To think oral sex is unpleasant?

[barnabybarbie]

Name changed for obvious reasons.

I should specify - I mean receiving oral sex, not giving it. Giving it I don't mind either way, but receiving really gives me the ick for some reason (even hypothetically from someone I'm otherwise attracted to).

Am I alone in this?

@Pinchoftums

I hate it when they look up all slobbery

This is what made me spit my tea!

Weird, I love getting it, hate giving it, always have. Just the initials BJ make me cringe.

No way - I love it - if it is done right of course.

Perhaps your partner/whomever doesn't have a good technique @barnabybarbie ? Just a possibility of course.

I’m the other way around; I don’t like giving it, and DH wasn’t that good at it, so we don’t bother with oral. I think the growth of pornography has made it go more mainstream, but it doesn’t have to be done if you don’t like it.

Reading about how it can increase your mouth cancer risk means I’m not sorry about not giving it either!

@PeggyHill

I used to think it was unpleasant, and then I met DH. Turns out I just needed someone to do it properly. Now I love it.

This

Happy to give, won't receive
No, I don't just need "someone who knows what they're doing"
Don't like it

It's my favourite thing to receive. But I've only ever felt comfortable with my husband, would not feel as comfortable with a stranger or short term partner.
I think it's one of the most intimate things ever, and I love that he has to work hard to get me to orgasm. I can't orgasm from penetration so the act of sex does absolutely nothing for me. So the oral is my pleasure really.
But I absolutely hate giving. I will do when asked but its horribly uncomfortable for me. It hurts my mouth trying to cover my teeth and I've got a very sensitive gag reflex

@VestaTilley it can but only if one of you has HPV.

I agree. The temperature is wrong and saliva is a poor lubricant.

I’m surprised with everyone saying most men are shit. I’ve slept with 15 men and all but 2 have been pretty good at it- some great!

@garlicbread82 that Petit Filous thing sounds weird, is he even focusing on your clit?! It’s definitely not gonna be good if he’s just licking out your vagina

If you don't generally feel sexual as a person

@Ginuwine I don't think any/many people have said that. I can be sexual I just don't like that particular thing at all, I prefer other things. There are probably things I like(d) that you don't like maybe.

Giving oral to a man I mostly find a chore. But I hope to have a female partner again next time, and then I don't mind it. A lot of women don't like giving it to men (though I know some do.) A lot of women do it due to feeling they should as part of sex.

I admire the rare woman who tells her partner she doesn't like giving it. Sex should be based on what we genuinely enjoy doing.

it does close to nothing for me. I had a bf who insisted and it took 45 mins to get there

I've been with a number of men who go on about how much they love it and love doing it for ages and....inevitably they're bad and stop shy of 5 minutes!

Horrible.. especially to think when you kiss your oh his mouth has been on another ladies area....😳

It's just too intimate.
I used to think yeah it's OK but now it feels too personal.

Oh god I hate it. Giving us great but receiving, no no.no

And yes I'm body confident, still hate it

I don't like it. I don't think it's icky or gross or anything, it just doesn't do a lot for me and I've tried it with different partners with different technique. Still nope.

I love receiving however my OH is very skilled at it;I think if you have a partner who's crap at it it's very off putting.

I hate this attitude. Would people say this about other sexual acts? Is it really so hard to believe that some people don’t like specific things, and it’s not just that we’ve never had it done right? That sounds like something a gross man would say while trying to coerce you into sex acts you don’t want.

I don’t particularly enjoy it either, even if the person doing it is skilled at it. I don’t like the sensation of it, it’s that simple.

Hate giving, love receiving - I am the worst person :)

I'm 41 years old and have never tried it - giving or receiving, but enjoy an active sex life with dh.

I just don't like the idea of tasting someone's bits or someone tasting mine. Each to their own and all that.

When I was younger a fwb I had thought oral sex was where you put your tongue inside a womans vagina and move it in and out. He basically tried fo f**k me with his tongue 🤣🤣 his mind was blown when I told him what you are actually supposed to do.

I love receiving, and I like watching dh whilst he does it. He's the only man who can make me squirt wee too. I also like that he smells like me after (if I don't wee). I like giving sometimes, I like how I make DH feel when I do it, but I don't like giving as much as receiving

I don't really like receiving and would be happy never to do it again. It can be good if I'm in the right mood but a lot of effort to be relaxed and TBH I prefer other things more.
Love giving however

@Shinesun14

I love receiving, and I like watching dh whilst he does it. He's the only man who can make me squirt wee too. I also like that he smells like me after (if I don't wee). I like giving sometimes, I like how I make DH feel when I do it, but I don't like giving as much as receiving

This thread is making me feel nauseous