AIBU to hate mums who turn up to drop off kids in pyjamas

[MiscUser9823]

AIBU to hate mums who turn up to drop off kids in pyjamas?

Mainly because these are the same ones who are also usually swearing in public and shouting down their mobile phones, and/or their kids.

Although hate is obv. too strong, I agree OP.

I wish I looked half as glamorous as the pajama wearing ladies in the Vauxhall ads.

A raised eyebrow certainly, but otherwise I wouldn't be fussed. There will be plenty of pants of the judgy sort being worn by other people, so let them crack on.

I really cannot understand this obsession with pyjamas. Are they clean? Do they cover all the relevant body parts? Then they are fine. Some of my pyjama bottoms aren’t very different from my drawstring summer trousers anyway, and I wear both with a T-shirt type top - why is one OK and one not?

I do both school runs every day and have done for 11 years now and have never once come across a mum in visible PJs. Im sure some have the PJ tops on under their coats but have never spotted any. I wish I did :(

@MiscUser9823

AIBU to hate mums who turn up to drop off kids in pyjamas?

Mainly because these are the same ones who are also usually swearing in public and shouting down their mobile phones, and/or their kids.

Do they also live in council houses, have massive tellies and have their hair scraped up into a really high pony tail?

How very dare they?!

Wow. You’ve certainly had your arse handed to you haven’t you op? Heaven forbid you try to start a discussion on a site where people have discussions and throw ideas and thoughts around.
Also, why are other posters automatically assuming you’re referring to them also being fat and unemployed?? Why would that be their first thought?

It's tacky and a poor example.

Yes that happened.

I have to say, I've lived in many different areas in my life, cities and villages, middle-class and areas of desperate poverty, yet I genuinely never notice anyone out and about in their jammies during the day. The 'worst' I've ever seen is those sliders that look a bit like slippers. The only time I've noticed PJ's in public is when I was in university - the student halls were absolutely awful for drunks tripping the fire alarm, so often at 3am there were a small army of students in nightwear making laps of the closest 24 shop to keep warm.

Otherwise, I really think that this is just a 'Mumsnet Thing' - something that seems to exist in another dimension or parallel world and only crosses over on this forum....

YABVU

Am I unreasonable to ‘hate’ mums who judge others for something that is non of their business?

Have to say its a bit of a pet hate of mine...its like an announcement to the world that you havent bothered to shower that morning

If I see someone out in their jamas I usually think “lazy”. It doesn’t take five minutes to get dressed. Other than a quick thought it’s not something I pay much attention to. I think part of me admires them for not giving a shit.

Oh come on, we did this the other day.

What about the gym bunny mums.full make up,gym kit,Croydon face lift
Either they
A)Put on gym gear and full make up and do zero exercise (other than neck craning at the other mums). So they gym kit is an affectation
B) exercise and remain sweaty and grimy all day in dirty kit and claggy make up

Maybe you live in a crappy area? No one where I live wears PJs.

(Being judged is horrible isn’t it?)

I sometimes see our neighbours a few doors down doing the school run or popping out in pyjamas, and people might be judgmental about that. But I happen to know they both work shifts, so if one is out in their pyjamas once in a while, it probably means they've not just bothered to do the school run, but bothered to do it in the middle of what would be their night.

It's really snobby and also dismissive of people with hidden disabilities to judge what they wear. In future, are people who get long Covid going to feel obliged to sleep in leggings or gym wear, so that if they're too exhausted to both have a shower and also do the school run, people won't judge them?

I don't like seeing people in pyjamas in public. To me , it smacks of 'I can't be bothered' which is, in itself, an attitude to life.

Shift working is no excuse .

I know I'm in a minority, I don't care, it's just slovenly.

Comfort yes... bed wear no.

Interesting to note the number of pyjama wearing ladies in full make up , rocking up to school so it's not just tired shift workers.

I completely agree. A school near us sent email to parents asking them not to wear pajamas as it send the wrong message to kids - who they expect to be smartly addressed for school.

@MaskingForIt

I never said that.....if thats what you think, fine. But I never said anything like that. If I had a point to make regarding something else, ill be specific about it!

All I am implying is that the mums in pyjamas tend to be quite vulgar. And I dont think they set a good example for their kids.

@duffeldaisy

I sometimes see our neighbours a few doors down doing the school run or popping out in pyjamas, and people might be judgmental about that. But I happen to know they both work shifts, so if one is out in their pyjamas once in a while, it probably means they've not just bothered to do the school run, but bothered to do it in the middle of what would be their night.

It's really snobby and also dismissive of people with hidden disabilities to judge what they wear. In future, are people who get long Covid going to feel obliged to sleep in leggings or gym wear, so that if they're too exhausted to both have a shower and also do the school run, people won't judge them?

I used to be a shift worker for 5 years, still never wore pyjamas in public. But actually would understand if this was the case. However, im 95% sure these mums are not shift workers.

@zoemum2006

Maybe you live in a crappy area? No one where I live wears PJs.

(Being judged is horrible isn’t it?)

Tbh, my area used to be very nice and very quiet. But in last 10 to 20 years has gone seriously down hill. So youre not wrong.

Do dads ever do this? Or is it something only mums do?

I’ve never actually noticed anyone doing it.

I wear a PJ top under my coat sometimes with leggings on the school run. Tbf I'd be mortified wearing my house coat or PJ bottoms.
I have seen it a handful of times from the same few. I genuinely think one lady doesn't have a coat as she is dressed in day clothes under it.

@DragonPoop

It’s so judgy so I try not to let it annoy me but for some reason it really just irks me, there are 2/3 mums at DS’s school who drop off/pick up their kids in pjs and a dressing down every day. I think it takes less than 2 minutes to shove on a hoodie/sweatshirt and leggings instead of just your pjs, you don’t need to be dressed up or have a full face of makeup but just be dressed as a minimum- more for the sake of their kids (I know I would be embarrassed if my mum picked me up from school/dropped me off in her pj’s/dressing gown)

Exactly. PJs are for home, not to go out in. Even if you're only dropping the kids off at school.

You say that you will say straight out what you're thinking, but then say you are 'merely' implying ... Make your mind up. And nothing about this is a discussion, throwing ideas around, as a pp suggested. It's this site at its worst, playing in to lazy stereotypes of what people like you regard as the underclasses behaving badly. It offers nothing of any value to anything or anyone.