AIBU to be uncomfortable about this kind of breastfeeding picture posted on social media?

[Swoonforpeterbishop]

I’m not going to post the actual picture as then I’d just be getting more people to look at it but a small time influencer has posted a picture of her and her baby breastfeeding, both very clearly naked, in order to advertise some breast milk jewellery.
You can barely see the jewellery but can clearly see mum and child are naked - very flattering shot of the mother and a lovely caption about how precious breastfeeding and how the jewellery is the perfect memento.

I am perfectly prepared to be told I am being completely unreasonable but I feel uncomfortable about the picture. The child has no say over this - anyone can now view this picture of them both naked. It’s going out to thousands of random followers.

I breastfed my child, am pro normalising breastfeeding but feel like I’m this context this picture isn’t about the breastfeeding at all despite the caption.

I also feel really uncomfortable about using a picture of the child in that state to advertise the jewellery?

Maybe I’m old and out of touch and I know, I know, I should mind my business but I don’t follow her it popped up as a sponsored post on my feed and it’s bothered me.

[Fembot123]

@JackieWeaverHandforthCouncil

I don’t think this normalises breastfeeding at all. It makes it look a bit like Gwynth Paltrow wank.

In hundreds of years people will look back at this time and ask why people had to be naked to spread awareness for stuff.

The mum’s photoshopped to hit, it’s about how she looks not about breastfeeding.

Hopefully they’ll all be naked and just wondering what all the fuss was about.

[Hallyup5]

@Fembot123

I thought she wasn’t in her knickers 😁

Maybe not, but I haven't seen this picture and the vast majority of women on social media campaigns are breastfeeding in just their underwear. It's not a solitary issue, in my experience.

[Fembot123]

So what’s worse to you knickers or no

[jessstan2]

@JackieWeaverHandforthCouncil

I don’t think this normalises breastfeeding at all. It makes it look a bit like Gwynth Paltrow wank.

In hundreds of years people will look back at this time and ask why people had to be naked to spread awareness for stuff.

The mum’s photoshopped to hit, it’s about how she looks not about breastfeeding.

I agree, the breastfeeding is incidental. Anyway breastfeeding is already normal and always has been. You don't usually lie around gracefully posed and completely naked with an un-nappied baby to prove it.

[CuthbertDibbleandGrubb]

Perhaps if breastfeeding was the only time pictures of breasts were shown on social media or exchanged between people, we might have a healthier relationship with our bodies. It might reduce just a tiny bit the hassle larger breasted teenagers and young women get.

[SmallPrawnEnergy]

Women have fought for hundreds of years to have their bodily autonomy
If you’re going down that road then what about this child’s bodily autonomy? It’s barely even able to focus on shapes and had its naked body and personal information splashed about the internet for all and sundry, or does that not matter because the child is just that... a child to be used as a prop until it can object?

[TheKeatingFive]

Naked baby pictures are not exactly a new thing.

[Fembot123]

@CuthbertDibbleandGrubb

Perhaps if breastfeeding was the only time pictures of breasts were shown on social media or exchanged between people, we might have a healthier relationship with our bodies. It might reduce just a tiny bit the hassle larger breasted teenagers and young women get.

I’d love to see women of all shapes and sizes breastfeeding with impunity. I watched a program recently where woman were talking about another woman breastfeeding in a restaurant (you couldn’t even see her breast particularly) saying it was disgusting and she should do it in the toilet.

[5128gap]

@JackieWeaverHandforthCouncil

I don’t think this normalises breastfeeding at all. It makes it look a bit like Gwynth Paltrow wank.

In hundreds of years people will look back at this time and ask why people had to be naked to spread awareness for stuff.

The mum’s photoshopped to hit, it’s about how she looks not about breastfeeding.

The shot that was shown on this thread shows a young woman looking extremely beautiful in accordance with the current aesthetic, all hips and tiny waist, smooth skin, with an immaculate backdrop, decorated to current asthetics; while on her phone, indicating she still has a social life and can combine this effortlessly with BF.
It's not so much normalising BF, but more making it part of the aspirational lifestyle.

[Fembot123]

Making it aspirational to people that may not previously have considered it must be a good thing surely.

[Zancah]

[quote SoMuchBadInfo]@zancah

"breastfeeding jewellery is completely unnecessary"

So is pain relief during labour. So are houses. So is the device you're typing on right now, in fact the woman in the picture is more genuine than the bitter and jealous women on this site, who bitch and moan about how hard it is to be a woman, a mum, a wife etc etc etc.

