AIBU to be uncomfortable about this kind of breastfeeding picture posted on social media?

[Swoonforpeterbishop]

I’m not going to post the actual picture as then I’d just be getting more people to look at it but a small time influencer has posted a picture of her and her baby breastfeeding, both very clearly naked, in order to advertise some breast milk jewellery.
You can barely see the jewellery but can clearly see mum and child are naked - very flattering shot of the mother and a lovely caption about how precious breastfeeding and how the jewellery is the perfect memento.

I am perfectly prepared to be told I am being completely unreasonable but I feel uncomfortable about the picture. The child has no say over this - anyone can now view this picture of them both naked. It’s going out to thousands of random followers.

I breastfed my child, am pro normalising breastfeeding but feel like I’m this context this picture isn’t about the breastfeeding at all despite the caption.

I also feel really uncomfortable about using a picture of the child in that state to advertise the jewellery?

Maybe I’m old and out of touch and I know, I know, I should mind my business but I don’t follow her it popped up as a sponsored post on my feed and it’s bothered me.

@katy1213 and @jessstan2 Breastmilk is not the same as poo/faeces/excrement. Are you the same people who think mothers should breastfeed their babies in the toilets rather than at the table in a cafe?

Is it this one op? Apologies for adding the picture but I have blotted out all offensive bits.
I just searched the breastfeeding tag on Instagram and found it in under a minute anyway!
This particular "influencers" page actually has several similar pictures, all different poses. Nudey is clearly her thang 🤷🏽‍♀️ I agree the kids might not thank her for it.

And IMO, breastfeeding jewellery is completely unnecessary. I say that as an avid long term BF'er of four kids myself.
But, I think many influencers would happily sell their grannies for a few likes. Sad.

I find it a bit sad that people seeing a naked mum with her naked baby could be an issue for anyone. It's about as natural as you can get with the caveat that the photo is not sexualising in order to sell, what could possibly be wrong?

That is cringe tastic. I can't stand IG culture. Everything is so pretentious. The messege gets lost.

@Zancah

Is it this one op? Apologies for adding the picture but I have blotted out all offensive bits. I just searched the breastfeeding tag on Instagram and found it in under a minute anyway! This particular "influencers" page actually has several similar pictures, all different poses. Nudey is clearly her thang 🤷🏽‍♀️ I agree the kids might not thank her for it.

Yeah, I would think that was not really FB material without the baby, so why with? It's not really a breastfeeding photo, it's a "nude art" photo with a baby added to justify it.

[quote LittleRa]**@katy1213* and @jessstan2* Breastmilk is not the same as poo/faeces/excrement. Are you the same people who think mothers should breastfeed their babies in the toilets rather than at the table in a cafe?[/quote]
Not at all. Breastfeeding is great. I just don't see the point of posing yourself completely naked with your baby in order to advertise a dubious jewellery fad.

The daisies are pretty though.

Breast feeding jewellery 🤮

@MrsMaizel

Breast feeding jewellery 🤮

I know, you couldn't make it up.

My DH has helpfully suggested "Baby's First Turd" pendants.

The daisies are pretty though.

Executive decision. It was daisies, love hearts or rainbows. I think I made the right choice.

I've got to say, I look at photos^ like this (I mean, it's not unusual to come across variations of this sort of picture on social media now, unfortunately) and I just think^ anyone who manhandles nappyless babies for Instagram likes deserves every projectile shart that they get!

@MrsMaizel

Breast feeding jewellery 🤮

I’m with you 100%

I don’t need mementos of any bodily fluids thanks

YANBU. I'm all for women breast feeding in public of course. I did see a photoshoot a while back though where the woman had had a deliberate photoshoot of her in a slinky black dress and effectively using it as an excuse to show pretty much her whole boobs. I thought that was annoying and thinking about it it's not even a woman who happens to be breast feeding, it's a deliberate shoot. It just looked like she was doing it to pose with her baps out.

It was trying to be disingenuous/fake and that was annoying. Like, oh woopsie! It just so happened some men can see my whole boobs from above.

the photo is all about the Mother, not breastfeeding jewellery, not the child.

it's rather sad 🌸

I don’t have a big problem with it but I don’t think it’s helpful.
Mainly because most of us don’t feel our most attractive at this point and while she’s not exactly Victoria Secret model toned and isn’t overtly sexy, she doesn’t reflect the blue veined, raw, collapsed soufflé hot mess of the majority of post-partum bodies. It’s yet another thing for knackered new mothers to feel inadequate about.

@Zancah

Is it this one op? Apologies for adding the picture but I have blotted out all offensive bits. I just searched the breastfeeding tag on Instagram and found it in under a minute anyway! This particular "influencers" page actually has several similar pictures, all different poses. Nudey is clearly her thang 🤷🏽‍♀️ I agree the kids might not thank her for it.

I'm sorry but why did she need to take her knickers off?!

@SoMuchBadInfo

Yes yabvu.

Why do you care what another woman does with her child, her own breasts?? Are you jealous that yours don't look as good?

Get over it and stop bringing women down fgs.

You have no right to call yourself "breastfed friendly" or whatever other silly term you used in your OP when your obviously not.

Women have fought for hundreds of years to have their bodily autonomy and you don't get to decide that yours is okay but hers isn't.

Op is referring to the nudity, not the breastfeeding aspect! Stop trying to twist her words to fit your own narrative

@SoMuchBadInfo

Yes yabvu.

Why do you care what another woman does with her child, her own breasts?? Are you jealous that yours don't look as good?

Get over it and stop bringing women down fgs.

You have no right to call yourself "breastfed friendly" or whatever other silly term you used in your OP when your obviously not.

Women have fought for hundreds of years to have their bodily autonomy and you don't get to decide that yours is okay but hers isn't.

OP's comments are nothing to do with breastfeeding 🙄

[quote SoMuchBadInfo]@zancah

"breastfeeding jewellery is completely unnecessary"

So is pain relief during labour. So are houses. So is the device you're typing on right now, in fact the woman in the picture is more genuine than the bitter and jealous women on this site, who bitch and moan about how hard it is to be a woman, a mum, a wife etc etc etc.

Yet you take the first opportunity to put this woman down?

You'd think she was on the front page of pornhub the way you're all acting. It's a tastefully done shot that she'll probably treasure.

Anyone seeing this as sexual, on a site dominated by women is quite gross, really.[/quote]

oh dear