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Everyone moaning about why lockdown is so hard for them

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1onway1under12and1over18 · 02/04/2021 20:08

Aibu but does everyone have a reason as to why in their specific circumstance lockdown has been the hardest for them. Be it living alone, living with partner, living with young kids, pregnant, given birth, furloughed, having to work, homeschooling...on & on. Everyone seems to think their particular circumstance is so much harder than the next person. We’ve all suffered, sacrificed, been through hell. Why does your home life/ reason make you more at reason to give up on restrictions / have had enough of it by now than the next person?

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RedcurrantPuff · 02/04/2021 22:31

I haven’t come across this at all.

TheOneWithTheBigNose · 02/04/2021 22:33

Another OP who posts something she thinks is controversial and then fucks off.
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RedcurrantPuff · 02/04/2021 22:34

@NutellaEllaElla

Some people are just moaners.

I've found parents to be complaining the most. Apparently having to care for own your kids full time is the worst thing ever.

Caring for my kids full time is easy, I’ve got years of experience.

Home schooling a senior school kid and one with learning difficulties while having to work in my own stressful client facing job at the same time, less so.

MsScoot · 02/04/2021 22:35

Lots of folk have had it hard in so many different ways. It’s just been shit. And everyone is entitled to a wee moan:
If nothing else it makes you feel a bit better to know that you’re not alone

Mamabear12 · 02/04/2021 22:35

Of course parents would most likely moan more then others pp. It’s one thing to take care of your dc. But to homeschool them, trying to get them to do all the school work, do the house work while taking care of a new baby, let’s see how you handle that. Not everyone is in the same position. But let’s just say it’s bloody difficult to home school two children in TWO languages while you have a newborn in tow. My third was born Dec 2019, right before the lockdown began. Now she is 15 months. I was hoping to just enjoy the newborn/baby stage while the older two were in school. Instead I’ve had to homeschool the older two while trying my best w the baby. And some other parents have to home school and work.

So yes, I get why parents would moan. It’s completely different just taking care of your kids, taking them to the park, playing with them and feeding them to homeschooling them all day long. Homeschool is not easy. Kids don’t always want to just sit and do the school work. It is hard.

But anyway, yes everyone has their own battles. And I look on the bright side, my kids had a happy time with family. It was bloody hard for me. But we had more meals together with my dh working from home, games together, family time with the newborn etc. But yea; still very difficult!

FrasierCraneDay · 02/04/2021 22:37

I must be one of those moaners. Home schooling two children, one high school who can more of less deal with it, one primary that needs input on everything. Then I still have to do my actual job, oh and I have ptsd too. So yeh, I am moaning Hmm

itsnotmeitsu · 02/04/2021 22:39

@Junipersky > Feel for you and your boy. I hope things will be back to your normal for him (and you) before too long. He's your baby, and you're his mum. It's horrific how our social interactions have been thrown away because of Covid 19.

someoneiou · 02/04/2021 22:40

You joking?

In the last lockdown I had a just turned 2 year old and a just turned 1 year old, in a flat.

It was absolute hell on Earth.

thinkingaboutLangCleg · 02/04/2021 22:41

I feel for everyone having a hard time — that’s lots of people — and I’m glad if they can get a bit of relief by having a rant here. Sending Flowers and Brew to everyone who’s feeling down. Good times will come again.

LemonSherbetFancies · 02/04/2021 22:42

For me personally, the hardest thing has been living away from my partner and not being able to see him for long periods of time. We have both found that terribly hard and it has been very upsetting for us.
Can't wait for life to return to normal again.

Barneybear11 · 02/04/2021 22:44

I don’t think my circumstances are worse than any one else’s, but they’re not a bed of roses and I can’t help but moan after a year of it.

elliejjtiny · 02/04/2021 22:45

I'm more than happy to look after my own children. I just hate it when all the places we can go to closed and I had to help the dc with their school work. But it was my 12 year old's suicide attempt that nearly broke me. Especially as I wasn't allowed to visit him in hospital because of covid. (His dad took him in because he can drive and is the calm one. In normal times I would have phoned my pil and asked them to look after the other dc and give me a lift to the hospital but with covid ds was only allowed one visitor throughout, even though he was in resus and hdu. I couldn't have anybody to come and support me either).

