Symptomatic husband too 'busy' to get a test?!

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Dh had symptoms come on yesterday, new continuous cough and a fever. He's kept me up all night so far coughing so badly and woke up the baby

I work in a hospital and am well aware as he has symptoms I should self isolate until he has a test. Issue is dh is ridiculous and insists he hasn't got time to self isolate or miss work, he's travelling for conferences this week and has lots to do surely if you're travelling for work it's more important than ever to get a test and not become a super spreader across the UK!! I know he's worried the results won't come back in time but it's the right thing to do

Anyway we've just had an argument over it at 3am!! He said he was going to sleep downstairs so I can get a good sleep for work and I said I won't be going to work in the hospital with you like this until you've you've been tested and he scoffed that there's no chance. So what do I do if he refuses? Besides me thinking he's massively unreasonable putting other people at risk because he's too 'important' I also feel he's putting me in a difficult position at work? I'm not going into a hospital if someone I live with shows symptoms but will have to be off the full 10 days if he doesn't test?

"If you died tonight, your employer would advertise to fill your job role by the end of the month. But your loved ones, chosen family and friends, would miss you forever. Don’t get too busy making a living that you forget to work on making a life."

I've just seen this tweet from Denzel Washingnoton - it made me think of your husband, OP.

You can report him anonymously online. What a numpty.

Does he not understand that by trying to carry on as normal he may become more seriously ill than by staying home and resting!!

sounds like trump when you come out with mass testing is ridiculous

im actually hoping its positive for him op sorry but he needs to learn a lesson

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I know it's frustrating that your husband has different morals to you but maybe see it as a silver lining that you get ten days off now because of it. I'd also do a test on yourself in a few days if he refuses.

WTAF!!

OP, I'm glad to read that your husband has seen sense and booked a test.

Glad he's agreed to go for a test

Glad to hear he's booked a test OP. He HAS done the right thing. I think there's this moment of denial with a lot of people when they get symptoms because they know it's going to be a massive hassle and they know they're going to have to change all their plans, people generally aren't that good at accepting sudden change, but most people get over it and do the right thing as your DH has done.

I get why you were upset though. I'd chalk it up to him having a heavy case of denial about being ill, which he quickly got over (after a night coughing). I hope it's not covid and he tests negative.

Even so, I think going anywhere with covid symptoms or ANY obviously contagious disease at the moment is out of order, and I hope the days of people struggling into work / sending their kids to school with flu and infecting everyone else are over.

Well, isn't he a peach?

Glad he's booked a test.

I'd be bleaching your house and avoiding him until he's better.

Conferences? Who is running in-person conferences at the moment? You said his workplace seem to have ignored “work from home” but conferences usually involve people from lots of different companies. Are you sure he’s not having an affair?

Why? Is that a known cure for coronavirus?

No, but it's a known cure for travelling.

I'm surprised that his workplace are even having in-person conferences at this time; but he certainly should NOT go if he's got symptoms , until he tests negative.

I see he has booked a test now. Good!!!

I'm in academia and all conferences have been moved online last year and this year. Who is still hosting face-to-face conferences??

Also, his whinging about results taking too long is nonsense; I had a test at 10am on Saturday and my results were emailed at 8pm that night (negative, thankfully).

At least he's booked a test; he was absolutely being a complete and utter twat about it.

It's good he's changed his mind, please update us.

Glad he's got a test booked. The bloody great idiot.

Glad he has seen sense and got tested. How is he now?

Glad he's seen sense. What a tool.

Apologies. I don't know him and that was rude.
His firm should be insisting on regular testing though if they are asking people to travel for work.

Glad to hear that he's booked a test. I hope for all of your sakes it is negative. His attitude about "just having to get on with it now" is ridiculous: in failing to self isolate, he would be denying anyone he comes into contact with the right to make that choice for themselves. Why should he get to decide whether others have to just get on with it or not?!

Sod his so important work. What does he think about your work? In a hospital? What is more important?

He had a test this afternoon, I phoned my work who said as I'm NHS staff I need to get tested too so I have been too. Good thing since I've started feeling really unwell and am now in bed myself with a fever and this achy coming down with something feeling and the beginning of a cough. Don't have any home tests from work, I'm not patient facing so that may be why.

Sorry to hear you are feeling poorly too OP, hope the results come back quick and hope you feel better soon.

Sorry to hear you are feeling unwell op hope you both get your results soon

Oh, that's rubbish, op. Hope it's just a 24 hour thing.

Sorry OP hope you feel better soon and that the test is negative for DH tomorrow 🤞