How to apologise to neighbours for noise complaint?

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Just found out that my neighbours think we are evil loud monsters (we are) and I want to apologise.
I am torn between
YABU
knocking their front door with a box of chocolates and apologising in person
YANBU
knock door running and leaving the chocolates and a note saying sorry

what would you prefer?

@GreyhoundG1rl. Feel free to join in. I think you are right- it must be something really dark.

Was it an official complaint or did you hear from a mutual neighbour?

I personally wouldn't do anything except keep the noise down

Just don’t be so loud and alter your ways. Easily resolved.

Easier said than done. Circular saws are inherently noisy and it takes ages to get through bone with a hacksaw.

We have neighbours who are very lovely, but very, very loud. Music loud beyond what I can bear even a garden away and screaming kids and shrieking, cackling guests. To the point where if they are out, we can't enjoy our garden. I am a party animal myself and a bit of music and the sound of people enjoying themselves is absolutely fine. Even a ridiculous amount of noise as a one off would also be fine. But parting as if you lived on your own on a desert island, to the point where we can't enjoy our garden is just antisocial. The only thing that I would accept as an apology is a bit of consideration and keeping the noise to an acceptable level.

New poster. Unclear back story. Is it me or are we being bombarded with odd, unclear threads of late?

Is it me or are we being bombarded with odd, unclear threads of late?

Nah, they have always done this. MNHQ rarely bother deleting the ones where it might be genuine so I don't bother reporting i just have some fun with it.

OP's embarrassment, lack of explanation and disappearance can only mean loud shagging.

I wouldn't apologise , unless its a specific thing that you know won't happen again . Just make more effort to make less noise .

My neighbour complained to council that my DC's are too noisy,my TV is on day and night and I have sex too loudly. I own the property and when I phoned the council the guy laughed,told me they had spoken to other neighbours who had no issues and it was nonsense.
This is a neighbour who I have taken parcels in(most days),taken bins out for,dropped milk round etc. If she had come and spoken to me then I would have happily apologised. Now she can kiss my fat arse.

I am torn between YABU...knocking their front door with a box of chocolates and apologising in person...knock door running and leaving the chocolates and a note saying sorry

Option 3: bake a massive cake and ice it with- 'sorry if my sex noises disturbed you'.

Loud neighbours are so ghastly.. it drives people mad.
People say “Move”
But why should the quiet ones move?
Arguing, screaming children, stamping about, it wears so thin .
Chocolates- keep those for yourselves..
The biggest gift is quieter neighbours.
My mum actually moved because of a yelping Schnauser that scream-yelped for hours on end.
It was intolerable.
Noise pollution is very real sadly.

what sort of noise?

An apology without change is just manipulation. If you really are loud and you could possibly tone it down, then just try and be more aware of it

If you are aware of the noise, then it would be better to make an effort not to be noisy anymore is way better than box of chocolate.

who is dealing with the complaint? my Neighbour reported me years ago because my non verbal child would make noise in the night if she woke up. I was told not to talk to the neighbour about it and let the housing deal with it.

Ssshhh

The noise is adult with MH issues so nothing as easy as chucking headphones in and keeping out of the garden I'm afraid.
I think in person and with a token gift then.
Hopefully they don't get shoved up my bum

name change for obvious reasons- don't want this linked to my other posts

So you’re loud, you know you’re loud, and you’re embarrassed and ashamed? Why didn’t you shut up before? How about shutting up now? If you don’t any form of apology is meaningless and worthless.

Just front it and apologise??

The noise is adult with MH issues

That info would have been useful in the OP

You need to elaborate..... Are we talking an adult shrieking all day every day, or having some sort of episode and being shouty?

So there’s nothing you can do about the noise, and it’s going to be something your neighbours have to live with?

I don’t think an apology and token gift is going to cut it.

Oh Op what a difficult situation , you would obviously be quieter if you could but obviously you can’t, could you explain to them the situation with the box of chocolates and hope that they will understand perhaps

Does adult mental health issues = anger, shouting, violence? If it does, you are not obliged to stay or support, your mental health comes before anyone displaying abusive behaviours

Just shut up, and stay quiet might be the best idea.

Don't bother apologising unless you intend to change your ways