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What's one overdone thing that is popular now but everyone will embarrassed by in 5 years time?

745 replies

Trulyatraditionalman · 26/03/2021 15:09

I'll start:

High waisted trousers with crop tops
Lip liner that goes over the top of cupid's bow

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Parker231 · 28/03/2021 09:25

@sandgrown - I’ve found Walnut Whips (with walnut) in M&S - my weekly treat - love them.

UnderHisAye · 28/03/2021 09:56

@Maddison12

What's wrong with crushed velvet or grey or mirrored furniture? Why all the sneering? Why would it bother anyone what people have in their houses?

And fwiw I doubt the big bum/ eyelashes brigade give a fuck what middle-aged women on mumsnet think of them.

Maybe 'middle aged woman' won't be the ultimate insult in 5 years' time 🤷🏻‍♀️
cheshirecat777 · 28/03/2021 10:11

woodburners - v bad in lots of ways

grey interiors

unicorns

sandgrown · 28/03/2021 10:12

@Parker231 thank you ! I will look . Teenage DS tried to get them for Mother’s Day but no joy.

RachelRoth · 28/03/2021 10:14

Maybe 'middle aged woman' won't be the ultimate insult in 5 years' time
I hoping for misogyny only from men in five years. But I’m not hopeful.

EggBobbin · 28/03/2021 10:19

The big bum brigade sound amazing. I hope they do parades.

apurplecar · 28/03/2021 10:59

[quote Cowbells]@apurplecar - absolutely. Yes of course it is. (I'm working on it.) But I find it odd that being anorexically thin is revered in our society when it is far more likely to kill you, ruin your chance of fertility, weaken your bones etc than being overweight.[/quote]
It sure is weird. I suppose it shows a level of self-restraint and discipline which is attractive to us, maybe.

Whereas being overweight is really easy to achieve

NerrSnerr · 28/03/2021 11:05

Someone who is seriously ill with anorexia is very different to someone who is very slim or very overweight. It's a serious and enduring mental health problem with a very high mortality rate. It's not just someone who has psychological issues with food and cannot be compared at all.

MarieDelaere · 28/03/2021 11:18

@EggBobbin

The big bum brigade sound amazing. I hope they do parades.
With that Queen song blasting out as the soundtrack ...
PapaSierra · 28/03/2021 11:24

This thread should be in classics so in 5 years we can see if we're right!

midsomermurderess · 28/03/2021 11:34

This thread should probably be deleted because it is essentially just yet another bi-weekly sneering hate fest.

RedToothBrush · 28/03/2021 11:35

@Cowbells

Being overweight is surely healthier than being underweight though. People can be ten or even fifteen stone overweight and still alive. But most underweight people can only get to about two or three stones under the lowest recommended BMI weight before they become seriously ill and die. If I were as much underweight as I am overweight people would be horrified and worried. In my current state of fatness, I am completely unremarkable.
Perhaps it would be better if people stopped using strawman arguments to justify to themselves that it is ok to be underweight or overweight. There are significantly more health consequences for both. I was reading an ONS survey on life expectancy for men and women last week based on economic demographics and what i found was shocking was not simply the difference in life expectancy between the most and least deprived. It was also the quality of life. Women in the most deprived areas are spending the last third of their life in poor health. Even in the least reprived women were spending up to 10 years longer in poor health compared to men. I suspect this is almost certainly going to be related to higher rates of cognitive decline and dementia in women.

This morning i've seen this article:
www.thetimes.co.uk/article/obese-young-are-piling-on-memory-risk-along-with-the-pounds-8rs7gwrl2
Obese young are piling on memory risk along with the pounds
People who are overweight in their twenties and thirties are more likely to suffer a swifter mental decline in later life

Millions of young people are likely to have problems with basic thinking and memory skills later in life because they are too fat, a landmark study suggests.

Those in their twenties and thirties who are obese or have high levels of blood pressure or glucose will suffer a swifter decline in their mental ability decades later, according to the research published in Neurology, a leading medical journal on disorders of the nervous system. More than four million young adults are officially obese in Britain, a new analysis of data reveals today.

“These results are striking and suggest that early adulthood may be a critical time for the relationship between these health issues and late-life cognitive skills,” said Dr Kristine Yaffe, of the University of California

The minimisation of being overweight and obese has increased due to more people being overweight and obese. It doesn't help anyone to say 'well its better than being too thin' and it doesn't help to be 'body positive' about a health issue.

There are a multitude of reasons for it. Some are marketing, some are mental health, some are genetic, some are an inactive lifestyle. This is an issue that needs confronting properly rather than being normalised. Encouraging people to do nothing because its difficult or 'there isn't enough support or understanding' is part of the problem. Theres enough people in this situation to create political pressure and to create support groups and networks with others in similar situations. So why isn't this happening? People dont want to face up to this and instead make excuses and create strawmen.

