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Says thanks to bus driver

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hesnearly3 · 03/04/2021 10:04

Why do ppl do this? Why thank for a journey that u have paid for? And the driver hopefully drove safely but that's their jobs. So why say thanks? I don't get it

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GintyMcGinty · 03/04/2021 12:19

It's a nice thing to do.

It's good manners.

endofthelinefinally · 03/04/2021 12:20

Surely saying please and thank you is one of the earliest things we teach our children? Good manners will take you a long way in life IME.

WorraLiberty · 03/04/2021 12:20

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe

Me too, Worra. I have managed to curtail myself now from doing a 'happy dance'. Grin
I've managed to stop running off really quickly in case the machine realises I'm overdrawn Blush Grin
70isaLimitNotaTarget · 03/04/2021 12:21

I do when I get on, and if there's only one or two departing , but if there's 10 people crowding to get off then it'd get confused .

We have buses with the two doors . If I got out the same one as I got on then of course , say Thanks

VettiyaIruken · 03/04/2021 12:22

Why would you not thank someone who has provided you with a service?
Hairdresser, waiter, shop assistant, taxi driver, bus driver, postie, the list goes on and on.

It is polite. It's one of those social behaviours that make our days and our interactions that bit nicer.

Dinkydody · 03/04/2021 12:22

And Scotland 😃

anon12345678901 · 03/04/2021 12:22

Always say thank you, I have good manners. Most people I've seen on a bus do also, here in a London suburb.

dustydaffs · 03/04/2021 12:23

@rainbowthoughts

That's a shame for you.
Because the people who do it have better manners than you and appreciate what the driver has done.
Butwasitherdriveway · 03/04/2021 12:24

@hesnearly3

Why do ppl do this? Why thank for a journey that u have paid for? And the driver hopefully drove safely but that's their jobs. So why say thanks? I don't get it
The same reason you thank people in shops.

Or do you not do that either?

SleepingStandingUp · 03/04/2021 12:25

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe

Happytodayhappytomorrow Not at all. For a start, I don't think it's real, I think the OP is just a bit bored and cross - and secondly, it's not what I see out in the real world so the OP is a bit of an outlier/wannabe maverick.

But nobody's really affected by that silly standpoint, are they? It causes an eyebrow raise and momentary thought about lack of manners. That's all.

Given op has dumped and run in inclined to agree but yes, the idea that you only ever thank someone if they are putting themselves out exceptionally is quite sad. I'm sure people are like this but their outliers.

DS was taught to say thankyoubye before he was fully verbal and when I take the non talking 15 month old babies who won't bloody wave on, we get off and I still say "say thankyoubye, thank you"

dustydaffs · 03/04/2021 12:25

They even thank the bus driver on Fortnite Grin

WorraLiberty · 03/04/2021 12:27

@dustydaffs Grin Grin

Famousinlove · 03/04/2021 12:31

Because i was taught good manners as a child and carried them through to being an adult.

And i'm in the North so it's the law.

lottiegarbanzo · 03/04/2021 12:32

Friendliness, politeness, human connection. The stuff that makes life worth living.

namesnamesnamesnames · 03/04/2021 12:33

Unreal! Biscuit

tedx · 03/04/2021 12:34

Never heard Londoners say it but then again they are happy to just step over you on the street if you've fallen dead as you're in their way! 😂

RisingSunn · 03/04/2021 12:35

It’s just common courtesy...

WombatChocolate · 03/04/2021 12:36

Sounds like an entitled teenager who needs some basic life facts explaining to them.

Children and teens often think they don’t need to thank people who provide a paid-for service, missing the point that basic manners cost nothing and don’t have to be earned anyway.

I’m always interested to watch small children and their parents. So many small children don’t show good manners and say please and thank you and their parents don’t pick them up on it. It’s absolutely not second nature to most children.

My view is that small children need reminding constantly and eventually it does become second nature to them. That’s the point when you can stop reminding them. Yes it’s a bit tedious but it’s worth it.

All people providing a direct service to us need thanking. Those earning low wages particularly need our thanks and it’s often those who people don’t thank are somehow see them as ‘beneath’ them, but the lack of thanking always reflects poorly on the silent person, not the worker.

I aim to thank all cashiers in shops, bus drivers, cleaners emptying bins where I’m working at work, people serving in cafes and restaurants, those seeeping roads where I’m passing by. I always wave thanks to those stopping their cars at crossings and drivers who pull over and give way to me. I thank those who stand aside to let me pass on a narrow path or during Covid.

Those who don’t thank usually lack social confidence or awareness in my view. Thinking your thanks is some kind of valuable commodity which is in limited supply and should be handed out sparingly is a reflection of a lack of social awareness and ignorance rather than superiority to the person they choose not to thank.

Happycat1212 · 03/04/2021 12:37

Never heard Londoners say it but then again they are happy to just step over you on the street if you've fallen dead as you're in their way! 😂

Grin accurate

MessAllOver · 03/04/2021 12:39

Londoners tend not to but that’s only because they normally get off at a different door to the one they enter in so they’re not passing the driver.

I'm a Londoner and my 3 year old knows to say thank you to the bus driver. We just say it loudly.

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 03/04/2021 12:40

@Griselda1

In Northern Ireland it's common for collections to be made for bus drivers who do day excursions etc. I once took a group of young people on a trip to New York and they tipped an excursion driver in this way.He cried when they gave him the $50 and explained that he couldn't afford a hotel for the over night stay so was travelling quite a distance out to stay with a sister. Seeing this huge black man reduced to tears over a small act of kindness was amazing for them as they were unemployed young people there for work experience.
We do it in Scotland too. I've done a fair bit of travelling worldwide and it's pretty common everywhere, tip the day excursion driver.
RosesAndHellebores · 03/04/2021 12:41

It's basic manners and if you are a regular and build a good relationship with a service provider they will usually help you if you need help.

If you behave like an ingrate they may turn the other cheek but apart from that isn't it nicer to have pleasant dialy interactions with everyone you come across and hope they will think, "oh that person's always nice/polite" rather than here comes that miserable git/old bag. My mother always said "smile and the world smiles with you"

Millymomooo · 03/04/2021 12:42

I take it your parents didn’t teach you manners?

Puzzledandpissedoff · 03/04/2021 12:42

It's called treating people with respect - you know, as a default position instead of bleating that they have to earn it

Of course some turn out not to deserve it, but that comes later ...

Quaagars · 03/04/2021 12:42

Common courtesy and good manners, I always say thanks as I get off the bus.
Usually I say "thanks" or "thank you", other times "cheers" Grin
Just polite, innit.
Bit sad to think it's not always the norm, just makes interactions that little bit more pleasant, and a day a little bit brighter!

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