AIBU to be mega pissed off with DS nursery???

[user1468829213]

Opinions please...my 13 month old has been absolutely fine this week apart from teething so a bit more clingy than usual. No raised temperature or illness. He went to nursery as usual Wednesday & was absolutely fine when I dropped him off, nursery updated the app to say he’s fine eating normally etc. Then at about 2 they call to say he woke up from his nap hot so they did his temp & 39.5 so we need to collect him as so high but till we get there they gave him some calpol. DH went to collect him 30 mins later & he said he seemed fine, got him home did temp & 36, put him down for a nap & temp still 36 when he wakes up & happily eating Easter egg on sofa!
Nursery told my DH because of his temp he needs a negative covid test before coming back...bit extreme I think with his temp rise seemingly lasting less than an hour but fair enough rules are rules. Do him a lateral flow test as we have these in the house & negative...send this off to nursery to which I get a message saying it needs to be a PCR test.
At this I ring the nursery to tell them DS is absolutely fine & I’m not putting him through another PCR test unnecessarily. Their response was if he doesn’t have a test he will need to isolate for 10 day’s as he has ‘covid symptoms’. I tell her surely a fluke temp rise of less than an hour isn’t covid & definitely teething especially as it went down straight after having calpol. She sees my point so rings the director but she again won’t back down & says it’s ‘government guidelines’ & he can’t come back without having a negative PCR test.
Since I was backed into a corner we took him for the test yesterday morning even though yet again he has been ABSOLUTELY FINE & I have myself seen no evidence of a high temperature or illness & are taking their word for it he had a temp of 39.5.
The thing that really makes me angry is their ‘Covid terms & conditions’ means we still have to pay them for his sessions thurs & today un till we get the negative result back...husband works in professional cricket & has had to miss the first game of the season too so not good.
AIBU to be mega pissed at nursery, It all seems so unfair for such a sudden rise & fall in temperature that I never saw evidence of myself??

Yabu. Also, teething doesn’t cause a fever.

Teething doesn't cause a temperature

Completely normal procedures and they are following government guidelines. Also normal to have to pay in the interim period, same as you would if the whole bubble was closed for 10 days...

Definitely need PCR test for actual symptoms. I was off the understanding that children often did just have a short-lived rise in temperature with actual covid...

is it also normal practice that a parent should still have to pay for the sessions he/she misses whilst waiting for the negative result

Yep, like any sickness absence. DS’s nursery has that rule, and so do all my friends’ and colleagues’ kids’ nurseries.

It’s a massive pain - whenever DS gets a temperature now, his first reaction is “no swab!” which is heartbreaking. He was getting a temperature about once a month over winter.

You should have refused permission to give him calpol and gone to collect him with your own thermometer.

I do think some nurseries are playing games, unfortunately.

My baby had a temp on and off for a day - 24 hours max, I don't think I'd have noticed it only that I was positive for Covid so I kept checking him. He responded to calpol and the temp would only climb hours after the calpol had been given (like he'd be due another dose but would have no temp- and 2 hours later it would climb again). And he tested positive.

I would be pissed off too.

@raincamepouringdown

You should have refused permission to give him calpol and gone to collect him with your own thermometer.

I do think some nurseries are playing games, unfortunately.

What difference would that have made? If they’ve recorded a high temperature, they aren’t going to say “oh no it’s fine, he can stay”, if it’s gone down by the time the parents rock up.

@itsgettingwierd

If it happens again book a PCR test immediately.

It should be back by the following morning if you get a slot that afternoon.

Annoying - yes.

Over reaction in a pandemic - no.

Agree with this 100%

They have to follow procedures and I'm sure you would expect them to if it was another child in the nursery.

They are a business, if you don’t pay how will they pay their staff? Just the way it is I’m afraid. It’s nothing new with nursery.

If your child did have covid & they allowed him back, imagine the consequences then...

@raincamepouringdown

You should have refused permission to give him calpol and gone to collect him with your own thermometer.

I do think some nurseries are playing games, unfortunately.

Oh don't be silly. Playing games? They're far too busy to be cooking up ridiculous things like this, they follow procedures like everywhere else has to right now.

@user1468829213

No hours can’t be used in lieu this is their words -

‘... current government guidance states that we cant charge parents if a child is self-isolating having received a positive test result or have been contacted by NHS Test and Trace, so our normal terms and conditions are still in effect if a child is unwell or has been taken for a test. We are only recompensing parents if they are having to self isolate for the 10 day period’

I suppose the only thing that makes me suspicious is they have been known to be understaffed on certain days so have rang round asking parents to keep their child off & they’ll be refunded...And his room is ran by parents with young children and it is the Easter holidays...I can’t help but think they lied about his temp as they didn’t have the staffing for this week as controversial as this sounds! But again pointless theorising really as nothing I can do to prove it!!

You think they lied about his temp to solve their staffing issues? Well then surely you should remove your child from such a dreadful, untrustworthy setting and report them to the relevant authorities?

I can't actually believe the nonsense some people spout ...

YABU, every one knows you get a PCR test and not a LF one. The nursery are just following government guidelines to protect themselves & others around your child.

Yes nursery can & will charge for the days your child doesn't go. The nursery still has to stay open regardless of whether your child is there or not.

Even with a negative test you have to stay off until he is 48 hours without a temperature.

We all had covid recently, my five year old had a slightly snotty nose and a temperature, his temperature went down with calpol and didn’t return.

Lateral flow tests are for those without symptoms,
PCRs are needed for those with symptoms.

The worst thing about this is that the majority of nursery workers still aren’t entitled to the jab but this is the kind of stuff they have to put up with. Alongside parents sending their kids in when they know they’ve had a temp, cough etc because ‘it’s just a cold’. It’s a joke

I'm a childminder and it is my policy that if your child needs to be kept home for any reason due to Covid, then full fees are still required, as my service is still open. Put yourself in the nurseries shoes, if they chose not to charge while someone was waiting on a pcr test, then they could potentially have many parents keep their children home, citing a pcr test as an excuse, when in reality they just have a day off work, just so they could save themselves a few pennies. The nursery is not being unreasonable.

My DD(6) and 2 friends in her class all had a high temp that lasted less than an hour and they were all positive on a PCR test.

You’re being unreasonable. Of course he should have a proper Covid test. You don’t know that his temp is not caused by covid. It’s also reasonable that you should have to pay his fees. Their outgoings don’t change because your child may have to miss a few days.

The nursery are correct

@raincamepouringdown

You should have refused permission to give him calpol and gone to collect him with your own thermometer.

I do think some nurseries are playing games, unfortunately.

Tbh if the nursery had recorded a temp of 39.9 on their thermometer, then they would still be perfectly within their rights to ask the op to pick up child (and test).

I don't think YABU at all.

A tad off piste but this having to pay for services you don't use is more than just annoying.

I had to cancel an osteopath appnt the other day and was told I would have to pay as it was within the 48 hours. They then sent me an immediate demand for payment. As it happened I could make it so I went but when I got there I was told I had cancelled the appointment and somebody else was being seen in that slot.

Filed the payment demand in the bin and used the local Rugby Club Sports clinic. Interesting contrast to the Well Woman Studio.

Sometimes you just need a man with muscles and good technique.

I'd be annoyed too. Look for another nursery. The more nurseries and childminders get away with unreasonable behaviour the more they will exploit people with their unfair terms.

How would you feel if they let another kid with a “ blip in temperature “ stay in nursery , end up with Covid and at a minimum then end up with your child excluded for 10 days as a contact and at worst with the nursery shut down for breaking Covid rules ?

Just get the pcr test as you should have done to start with.