Double barrelled names?

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Am I the only one to hate them?

Amelia-Rose or Lily-Mae etc. They’re everywhere. Someone I know recently revealed the name of their daughter and she was called similar to Amelia-Rose Mya Charlotte Smith, why so many god damn names for one kid.

I’ve also recently discovered double barrelled boys name are a thing like Charlie-James. I think I hate these more.

Please vote away and let me know if I’m unhinged.

@Therunecaster
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She said you don't hear of many Jades going to university. It fair broke my heart.*

I really like the name Jade

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She said you don't hear of many Jades going to university. It fair broke my heart.*

I really like the name Jade[/quote]
Me too and think that’s a random opinion, I know a couple of very smart Jades.

Ooh I hate them. And I judge people who use then, very favourably I might add. All the Lily-Mae’s etc. For one thing, it’s a mouthful, secondly it’s sounds stupid.

She said you don't hear of many Jades going to university. It fair broke my heart.

Speaking as someone with one of those 60s names, it turns out that people called Tracy, Sharon etc. do indeed go to university and appear in top roles, so the names have lost their connotations, although I do like to think there’s a bit of solidarity amongst us. Jade has the advantage of being a beautiful word (to my ear at least).

Personally I’m not keen on the frilly sounding hyphenated names, simply because they sound unserious (to my ear), but no doubt in 40 years Gracie-Mae will be a surgeon, a teacher, a plumber, a lawyer and everyone will roll their eyes at Sarah and Louise.

Double barrelled surnames are fine. I had one for a good while, and know lots of people who have either hyphenated after marriage or have called their children both surnames. The children can then do what they want - use one, both, change their names when they marry, split and reattach parts of their double barrelled names to create a new one... who cares?

I have a couple of Spanish colleagues who tell me that everyone has two surnames, one from each of their parents’ two surnames. I like that.

the passing thought ‘yeah, I don’t really like hyphenated names’

But that’s not what is going on in threads like these. It’s a bunch of judgements on class, “concern” about school registers, myopic thoughts on naming conventions.

Although Neither of my kids have hyphenated first names, and I commented from the perspective of someone who has lived in several counties.
— I do find it a bit odd and unnecessary to be have more than a passing thought, because naming conventions are so local and often temporary. Again, it’s like caring which tea your neighbour drinks when you’re not there.

This thread is quite mean. Dd has one of these terrible names and we are as middle class as they come. I was 24 when I had dd and just thought it was a pretty name. We only use the first part. I don’t think that makes us ‘chavs.’ What is a chav anyway? We are all human. It’s never light hearted when you are naming specific names and saying how you judge the parents. Judge people by their treatment of others, not the name they choose for their child.

My DD1 has a hyphenated first name and double barrelled surname

I only double barrelled her surname as she is disabled and medical appointments were becoming a nuscience with questions re names.

We aren't chavvy or rich or any other stereotype

@BeingATwatItsABingThing yes, I do know that, I've worked in schools. However, when half the class had the same first name the second name came into play.

I hate hyphenated names too, so twee and sickly sounding. Sarah-Jane, Sally-Sue, John-Joe etc just sound ridiculous to me.

It’s a personal preference. Fine to not like the name, but not to judge others as ‘chavs.’ I have an Oxford degree and a successful career and I have given one of these ‘chavvy’ names to my dd. But even if I were a ‘chav’ (working class? Poor? Low social capital?) it doesn’t make it ok for others to stand in judgement.

DD2 has a double barrelled surname as her DF wouldn't accept using my name. I won't use it besides on official documentation.

When I signed her up for the Doctor's I gave her my name, but got caught out when they received her birth certificate details!

2) You don’t find those made up hyphenated names in posh social circles

@Firebird83 you do know that all names are made up right? And a name is just a name? Our names can feel like part of our identity and to label people (children!) chavs because of it is just so mean and says way more about you than them. People who look down on others are just the absolute worst and the world would be a much better place if people like that weren’t in it.

@tiredmum2468

I dislike double barrelled names even more I'll be honest If your miss Jones and you marry mr Smith Then call yourself Jones-Smith What's the bloody point If you don't want someone else's name don't use it stay with your maiden name

Marriage is not about the name

What do the kids get called?

I just wonder what's going to happen to all these double-barrelled surnames in a generation or two. Are we going to end up with classes full of children with quadruple-barrelled surnames?

My kids aren't double barrelled but have there first name, family middle name (george) and grandparent name (one is husbands dad other us mine)

So

@Hallyup5 in countries where double-barrelled is standard upon marriage they use one part of each person's surname

So judgy. Let people choose the name they want.

I see it as a way of ruining two names.

The hyphenated names are usually overused names like Sarah-Jane, Emma-Louise, or Ellie-May, or they just don't flow Jade-Lily, or they don't make much sense like Ivy-Rose.

[quote whiteroseredrose]@BeingATwatItsABingThing yes, I do know that, I've worked in schools. However, when half the class had the same first name the second name came into play. [/quote]
Really? Their full name every time? Not just their first name and last initial?

I know someone named something along the lines of Laura-Rachel. It is sometimes hard enough to remember somebody's first name without there being two quite unexpected names. I thought Laura-Rachel would grow up and drop one of the names but she hasn't.

Laura-Rachel both lovely names separately, doesn’t roll off the tongue when put together. What a mouthful, how tedious.

Im sure Hermione-Poppy or Isabelle-Amelia may sound nice but it’s a pain in the arse for the rest of the world if you insist on both being said/written at all times.

I'll never be able to hear a hyphenated name now without thinking 'Crappy-Rose' or 'Ava-Crappy'
I'd never randomly tell someone I hated their child's hyphenated name but unfortunately it does give an immediate impression.

I'd never randomly tell someone I hated their child's hyphenated name but unfortunately it does give an immediate impression.

@TheGumption and what impression is that exactly?

@TiredSloth

I'd never randomly tell someone I hated their child's hyphenated name but unfortunately it does give an immediate impression.

@TheGumption and what impression is that exactly?

Erm...it's pretty much an indicator to avoid at all costs and it has served me well throughout years of attending toddler groups and now the school playground Not the child's fault though.

I just find them boring, like Grace/May/Rose are the default middle names of all girls at the minute. It’s the Louise of the 80s.

Erm...it's pretty much an indicator to avoid at all costs and it has served me well throughout years of attending toddler groups and now the school playground smile
Not the child's fault though.

@TheGumption but what exactly do you mean by that? So you’re at a toddler group and there’s a mum there on her own who looks nervous but because her dd is called Ella-Grace you would avoid her at all costs? For what reason? I don’t understand. Is it because she might be working class?