AIBU to hate mums who turn up to drop off kids in pyjamas

[MiscUser9823]

AIBU to hate mums who turn up to drop off kids in pyjamas?

Mainly because these are the same ones who are also usually swearing in public and shouting down their mobile phones, and/or their kids.

Mumsnet posters are often bizarrely judgemental about all sorts of things. But wearing pyjamas out in public? Oh no, this is something which must be vehemently defended. Even though we all know that everyone on here would think badly of someone wandering Asda or the school playground with their pyjamas/bathrobe on.

I rarely see it, but when I do I think it's completely grotty. Most of society does.

It’s not something I’d do, but I don’t think I’d hate someone for this or anything like it!

How long are you standing around at the school gates for this to bother you? You really need a hobby.

I dislike people in pyjamas in public

But why?

I honestly don't care,maybe because I don't see it often. But it doesn't harm me, it doesn't harm my kids, the local wildlife or rescue puppies.

It literally has no impact on my life, morals or principles.

Why do you care so much? How do you find the will?

I think that it isn’t so much a case of defending parents who go to the school in pyjamas (I literally haven’t seen anybody do this). It’s just that I can’t believe how much some people care what other people do, when it has zero impact on their lives.

Also, as I said, if I saw a parent I knew wearing pyjamas, especially if it was out of character, I would think that they were possibly in a bad place and not think negatively about it.

You'd hate the chap who frequently wanders round my town. He usually wears some really out there patterned pjs, bare feet in slippers and a down filled coat. Whether its winter or not.

But wearing pyjamas out in public? Oh no, this is something which must be vehemently defended

I don't think that most people here are vehemently defending the public wearing of nightwear. Just saying that (a) we don't automatically hate and despise everyone who does it and (b- in my case at any rate) we don't automatically assume that everyone who does it must come with a set of other undesirable characteristics..

I don’t know whether it’s just the area I live in but I used to live in a large city and I’ve honestly seen maybe 2 or 3 people outdoors in pyjamas in my life. Both were during the onesie phase when people just seemed to wear them 24/7.

I’ve never seen it but given what a terror DD can still be in the mornings, if I did I’d be most inclined to sympathise and think what a shit morning they must have had.

What about trousers that look like pjs? I often wear some patterned jersey wonders that could probably be mistaken for them? Is that as bad?

I’ve never seen that kind of behaviour in prep school, perhaps unsurprisingly, and I wouldn’t hate them but I would privately judge the hell out of them.
It doesn’t take much to throw a pair of jeans and jumper on, even if you haven’t had a shower or put make up on.

You don’t think your ‘hate’ would be better directed towards other subjects?

Honestly OP, what kind of person could get worked up about this?

Today I did early morning drop off in pyjamas, inspired by this thread. It was comfy!

@MiscUser9823

AIBU to hate mums who turn up to drop off kids in pyjamas?

Mainly because these are the same ones who are also usually swearing in public and shouting down their mobile phones, and/or their kids.

Honestly I’ve never ever seen one, if I do, can’t say I’d hate her, unless she was also smoking a fag, swearing at her kid, and farting at the same time (she would have to be doing all three). Is this an issue outside of London?

It was semi-fashionable when I was an Oxford undergrad for students to go to lectures in pyjamas and Ugg boots.

I have never seen anybody pick their children up in pyjamas. People can do a lot worse than dress inappropriately.

Embarrassing for their kids, though surely?

If you're out in public in pyjamas, it's unlikely that you've showered that day and, judgemental or not, I find that pretty gross.

I knew a few shift workers that were maybe in sleepwear/loungewear rather than pyjamas when they dropped their children off at school in the morning. One stayed in the car but was often clearly in pyjamas.

I think they were very discrete about it rather than flaunting it with shouting and swearing.

I judged those casting the nasty comments about it rather than those dressed in their sleepwear.

I did, up until the start of Covid.

"It doesn't matter how you get up, as long as you show up" is my new motto.

I've lost people I love.

We're going through Hell. I'm sure Hell allows for pj's as day wear.

I drop off/pick up occasionally in pyjamas, slippers and all (mahabis so have a sole).

It's brilliant. Affluent area as well and I've never had a dirty look off any other parent. I'm either lucky or blind as a bat

YANBU. If they are sloppy enough to be seen in public in their pj's then can you imagine how sloppy their parenting is. Absolute scummers. Poor kids.

If you're out in public in pyjamas, it's unlikely that you've showered that day and, judgemental or not, I find that pretty gross.

Maybe they shower at night?

@TheKeatingFive

If you're out in public in pyjamas, it's unlikely that you've showered that day and, judgemental or not, I find that pretty gross.

Maybe they shower at night?

I prefer to shower at night.. I have more energy then than I do in the morning.

It really is a thing, but I know single mothers of 5 kids who are able to get washed and dressed before bringing their kids to school...

Each to their own I suppose- it isn’t a crime.

I have seen whole families in the town centre in the morning in PJs during the school holidays mind...

I think the OP using the word hate was a figure of speech, yet everyone takes it so literally 🙄yawn!