Don’t want to go to a family meet up

[Sadnangry]

So situation- my cousin’s wife has just died he is distraught as they have been together since both 14, in late 50s now. He has asked to meet up to do a bit of a family remembrance, me, my husband, my sister, her husband and my brother and wife. He will also be bringing his two grown up children, neither live with him. I don’t feel I can say no without causing a huge family rift but feel sick at the thought of it. Everyone bar me will have been vaccinated but I’m so stressed about it - what would you do, would you go?

unarranged, not unwarranted.

Just don't let them in. Say you missed the memo. Ooops.

Okay. All the doors and windows open then. And if they complain, simply say that you're not vaccinated and you're uncomfortable with breaking the rules, so this is your compromise. Offer them blankets and extra layers. And as host you have a really good excuse to stay in the kitchen a lot of the time.

I would honestly go out. Your DH will have to host.
You weren't consulted, it's against the law and you are vulnerable and unvaccinated.
I can't believe the attitudes on this thread.

Yes it's tragic that his wife has died and he is devastated. This has happened to thousands of people over the past year (close family dying with or without Covid) and we've all had a shitty time. I couldn't hug my own father when my mother died and couldn't be at her beside either.

Stick to your guns and get your car keys. I doubt they will stay long if you are not running around after them

I think if you had written all the details in your first op then you would have had different responses - mine included.

Hope they will all sit outside or you can take yourself out of the house.

If you want to wait having people round, that's your call. I'm holding back going to the pub/hairdresser until I've had my second vaccination (This month) and seeing what's happening with the infection rate and the Nigerian variant. If it wasn't for visiting so many other people, there wouldn't be that much of an issue. But it's behaviour like that which helped it spread at Christmas.
However re underlying conditions. There are very specific conditions which make you more vulnerable. It isn't everything people have going on. Unless now declared so, you haven't got underlying health conditions. I'm classed as ECV. I was on the shielding list. When speaking to my consultant, she said that they are being cautious but they haven't lost any patients under 60. So I'm a candidate for complications but not death. But I've had Covid twice and just needed antibiotics once. We have got to start to get rid of the fear of catching it. Unless the Nigerian variant takes over of course.

I'm going against the grain here but no I wouldn't do it. I have several underlying conditions and haven't yet been vaccinated because of allergies 39 but have to wait for Moderna to come to NI. I haven't allowed anyone into our home since 16th March 20 and won't until we've both had our second dose. The dcs won't be back in school either. We don't have anyone to fall back on if anything happened to us and we run our own business. I would of course have every sympathy and do what I could but would not host or attend

It is sad that someone of 49 with a few conditions but nothing CEV would get so scared of meeting others.

The risk for your age group is really low. They have to have covid to give it to you. Get some LFT and ask them to do them in the morning to reassure you even more.

Time for people to get a sense of PERSPECTIVE again

@ivfbeenbusy

Unless you are clinically extremely vulnerable you've really got little excuse not to go. Even people who were advised to shield have had their restrictions lifted. 🤷‍♀️

Indeed.

It is really sad to see and hear that so many, many people are really scared and fearful now. They did a grand job of scaring the bejesus out of lots of people