To be annoyed that OH can't do any DIY?

[mummyneedsarest]

Moving into our new house Sunday it has nothing so starting from fresh.

He can't do anything can't even put the blinds up always comes up with some kind of excuse! Of course all men can't be handy around the house but Jesus Christ making up excuses as to why he can't do the blinds.

He can't even put the shower curtain up for me, it really just winds me up.

An ex of mine was useless at DIY, couldn't do a thing. I tried but I was useless as well.

I wouldn't have minded but he was crap at everything as else couldn't cook, wouldn't garden, refused housework and couldn't even hold down a job.

My dp now isnt brilliant but he's learning all the time and is great at the basics

You cant win - I get annoyed that my DH insists on doing all DIY even stuff hes not quite sure about so it takes about 20 times as long as calling in a professional, and the house is in chaos for months! It was an exciting day when he admitted we needed to call a plumber and the problem was sorted in 1 morning! 😂

A competent DIYer knows when to call in a professional. DH happily replaced our rotting decking himself but also happily paid someone to replace the crumbling concrete garage roof with a felted one! He removed crumbling, cracked pebbledash from our old house, himself, but paid someone to render the walls.

I don’t know why women think men should be good at DIY, just because they are men, I fucking hated doing it, weekends full of decorating or tiling or dealing with broken toilets that’s a diabolical waste of time, there day I’d much rather pay someone and get it done probably.

General maintenance is okay like curtains and crappy flat pack furniture, but your not even supposed to change a socket these days unless your part P. Certified

I've got the kind that isn't very good at it but feels he should do it / should be able to do it. And can't take advice or suggestions from me (if I either know how to do it or have looked it up as unsure). So I have to bite my tongue and keep well away knowing that he will be grumpy and stressed before its finished, and that much of the time I'll be grumpy and frustrated because its not done right. I was trained, a bit, by a dad good at DIY but not good at accepting 'good enough'.

I don't do enough myself at the moment though.

Not true @justanotheroldman

Generally, you can change like for like, including replacing damaged cables within a circuit but you can't install new circuits or radically alter existing ones. www.diydoctor.org.uk/projects/partp.htm

So, replacing sockets, light switches, light fittings etc is fine. You can even move them a bit. You can't take it upon yourself to install led spots or take a line out to your garden shed, though and you can't replace something central like the consumer unit, yourself. You can wire in a new electric cooker, yourself. You can't create a new kitchen circuit for it.

My DH can paint and put a wardrobe together but not much else. We have a handyman and electrician that we trust in our phone contacts.

Eerrrrr? Clue is in the name Do It Yourself......

Presumably one of you needed to do the jobs and one look after the children. That's what happened. What's the problem?