to kill DS!

[seriouslynaive]

Come on here because I am so angry with DS and need to vent

DS (16) disappeared last night on a walk with his girlfriend and then ended up at her house and stayed the night (despite our rules that he shouldn't be staying at her house due to lockdown but this is a whole different story)

I have two twin DD who are 3 and spent ages doing an easter egg hunt for them and setting it up last night and I texted DS to ask if he would come home this morning to take part in the hunt as i got him some stuff as well and his sisters adore him and he can be lovely with them too. He said 'maybe x' and i didn't hear anything else.

Cut to this morning DS comes in the door at 11am (I told him we were doing it at 10:30) looking a mess, smelling of booze, grabbed loads of the eggs from my twins hunt while theyre in the middle of it, kicked a load of the eggs about, behaved like an absolute d*ckhead, both of the twins started crying, he started laughing and now has gone up to his room and locked the door (we did allow him to have a lock because the twins would always go into his room and it became a problem)

I'm absolutely fuming. I can't see any reason for this behaviour. I am actually at a loss of what to do to punish this!!! Does anyone else have a DS that behaves like this and can anyone give me any tips for stopping or solving this sort of awful behaviour?

@seriouslynaive

thank you so much everyone for all the replies.

I haven't managed to talk to him yet. But DDs actually asked me a few hours later whether they could go and see him because they were "worried about him" so I let them knock on his door (fully expecting him not to answer and then me to say he was asleep) and he actually answered the door, I stayed away to see how he would behave when it was just them and him, he gave them both a cuddle and let them into his bed for a "snuggle" as they call it - and he watched bloody peppa pig with them for about an hour! This is so rare these days!

The boy never ceases to amaze me. He's been fine all day since. The girls have gone to bed now so I'm gearing up to a chat with him. Like a lot of you suggest I am going to go in from a concerned Mum viewpoint, but he will get a sanction.

Hope everything went well and you were able to get to the bottom of his behaviour