Yet you take the first opportunity to put this woman down?

You'd think she was on the front page of pornhub the way you're all acting. It's a tastefully done shot that she'll probably treasure.

Anyone seeing this as sexual, on a site dominated by women is quite gross, really.[/quote]


What the fuck are you on about 😂😂
Fake opals made from bodily fluids are a bit further down the pecking order than a roof over your head.
Were you pissed when you wrote that?

[greeneyedlulu]

I boak more at how staged the photo is rather than the nudity or bm jewellery, friend had a ring made and it looks like a pearl set in a ring, its quite pretty. And that poor kid "mummy needs a prop so come here and take your clothes off and let me annoy you by changing position a few times" who breastfeeds kneeling down? My knees would die!!

[Sansaplans]

@SmallPrawnEnergy

Women have fought for hundreds of years to have their bodily autonomy
If you’re going down that road then what about this child’s bodily autonomy? It’s barely even able to focus on shapes and had its naked body and personal information splashed about the internet for all and sundry, or does that not matter because the child is just that... a child to be used as a prop until it can object?

Hopefully in the future those children who are exploited for social media views and thus money made off of the back of showing them and giving out details about them to the whole world can stake a claim on the monies made.

Also as we have one of the lowest BFing rates in the world, I don't think a picture will do anything to change that. If anything social media and films etc have historically painted BFing as easy just because it's natural. For many it isn't. If I was still struggling through those first hellish weeks and saw that I would think I was doing something wrong because that effortless image didn't reflect my reality. People can post what they want, but I think attributing it to anything above self promotion is a bit much.

[Fembot123]

I get the feeling that if the mum was overweight and naked people would say it was liberating.

[DYWMB]

@Fembot123

I get the feeling that if the mum was overweight and naked people would say it was liberating.

And brave. Don't forget brave.

[Fembot123]

Yes brave too 😁

[notanothersaveusername]

Nah. Doesn't bother me.

[SueSaid]

I don't think any 'influencer' should exploit their dc on sm whatever they are promoting. Particularly when both are naked, dc should have their privacy protected.

[Fairyliz]

Bloody hell is everything in life now turned into an opportunity to flog stuff? No wonder the environment is in crisis with people buying useless tat.
Although perhaps this could be a business opportunity I could transform DH’s huge shits into doorstops or something. Any buyers?

[SpaceBatAngelDragon]

@Mollymalone123

Breast milk jewellery- wanky nonsense

You have given me an idea. "First Ejaculation" jewellery. For the Tarquins with everything as a coming of age present.

[Swoonforpeterbishop]

It isn’t that particular picture that’s been posted up thread that I had seen. I didn’t want to post it to give it more views and also because I suspected it would turn into a witch-hunt against the influencer in the picture which wasn’t my aim.

Yes yes to every poster who has highlighted that my issue isn’t with breastfeeding at all, but the fact a baby (she’s actually nearly two I think so I probably should have highlighted that) is having her privacy invaded in such a way. And there’s no use comparing it to adverts because we don’t know any details about those children - here it’s been posted on a grid/stories daily and people feel like they know the child.

I breast fed my son in public, at friends houses etc etc I have no issue with that but I also never stripped off completely naked to do so. I would feel the same if the woman was fat, thin, beautiful or not (to my eye).

[Fembot123]

I personally wouldn’t buy breastmilk jewellery but equally don’t think you can compare it to your husband’s shits, unless your husband’s shits have nourished your baby in some way and if they have then you have deeper issues 😂😂

[LagneyandCasey]

There's obviously nothing wrong with bf pics and those fully naked photos are fine if kept private, but all over the internet for the child's future teen friends to see to potentially rip the piss out of them ... NO.

I wonder about the kids of social media stars and how they'll feel about all the photos and videos when they're older. The least their parents should do is keep them clothed. Babies do all look the same, but to a teen it is still very much THEM. Maybe some teens would be cool with it but I know all of mine wouldn't.

[LoisWilkersonslastnerve]

Now that I've seen the photo its worse. Awful. So staged. Even bonding with our children is up for sale.

[Fembot123]

It would have helped me immensely to see new mums breastfeeding with at least their top halves showing when I had my first, it would have made me feel a lot more confident in what my post partum body looked like, all I saw was mums who had ‘bounced back’ and were straight into bikinis. This is in reference to the comments about all the breastfeeding pictures around today being nude ones.