he's ok, but the vast majority of kids that test positive 'feel/look ok' but you risk him giving it to other kids who may not be ok, staff, parents...

Next time -straight to PCR not only will you get results quicker, but you'll also avoid putting DS through. LFT for no reason.

Do let us know when you get the results, even if it's positive! It'll help others feeling the same!

LatteLoverLovesLattes · 09/04/2021 11:27

@Rukaya

The nursery is following Government rules that we have all been told must apply to children displaying Covid-19 symptoms

The child is NOT displaying any Covid symptoms though. No idea why so many people think this is ok.

From several of your posts, it's pretty obvious you don't quite understand the symptoms of or protocol for Covid.

Until you do it would be wise not to keep posting things as fact. It is not helpful & could be very harmful.

Rukaya · 09/04/2021 11:30

From several of your posts, it's pretty obvious you don't quite understand the symptoms of or protocol for Covid

Which posts would that be then?

Sounds to me like the child was temp checked by a staff member who couldn't use a thermometer. A single reading of a high temp that isn't there an hour later or ever again is not a covid symptom.

Some people seem to think literally everything is a covid symptom now.