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 02/04/2021 22:48

Sort of yanbu, but also YABU a bit because some of the complainers have got a lot to complain about, while some really don’t!

Whatafool123 · 02/04/2021 22:49

:37MrsKeats

I'm sick of all the moaning.
Imagine some of these people enduring 6 years of World War Two then austerity and rationing for years.

If you're sick of the moaning, then maybe avoid the threads with people moaning? Leave them to those of us who like a bit of moaning.

And I doubt people have changed that much. I expect plenty of people moaned during WW2 etc too. They just don't write about it in the history books.

Lockdown is shit. It's much much worse for some than others. But it's still shit for (almost) everyone.

MzHz · 02/04/2021 22:49

The “worst” is subjective

What’s the worst day for you is just that

Others have their Worst days

Your worst is your worst, mine is mine.

Doesn’t stop us being sympathetic or helpful does it?

This situation is shit for everyone in its own way

Everyone has and is suffering their own way.

We will get through this, the main thing is to not lose sight of this fact

QuiteContraryMarie · 02/04/2021 22:51

If I said what I really think, that I’ve quite enjoyed lockdown, that I happily joined the sourdough and banana bread brigade. That I’ve enjoyed working from home. Have loved having more time hanging out with my family and friends (daily walks with a single friend). No FOMO. I’ve really enjoyed it.
Or would a moan be preferable...

Scbchl · 02/04/2021 22:54

I dont feel like that at all.

PickAChew · 02/04/2021 22:55

@NutellaEllaElla

Some people are just moaners.

I've found parents to be complaining the most. Apparently having to care for own your kids full time is the worst thing ever.

Having to care for a severely autistic teen who is absolutely bereft at having all his usual things taken away from him, without any understanding of the reasons, has been pretty crap, tbh.
Ttbhappy · 02/04/2021 23:05

Just all let's be kind and support each other through these difficult times. People may come across as moaning to you but maybe that is there way of expressing and or dealing with the pain that I think everyone is going through mentally and maybe physically.

worriedatthemoment · 02/04/2021 23:07

Because its been shit for the vast majority of us and we all have different breaking points and some will def of had it worse than others as peoples circumstances are all different, im sure being stuck in a flat with 3 kids is a little harder than being stuck in a large detached with an acre of land, keeping your job as opposed to
Loosing it etc
But even then something which might seem minor to me could be awful for someone else

toocold54 · 02/04/2021 23:08

I completely agree I remember reading one that said how lucky single parents were because they must enjoy their children’s company whereas a single parent would obviously feel a two parent family were better off. There has been multiple times where people wfh were saying they had it worse as they don’t see anyone but the people who work in shops/hospitals were saying they would rather wfh as they’re putting themselves at risk.

AfternoonToffee · 02/04/2021 23:11

@MrsKeats

I'm sick of all the moaning. Imagine some of these people enduring 6 years of World War Two then austerity and rationing for years.
You know what my MIL was 7 when WWII started, she was originally evacuated but her and her sisters came back as the eldest found it too difficult. This last year and therefore the last year of her life has been pretty dreadful. She would often cry down the phone to us when she was in hospital, I had a dreadful call from her in her final weeks. Her sister saw her twice, the second time when she was literally dying.

So FO with your WWII analogies as you have no fucking idea how difficult it has been for them.

EmmaOvary · 02/04/2021 23:13

EVERYONE IS MOANING ABOUT LOCKDOWN, wah wah, moans OP

CrazySheepLady · 02/04/2021 23:16

I do get a bit annoyed when I hear people moaning about being stuck at home, fot this reason or that reason. You're right, OP. There definitely seems to be a twisted kind of competition to have it worse than the next person.

Maybe they need to think about the people for whom lockdown is their life; people who are housebound or bedbound because of illness or disability.

Febo24 · 02/04/2021 23:23

"Be Kind" is a concept that didn't really hang about did it. OP and @NutellaEllaElla are proof of that.

Absolutely spot on to the PPs who pointed out that we can surely recognise that we're allowed to feel our situation is shit whilst acknowledging others situations are shit too, and that there are varying degrees of shit and it's not a competition.

It's shit.