To report her to the police (potential tw)

[redova]

I've been lurking for a while but this is my first post

My eldest is 17 in a couple of weeks. When he was 15 his friend told me that ds was talking to a woman (18/19) and he thought it was wrong but ds didn't listen. I spoke to ds and he lied at first but then he said he messaged her first and they weren't in a relationship and I thought he blocked her. A month later I found out he was meeting her but lying and saying he was meeting his mates etc. Ds said they didn't do anything and they just talked. I spoke to his school as I had no idea what to do but he told them that they were just friends. Ds then started dating a girl from his school and I thought that was the end of it. Until yesterday, Ds told me that this woman is pregnant (3/4 months I think) and she's saying he's the dad and he told me they're in a relationship. He's been refusing to talk about it as 'they've done nothing wrong' but I find this disgusting that ds is 16 and she's about 20/21.

Aibu if I phoned the police?

@crosspelican how are things now?

[quote greeneyedlulu]@crosspelican how are things now? [/quote]
Sorry should be @redova

Just a different perspective

I got with my boyfriend a month before I turned 15, he was 16 and was 17 that year and he was my first boyfriend, I liked him because he was more mature than the boys my age. We started having sex when I was 15, he didn't force me. My mum found out and she not happy but she just made sure I was on taking the pill, I would've been mortified if she reported him to the police! This was a couple of years ago. I recently gave birth to our son and he's an amazing dad to him. His family wasn't happy at first but now they've supported us. I'd also be mortified if they tried to say I was lying about being pregnant.

My son is 16, whilst I wouldn’t be massively happy if he had a girlfriend of 21 it’s certainly not something I’d consider calling the police about. If she is pregnant and he is the father she will always be in your life so tread very carefully. The only thing that will happy is your son will side with her and end up leaving and then you’ll end up with a son not speaking to you and a grandchild you won’t know. I think you have no choice but to move on from the age gap and be supportive, find out what their plans are and speak to your son about the fact he needs to start stepping up now he’s going to be a father

He went to his dads over the Easter weekend and his dad spoke to him but ds didn't say much (he just said what he told me). When he got home he seemed like before( refused to speak about her etc) and he's still like that. Although I do know that she got annoyed at him for going out with his mates the other day as he wasn't replying to her.

Tbh I’d intervene. Police chat do anything if your son was 16 when sex happened.

However as she’s an adult I’d be paying her a visit to discuss her pregnancy and what support she needed

*police can’t.