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Original poster

You can just say 'my husband' or 'my daughter', you know, instead of bloody 'DH' or 'DD'. WE WILL STILL BE ABLE TO UNDERSTAND YOU!

366 replies

MehWithBellsOn · 01/04/2021 17:23

How refreshing would it be, just for once, to see someone here state 'my husband' instead of their 'DH'?!

It's such a sappy wet-lettuce thing to say anyway, plus half the bloody time there are threads about how someone's 'darling' husband has been found to be texting some other woman/cam girl/sex worker, etc

It's as though people here think nobody will be able to understand them unless they preface the person they're talking about with 'darling'. WHY?!

WHEN WILL WE STOP THE TWATTERY?

OP posts:
whenthebellsring · 01/04/2021 18:15

Or "D" H.

BRB2021 · 01/04/2021 18:16

I am with you OP 100%. It drives me mad when poster is talking about their DGF and I am thinking wow their grandfather is a bit of a racy character - he did WHAT at the weekend with a bottle of vino...then realise they are talking about their girlfriend Hmm JUST FLIPPING SAY GIRLFRIEND

Or 'DH' has been having an affair/slagging me off/spent all the kids piggy bank money on weed etc - spoils it for the real Darling Husbands who dont treat their partners like shite

whenthebellsring · 01/04/2021 18:16

Damn that was to @JemimaTiggywinkle

Posters are quick!

Oblomov21 · 01/04/2021 18:17

Clearly you've got a major strop on today.
Never bothered me.

littlepattilou · 01/04/2021 18:17

@MehWithBellsOn I am on the fence here. DD for daughter, DS for son, and DH for husband is ok IMO.

On the other hand I see DSS for stepson, DSD for stepdaughter, DM for mother, DF for father, (and DF for fiance too just to add to the confusion,) and DC for children (if they can't be bothered to put DD and DS.) Then there's DSIL and DBIL and DMIL and DFIL for sis in law, bro in law, mum in law and father in law. So all the acronyms are a bit much IMO.

So it is all a bit mad really.

What really REALLY boils my piss though (as a number of posters have mentioned... ) is DCAT! .... and DDOG! D- FUCKING - CAT and D - FUCKING DOG!!! That's a whole new level of batshittery. Just put cat or dog you fucking weirdo! Hmm

@CovoidOfAllHumanity It's not a mumsnet thing. When I was on the ivillage forum around 1998 to 2002, and also a couple of other chat forums in the late 90s and early noughties, loads of posters used 'DH' for their husband, DD for their daughter, DM for their mother etc...

icebearforpresident · 01/04/2021 18:17

It drives me mad and I still do it all the time.

I might start referring to him as my hubby, just to see what happens

gamerchick · 01/04/2021 18:18

It's an age old argument and is rehashed at least once a year OP Grin

Yes it's irritating but just don't use it yourself.

LookAChicken · 01/04/2021 18:18

op Written by a good typist!

whenthebellsring · 01/04/2021 18:18

@Twiglets1

I've only just started using Mumsnet and I must admit while some of the disussions are interesting, certain elements are cringe and this is one of them.

Also, Mumsnet? The title needs updating to reflect the fact we are more than just mums. Some may not be mums at all, some may even be Dads. Isn't everyone welcome?

I think that DShip has sailed. DMumsnet is a brand name now so can't be changed.
MrsMackesy · 01/04/2021 18:19

@Twiglets1

I've only just started using Mumsnet and I must admit while some of the disussions are interesting, certain elements are cringe and this is one of them.

Also, Mumsnet? The title needs updating to reflect the fact we are more than just mums. Some may not be mums at all, some may even be Dads. Isn't everyone welcome?

Everyone non-hairy handed is welcome, yes. But you want to write mums out of history here now?

First they came for our women, then they came for our acronyms, then they came for our mums....

Roussette · 01/04/2021 18:19

I always remember when I was writing something on the relationships board and referred to my husband as my H someone sent me a horrible PM (or DM or whatever theyre called) saying..
My marriage must be in serious trouble if I can't call my H, DH, so I had no right offering advice to anyone else Shock

littlepattilou · 01/04/2021 18:19

@BRB2021

I am with you OP 100%. It drives me mad when poster is talking about their DGF and I am thinking wow their grandfather is a bit of a racy character - he did WHAT at the weekend with a bottle of vino...then realise they are talking about their girlfriend hmm JUST FLIPPING SAY GIRLFRIEND.

This is the sort of thing I was on about ... DGF ??? Just say girlfriend.

Even GF cannot work, as it also means goady fucker. Grin

Doublevodka · 01/04/2021 18:19

I'm with you OP. I love Mumsnet but hate the DD, DH. I read a lot of stuff on here too, but I still gave to stop and think about what the abbreviation means cause it just doesn't flow for me personally. I often type daughter or husband.

MrsKoala · 01/04/2021 18:20

I always use H for my husband because I think it’s clear that H stands for husband so I don’t understand the need for the D part. I’m usually saying what a berk he’s been too, so it seems a bit odd. In rl I used to accidentally refer to fil as Phil (not his name) because I’d used fil so much on here. Grin

muddyford · 01/04/2021 18:21

I use the full words, mostly. Many of the acronyms aren't in the MN guide so some threads are impenetrable. Best one is FFS. And my stepson is definitely not dear. Perhaps we could have NDSS etc.

gamerchick · 01/04/2021 18:21

@Twiglets1

I've only just started using Mumsnet and I must admit while some of the disussions are interesting, certain elements are cringe and this is one of them.

Also, Mumsnet? The title needs updating to reflect the fact we are more than just mums. Some may not be mums at all, some may even be Dads. Isn't everyone welcome?

That's a other age old discussion that gets rehashed. Everyone is welcome, it doesn't need changing.
butterpuffed · 01/04/2021 18:21

Or 'DH' has been having an affair/slagging me off/spent all the kids piggy bank money on weed etc - spoils it for the real Darling Husbands who dont treat their partners like shite

The lousy ones should be demoted from DH to SH , Shit Husband

BrownEyedGirl80 · 01/04/2021 18:21

It's just a mn thing.I sometimes nearly use it when messaging friends and family though and have to stop myself!

littlepattilou · 01/04/2021 18:23

@Twiglets1

Rude. Hmm

littlepattilou · 01/04/2021 18:23

@butterpuffed

Or 'DH' has been having an affair/slagging me off/spent all the kids piggy bank money on weed etc - spoils it for the real Darling Husbands who dont treat their partners like shite

The lousy ones should be demoted from DH to SH , Shit Husband

Grin
SwanShaped · 01/04/2021 18:23

I always type it out. Takes longer to put caps on and change the autocorrect of DH. Same with DS or DD. Prob made sense when people used laptops. But doesn’t make sense on a phone.

tangerinelollipop · 01/04/2021 18:25

The last sentence in your OP sums it up nicely for me Grin

2bazookas · 01/04/2021 18:25

WTF? they are just abbreviations.

justasking111 · 01/04/2021 18:25

@Spanielsarepainless

I use the full words, mostly. Many of the acronyms aren't in the MN guide so some threads are impenetrable. Best one is FFS. And my stepson is definitely not dear. Perhaps we could have NDSS etc.
I cannot comment or support the impenetrable ones.
spiderlight · 01/04/2021 18:26

I did once spend far too long trying to work out why a poster was so upset that the family doctor wasn't going to her child's Christmas play Blush