To think oral sex is unpleasant?

[barnabybarbie]

Name changed for obvious reasons.

I should specify - I mean receiving oral sex, not giving it. Giving it I don't mind either way, but receiving really gives me the ick for some reason (even hypothetically from someone I'm otherwise attracted to).

Am I alone in this?

Dullardmullard I personally enjoy going straight to penetrate sex. If I'm in the mood for sex, I'm already warmed up. I dislike all foreplay.

Nope, never liked it either. Not the right sort of pressure for me. Had lots of diff partners try over many years but nope. Not for me.

But I'm one of those women that apparently don't exist - I only orgasm from penetrative piv sex. And can get there in 5 mins or less start to finish. We're all different

You are definitely not alone! I hate receiving. There's a face all men pull whilst they look up all expectantly. No. Just no. Even thinking of the face turns me right off! Men are all so keen to tell me it's because I've not tried them and every single one of them does the face and just makes me feel slimy.

For me it's not a body confidence thing either - I always shower so I don't worry about any smell and I wouldn't be wasting time in bed with the guy if I didn't feel sexy in his presence, whatever my size

I personally find french kissing more intimate than someone giving me oral. I don’t really enjoy kissing much though.

I think this isn't an uncommon thing at all, and I think that for most of us, it has its roots in all of the jokes about women smelling like fish. We take that to heart without knowing that we do so.

LOL, the last man who made a fish joke heard, "Well, the damned pond wouldn't smell if you men would quit dumping tadpoles in there!"

Before DH, no as previous BFs were shit at it, though to be fair I was a teenager then.
DH is amazing at it and loves to do it. But it's mostly the fingers/hands, just tongue doesn't do it for me. Like PPs said, just wet and slimy.
I also much prefer it as part of a 69 (DH's favourite position and we do it as part of nearly every sex session) as I'm more comfortable and less exposed in that position (lying side on) and able to relax into the sensation more if I'm occupying myself with my part of the job!

I just feel self conscious and a bit of a lemon receiving. Not wild on giving but like it better than receiving

Is anyone else who's never had an orgasm from anything anyone else has done to them reading this thread wistfully How awesome it must feel!

Love it, giving and receiving (as a woman who sleeps with women maybe this forms a larger part of activities? Or maybe that's just an assumption.)

I think some women can find it hard to get into if not fully turned on, but when fully aroused can often enjoy it more. If squirmy sensation is an issue it can definitely help to start oral over underwear before progressing.

And then different techniques work for different people...it's really all about having an attentive partner who knows what is working by paying close attention to body & hip movements, breathing, sounds, hands gripping forward or pushing back, establishing whether penetration is wanted as well or not. I think if uncertain its always best to back off a bit, kiss around inner thighs etc, and wait for the hips to shuffle back to you / get pulled back in by hand. Certainly wouldn't be any fun to have someone ploughing on regardless of your responses.

I've only ever really enjoyed it with 2 partners, one in particular was so good at it, I felt guilty that I wasn't sharing him with my friends 😂. The rest were just rubbish at it.
I'm happily married now to someone who is very good in bed but not in that particular area. Can't have it all 😀

Love it.

Giving it tho......I don’t understand women who rave about it.....your clits not nestled up by your tonsils.

@deviantant

You are definitely not alone! I hate receiving. There's a face all men pull whilst they look up all expectantly. No. Just no. Even thinking of the face turns me right off! Men are all so keen to tell me it's because I've not tried them and every single one of them does the face and just makes me feel slimy.

For me it's not a body confidence thing either - I always shower so I don't worry about any smell and I wouldn't be wasting time in bed with the guy if I didn't feel sexy in his presence, whatever my size

Ha, oh yes, the face. Instant turn off.

I never used to like it untill a few years ago when met a partner that made me feel completely comfortable and gained so much self confidence then all of a sudden it changed and I really enjoyed it. I think it was definitely a self confidence thing with me an now I know how good it is I wouldn't go without.

If given choice now about receive it or give it I would receive happily.

I wouldn't say yabu because it's personal preference but personally, I'm a fan lol.
DH is very good at it, to the point where I'm pretty sure I've gone temporarily blind at times when I've cum lol. I also love making eye contact with him when he does it, the look in his eyes as he's doing it is seriously a turn on. He loves giving it too.
But I also love kissing him after Sometimes I will kiss him later in the day and still smell that faint smell of "me", like I've marked my territory on him. I appreciate that makes me sound like a total weirdo though lol.

@Purplewithred

If dh was on mastermind his specialist subject could be Giving Oral. Definitely my favourite, from him.

So would mine I often say to him there should be a cunnilingus Olympics and you would win gold, silver and bronze

@Pinchoftums

I hate it when they look up all slobbery

Like a St Bernard. With you on that. And they look at you with the hooded eyes and hairy lips like you should be grateful. Ffs. Why can't they just be useful and get the car MOTd

OP, have you given thought to posting this in the "unpopular opinion" thread?

It's the only way I can orgasm BUT it simultaneously makes me really uncomfortable; like a PP i get paranoid that I smell or taste weird.

DP also seems to be.... wetter (shudder) than I've had it before.

If anyone has any tips I can pass on to him (tactfully), they'd be very gratefully received!

Having never gone down on a woman, I've no idea what I can suggest to him.

I think it depends l, I used to hate it and feel really stressed out and uncomfortable during until I met my last partner. Turns out my ex’s were just exceedingly bad at oral and he wasn’t, with the right person it can be amazing.

.But I love giving oral and rimming do far from a prude

I wouldn't call a woman a "prude" for disliking any sexual activity, even if all she liked was missionary sex. Or no sex. Names like that have always been used to shame women sexually - pride, frigid, slut etc.

I love it, everything about it. So does DH, thankfully.

I also love PIV too - I can finish this way in just a few minutes, which is quicker than from oral. It’s good for us as we both then finish together, which I know can be difficult to achieve.

My DH is the kind of person who really throws himself into whatever he’s doing. There’s NOTHING he’s not good at because he makes sure he does a good job at everything.

OP, have you given thought to posting this in the "unpopular opinion" thread?

I had not! But if anyone would like to nab this thought and post it to that thread they absolutely have my blessing.

Bit TMI (sorry) but I think maybe I have quite niche needs. E.g. very small clockwise circles that I imagine would be a bit sore on the tongue after a while

Though for all the women who enjoy it, I commend you, and go find your DHs / DPs

Love giving. Love receiving. Preferably at the same time.

I totally agree. The pressure just isn’t specific enough. And god I am so sick of blokes being all... ‘Oh, I think you’ll find with me you’ll change your mind...’ and I’m like ‘Err, I’m nearly 50. I know what I like thank you very much!’

YANBU