To ask what your biggest regret in life is?

[SylviaPlath1984]

Or even what you feel you might regret in the future if you don't do it soon?

I regret not taking school more seriously or trying harder, not making more of myself.

What about you?

Not leaving my husband 14 years ago, I love him but I couldn't take it anymore after the birth of her second kid and wanted a divorce, he told me he would change and that he loved me and I believed him but in fact he was just giving time for himself to be financially independent and to make sure I will not go back to my home country with the kids. Now I am stuck here, can't go back home as it will be too disruptive for the kids and to top it up we had another kid when clearly he did not love me, she is 6 years old so I am further stuck here. He left when she was 3 and he told me that I should be grateful to him as he stayed that long with me because of the kids, he did not want to leave us when they were young.

Not taking a job at British airways when I was19.

I regret leaving my career to move overseas with a man who turned out to not be worth it.

Not buying that flat in 1998 for £18k as I thought that was a huge amount of debt to take on. Said flat sold last year for £250k!

Working my butt off studying, in the belief I’d get better jobs. It doesn’t work that way at all.

Not leaving my partner. I had children with him very quickly and I adore them but I have wasted 20 + years with someone I don't like and I have no way out. I have no money to get out

Regret not telling more people to feck off.

My biggest regret is having an emotional affair with a married man (lasted a month), while I am, myself, married. I torture myself every day about it. My husband knows and he's choosen to forgive me but I can't & will never forgive myself.

Wish id have had help with anxiety earlier-still have it mind but my school years were unbearable leading me to leave at 15 with nothing

For leaving an absolutely lovely guy that I was dating when I was 17.

I naively thought that there were many more out there who were as good, if not better, than him. I was wrong.

Not pushing myself to do more - I always took the easy option to avoid failing. I often wonder what I could have achieved if I'd just pushed myself out of my comfort zone a bit.

Absolutely this for me too. For me it's a self-belief thing. And self-belief is something I regret not working harder on. I appear outwardly self-confident but the fact that I have very little belief in myself is like a deep dark secret I carry.

Oh and I regret not sleeping with other men before getting married

"I'm now in the happiest relationship but unfortunately have been unable to fall pregnant and doing IVF. I will always feel this is my karma for the abortion."

It's not karma. It's conceivably physical damage from the abortion. But I expect your doctors have looked into that.

i regret not having more confidence in myself when i was younger and beating myself up constantly about silly stuff!
i regret getting into debt and having nothing to show for it but that is sorted out now!
i wish i had had more fun in my twenties and not wasted time with stupid guys who made me miserable! wish i had been a lot more slutty!
that said its made me the person i am now and that feels ok!

Pleasebe2022

Spending so much money on horses. I had horses from a kid but had to pay for them myself from 18 until 35 when I gave them up. I enjoyed a lot of it but I'd be mortgage free now if I hadnt had them

I totally get it about the mortgage, but think of the fun you had with your horses. Think about riding out on a day like today with the blossom and Hawthorn and cantering along with a breeze in your face.....the love one feels for one’s horses......the fact they had a wonderful home with you......their greeting you in the morning......the partnership between you.
Please don’t regret it.

Getting married young .
Craving attention from boys when I was young( wasters and users)
Having kids
Not focusing on a proper career when I had chance.

@OchreBlue

So so many, I wish I'd not gone to uni. I love gardening and wanted to go into horticulture but wasn't allowed as it was seen as a non-academic career at the time. From that point onwards I feel like I've regretted every aspect of my life, each decision led on from that point and was a step further away from what was in my heart. I couldn't be further from the life I want now but can't find a way to change it.

Quick NC for this one as it's very outing with other stuff I've posted. Just wanted to say Ochre that I changed career in my late 40s and went into horticulture. Horticultural courses often have a lot of career changers, as do some of the traineeships available. There's a one year apprenticeship called the WRAGS scheme run by a charity called WFGA which is almost all women career changers, and they run a few workshops for women wanting to get into horticulture. You can also do the RHS level 2 and 3 hort qualifications by distance learning. It's (obviously) not a well paid job, so probably not practical if you have a big mortgage, but if you can afford to do it, don't feel you've left it too late. I have worked for myself and as an employee in a big private garden. I've found private clients are very positive about my age, and it's never seemed to be an issue when I've applied for jobs. Career changers are really very common in this industry and I've met people from all sorts of career backgrounds.

Going travelling for a year before having kids and settling down. My ex persuaded me we should buy a house instead but that could’ve waited. Should have dumped him and gone :-)

Getting into debt at 19. I was in a financially abusive relationship for a long time. I’m nearly 40 now and only just recovering my credit score and things. I’ll never get a mortgage.

Tbh, I can't think of any. I am quite content with my life now.

Feeling you on this one x

I don't have any huge regrets, I kind of feel like I am where I am supposed to be in life generally. I sometimes wish I had pushed myself a bit more and had a bit more self belief in my younger days, I wanted to be a journalist/writer, and sometimes imagine a life where I am stomping round London as a vair important person, but then again I just wonder if my personality was just not meant for that sort of thing.

I do regret not using sunscreen properly when I was younger, and getting hideously sunburnt several times. I have already had one type of cancer and I am convinced skin cancer is waiting in the wings for me now, but there isn't much I can do about it now I guess!

1. That DM brought me up to be so cautious and unconfident; it's cost me so much over the years.
2. That I'd met DH earlier. I had 15+ years of truly awful relationships because I had so little self-worth.
3. That I'd known my dad. He died when I was 7 and I know so little about him.

I’m so sorry you went through that LavenderLollies, and didn’t receive better care or advice. I certainly didn’t know low supply could be so dangerous and I’m sure many others don’t.

I’ve got loads! All mainly stem from low confidence and self -esteem. Wish I could go back and tell my younger self to be braver and that I deserved more.

Staying in Cirencester. Wasting one bloody second of my life on Gloucestershire social services and bent local govt ombudsman processes.