Ultimately the issue here is people don't want to take it seriously for a multitude of reasons and anyone who confronts this is put down as 'fat shaming' rather than spelling out reality.

This is part of a wider culture where people want to live in fantasy land and pretend problems don't exist as it clashes with their ideological view of the world. This doesn't even stop the wall of reality and people eventually colliding with it.

It would be helpful if we all opened our eyes to material reality and took action to acknowledge its existence even it tells us some uncomfortable things which don't fit neatly with what we would prefer to believe.

whetherpigshavewings · 28/03/2021 11:41

@PapaSierra

This thread should be in classics so in 5 years we can see if we're right!
MN should have a special calendar to schedule threads like this to pop up on a certain month and year Grin
whetherpigshavewings · 28/03/2021 11:46

@ElephantsNest

Definitely flight shaming. Already there is shaming of people who go on ‘fly and flop’ holidays. Slow travel by luxury train or yacht will be seen as more aspirational and environmentally responsible.
of course "slow travel" is aspirational.

Who will be able to find the time and afford those? In many companies, senior members of staff and management have a lot more paid holidays.

LadyFidgetAndHerHandbag · 28/03/2021 11:55

The grey hair look on those under 40

Does that include those of us who have gone quite grey (and in fact a good chunk of white) before 40 and can't be arsed with with the expense and upkeep of dying our hair?

CroutonsAvatar · 28/03/2021 12:01

Mumble singing/rap. Lip fillers.

MarieDelaere · 28/03/2021 12:10

That stripped-back, high-pitched, breathy and warbly singing style that many young solo singers have adopted.

Makes me yearn for a bit of Deep Purple.

PattyPan · 28/03/2021 12:39

@whetherpigshavewings you can make the journey part of the holiday, you don’t need to necessarily make the trip longer. I went to school with a girl who was from southern Italy but I think one of her parents hated to fly so they used to drive back from the U.K. to see their relatives, they would stop overnight and visit somewhere in France on the way. I’m planning a trip to Slovenia by train for next year with a stop in Munich which I’ve heard is lovely but I don’t think I’d go there for a whole holiday, so it’s a good way to visit places like that.

Gladimnotcampinginthisweather · 28/03/2021 12:42

Munich is lovely. Visit the Zug Spitze.

Helocariad · 28/03/2021 12:48

@MarieDelaere

That stripped-back, high-pitched, breathy and warbly singing style that many young solo singers have adopted.

Makes me yearn for a bit of Deep Purple.

Couldn't agree more! Having 'issues' atm with the music my teenage DC listen to on a near-constant basis :-D
likeamillpond · 28/03/2021 12:49

@theDudesmummy

I had not really seen that Drag Queen Sorytime thing before, have just looked it up and wow! That is totally unacceptable.

Drag as adult entertainment in a club or something I can get my head around (although I dislike it and object to it, that is by the by, if consenting adults want to watch it, OK, there are many things I personally dislike and would not watch, I would not want them banned). But purposely pushing an oversexualised and sneering parody of women in small childen's faces? (Yes, I know about pantomime dames, that again is not the same thing, it is a stage character, not supposed to be a real life person).

I am aware that people will disagree with me.

I don't disagree with you. I suspect many others don't either.

Drag queens around young children is all kinds of wrong.
And in my opinion its
Should be a safeguarding issue.

ElephantsNest · 28/03/2021 13:14

Slow travel - Who will be able to find the time and afford those?

People who earn enough to be able to afford it, just like now. The travel industry is on its knees due to COVID and big changes are afoot due to rising awareness of the environment in the year of COP26.

Juliesipadwillcallyouback · 28/03/2021 13:48

This is part of a wider culture where people want to live in fantasy land and pretend problems don't exist as it clashes with their ideological view of the world. This doesn't even stop the wall of reality and people eventually colliding with it.

It would be helpful if we all opened our eyes to material reality and took action to acknowledge its existence even it tells us some uncomfortable things which don't fit neatly with what we would prefer to believe.

This so true for so many things right now!

whetherpigshavewings · 28/03/2021 14:51

@ElephantsNest

Slow travel - Who will be able to find the time and afford those?

People who earn enough to be able to afford it, just like now. The travel industry is on its knees due to COVID and big changes are afoot due to rising awareness of the environment in the year of COP26.

you can go away for a week for next to nothing these days, a few hundred pounds get you an all-inclusive week to Spain, to Croatia... maybe not the most luxurious hotels, but still a beach holiday.

People who already spend a few thousands for 10 days- 2 weeks might do a bit of both. The ones who can't afford that won't give up on the only thing they can afford. Why should they really. If you work full time all year, no reason why you shouldn't be able to go away, you earned it.

After being stuck in the UK for nearly a year, and barely managing a trip abroad last summer, I am not the only one who is going away the minute the borders reopen (on both sides).

ShadierThanaPalmTree · 28/03/2021 20:33

So basically, anything that a young woman likes or does, excellent Shock. Stop being so bloody bitter.