To be annoyed that OH can't do any DIY?

[mummyneedsarest]

Moving into our new house Sunday it has nothing so starting from fresh.

He can't do anything can't even put the blinds up always comes up with some kind of excuse! Of course all men can't be handy around the house but Jesus Christ making up excuses as to why he can't do the blinds.

He can't even put the shower curtain up for me, it really just winds me up.

Is this a joke? If you can’t do it, why should he?

I’ll admit to being slightly wistful on learning my husband wasn’t handy, but he’s still better than me at wielding a screwdriver and we build up lists of jobs for the handyman.

I have no idea how men are expected to just “know” this stuff.

well - you know Do It Yourself - women don't implode when they pick up a drill

Can you do it? Or do you just expect him to because he's a man?

So you learn? I did a basic sit course when I got my first home.

Sorry diy not sit

Are these jobs you know how to do? If not why would you expect him to be more skilled in this area? Maybe you could watch some YouTube videos and work it out together.

Yes that must be annoying. Can’t you teach him so you can share it? I’ve had to do that with DH with cooking.

is it the 1950s?

Why can't you do it? You don't use a penis to operate a drill or a screwdriver you know.
There are YouTube videos for everything if you're not sure how to do something.

Why can’t you do it whilst he does other jobs - the weekly food shop, catch up on the laundry, change the bedding. There doesn’t have to be set tasks divided by sex.

I am doing it myself, I've just come up to the house now he's at home with the kids.
It's just annoying he can't do anything, I work full time and study these are my last few days off before I start my new job. He can't even have a go at doing things or watch any YouTube videos. It's always "ahh we need this for it better of just getting someone round to do it"

Why aren't you annoyed with yourself for not doing DIY? You really don't need a penis. Get some tools, get on YouTube and get on with it princess!

Why can’t you do it? YouTube a video of how to do any DIY task. There is literally no reason about from gender stereotypes why men should be good at, or want to do, DIY.

Fortunately DH and I are complete equals when it comes to DIY - we both hate it and aren’t very good at it!

Can you do any DIY?

Not everyone can be good at everything. I couldn't do either of those things
(probable dyspraxia)

Have you had a go yourself, you might find it easier than you were expecting? (I found this some IT stuff at uni, it sounded complicated but really it was fine)

Do it yourself. The clue is in the name.

I'm single. I've just overhauled my garden inc laying patio slabs, uprooting shrubs and trees, dismantling and removing unwanted furniture. I've never relied on a bloke for these things (even when married) and I never will.

Why does he need to put up the shower curtain for you?

Some people aren’t good at diy. So try doing it yourself, you might be good at it.

When we first moved into our first flat, we bought the Sunday Times book of DIY.

Things have improved - now there's Youtube. and I challenge anyone to not be able to find any instruction videos for any DIY job.

I'm all for women being self sufficient - DIY shouldn't just be a male thing. However partners need to pull their weight. My DP is bloody useless - but he tries, I'm just better. So things neither of us can do, we get in a tradesman and he pays. MY DP is actually embarrassed he can't and I can.

My suggestion is to involve him - don't let him off the hook. If he can't do the job himself and you think you can - he is the goffer. Make him help you. Or make him put his hand in his wallet to pay someone

He can't even put the shower curtain up for me

I assume this is more won't than can't?

So op you put up the shower curtain for your shower.
Then you remove it.

It would be good if he could at least give you a hand though op.

My DH is no DIY skills at all, doesn’t even own a drill, we always get a handyman in, I have a disability so I wouldn’t even attempt any DIY. I would rather pay someone to do a proper job.

Make a list and employ a handyman!

My DH is useless at DIY. He gets all angry and frustrated when things don't go his way doing it.
I can do it so it's my job. I need his help sometimes if things are too high or to hold up something, just be my general assistant.

We just play to our strengths

Wtf? I do all the DIY. OH helps, e.g. carry heavy items, tip runs.

If his lack of DIY enthusiasm was a dealbreaker, why didn't you screen for it at the dating stage