Double barrelled names?

[CantFightTheBeat]

Am I the only one to hate them?

Amelia-Rose or Lily-Mae etc. They’re everywhere. Someone I know recently revealed the name of their daughter and she was called similar to Amelia-Rose Mya Charlotte Smith, why so many god damn names for one kid.

I’ve also recently discovered double barrelled boys name are a thing like Charlie-James. I think I hate these more.

Please vote away and let me know if I’m unhinged.

I wonder how often children with such names have to correct other people about how their name is spelt? Same as with unconventional spellings.

@CantFightTheBeat

It is *@Fembot123*

I think I confused situations by calling them double barrelled names when I meant hyphenated! I didn’t realise until someone corrected me that there was even a difference.

Ahh I see, well as I’ve said I don’t like them as they are a mouthful and I don’t think they carry over well when people are adults but I feel that about any cutesy name as well.

@NotATomato

It is.

I don’t mind double barrelled last names, a few children we know have them.

I really don’t understand hyphenated middle names. For example Amelia Lily-Rose Smith, makes no sense to me.

@NotATomato, Isn't it because DC1 is something like Louis George or Charlotte May, so they want to keep to one middle name?

Lily-Rose is two flowers so it's a bit silly.

@PandaFluff

I wouldn’t say it’s snobbery to express a dislike for something. Am I a snob because I don’t like cheese? Because I don’t like the look of new build houses? Because I don’t like fizzy pop? Or is it just because I don’t like hyphenated names?

You used to be able to tell who was posh through double barrelled surnames, now any commoner can do it 😆

I think some confusion came from the first post having a go at a hyphenated double name and a double-barrelled surname, so people are giving an opinion on either and both.

It's more than a bit sensitive to hate something so innocuous rather than it just not being your kind of thing. You've gone from 'hate' and 'god damn names' to just don't like it, so maybe you were exaggerating or see that now, but that alters the response.

Yes, this is currently a trend, one that has spawned many threads like this where people are called chavs & rednecks and how double names are a calling sign for which children are going to be trouble which is probably wearing for some people. It's a trend that's happened before and in some areas has been going on for a while to the point it's a running joke like in the video.

It's not really just 'a few strangers on the internet', there is a wider social attitude that some groups' trends are fine to be hated and mocked that these comments reflect. It can be tiring and some respond to that just like everyone else's opinion is on their experiences.

For me, it's little skin off my nose, I just find it amusing the idea that this is so often viewed as new and chavvy as I was raised with double names just being old fashioned with little difference if it was hyphenated or not.

[quote CantFightTheBeat]@PandaFluff

I wouldn’t say it’s snobbery to express a dislike for something. Am I a snob because I don’t like cheese? Because I don’t like the look of new build houses? Because I don’t like fizzy pop? Or is it just because I don’t like hyphenated names?[/quote]
No your post was fine but some of the others have decended into snobbery

TheGumption
TiredSloth
I'd never randomly tell someone I hated their child's hyphenated name but unfortunately it does give an immediate impression.
and what impression is that exactly?
Erm...it's pretty much an indicator to avoid at all costs and it has served me well throughout years of attending toddler groups and now the school playground
Not the child's fault though.

I'm a nice, normal person. I have a degree and a fairly middle class job despite living in a housing association house and being skint. I'm not "chavvy" (whatever that means). I am just, as I said, a nice, normal person. I double barrelled my surname on marriage and my dc have that same name. One dc has a hyphenated 1st name (one that hasn't been mentioned on here yet) because dh and I think it is lovely.

I'm glad you'd avoid me at all costs because you sound awfully snobby and judgemental and I don't need that kind of negativity in my life.

Oh hell yes. In DCs small village primary, there were eight girls in the reception class. Six of them had hyphenated names (that were used in full). Such a mouthful! And three of them were almost the same!

Ella-Louise
Eva-May
Amelia-Grace
Ava-Mae
Evie-May
Amy-Rose

They’re so pretentious and “luvvie” I hate them.

I just find them boring, like Grace/May/Rose are the default middle names of all girls at the minute.

Why do you find them boring? Other than being at a baptism of an infant or directly asking, how do you know the middle names of other people’s children? I don’t know the middle names of my very good friends, let alone random children. For the middle names I know (family members), I have to say I wouldn’t have an opinion one way or another. You hear it once, then you forget it.
Growing up most people used family names as middle names so there was a high chance of somebody’s middle name being easily guessed. It never occurred to me to wonder if a middle name is boring. Nobody knows or cares much surely?

@clarepetal

Why the hate for double barrelled names? My boyfriend and I aren't married and both wanted our son to have our name. We decided to double barrel to have both our names, problem solved. And people hate us for this?

Exactly the same for me and my partner and our little boy.

We’re not married and unlikely to marry (completely my decision). I wanted our child to have my surname, he wanted our child to share his surname as he also has an older child and wanted them to have the same name. Therefore we double barrelled it. In day to day use I’m happy for only the second name of his surname to be used but officially he has both of our surnames. Not sure why anyone would hate this tbh?

I think hate is a strong word. A lot of people just think its a bit naff.

Why do you find them boring?

Because they are boring.

Why do you find them boring? Other than being at a baptism of an infant or directly asking, how do you know the middle names of other people’s children?

I work with children.
I read the baby names board.
I have primary aged children, all the girls seem to have Rose/Grace/May as a hyphenated name. It’s boring when you hear the same names several times a day. It’s a phase like any name. That do?

It’s boring when you hear the same names several times a day.

How awful of those parents to not take in to consideration that you might get bored when you hear their child’s name! So selfish of them.

That do?

No it doesn’t really.

You have confused middle names with hyphenated names.

All just so much middle class crap really, what was wrong with just one name, and a change for the woman when she marries? Nothing, but in this brave new age where aspiration is all, why not alter your name just in case you are mistaken for the Surrey so and so's or the Guildford so and so's?? All pretentious rubbish to me, indulged in by the pretentious to achieve some kind of recognition, conversation starter etc and uneccessary to me.

Not your child so not sure why you’re pressed about it. Call your children what you want, don’t worry about others.

All just so much middle class crap really, what was wrong with just one name, and a change for the woman when she marries?

@Steptoeshorse1965 I would argue that there is a lot wrong with just expecting a woman to change her name upon marriage. I’m not saying that double barrelled is the answer for everyone but neither is just expecting the wife to change her name.

You have confused middle names with hyphenated names.

Oh bore off.

It's traditional to take your husbands name upon marriage. Marriage in itself is traditional. Nuff said.

I have a stupid hyphenated first name. I'm well into my 40s now and even when I was born in the 70s it was stupid. I've always hated it and mostly been called by the first of my two names (because even my parents were too lazy to call me by the whole stupid name they gave me) or a shorter version of that first name. Ridiculous.
My family didn't do middle names though my parents and aunts and uncles don't have middle names. So I gave my kids 2 middle names each which is probably as bad as hyphenating tbh 🤦🏼‍♀️

Why do you find them boring?

Because they are boring.

@KirstenBlest you know that’s not a fact right?

It's traditional to take your husbands name upon marriage. Marriage in itself is traditional. Nuff said.

@Steptoeshorse1965 and we should never question traditions? Some are very antiquated and damaging. If a woman WANTS to then fine but if she doesn’t then she should never be expected to. It’s not something I would do as my name is mine and I don’t want to change it.