To point out what Lovebombing looks like.

[DM1209]

Day 2 of speaking to a guy with a view to dating. DAY 2.

Have done 1 video call, to ensure there is no catfishing going on, he is very, very attractive, smart and funny.

Granted that the conversation has been really easy, for long periods of time and he's very responsive and keen but there are elements of his communication which are really off.
Whenever I throw something back and ask him why he's so 'expressive', his response is that he is very open and very 'live in the moment'. I read that as he speaks without thinking and is very good at the OLD thing.

He messaged instantly with kisses at the end of his messages and has continued.

He'll make a sexual comment and then 'lol' at the end of it.

He is very open about his 'feelings'.

He's very complimentary.

He can hold a fantastic conversation and then he'll make it sexual again.

He is certain there is 'something' between us.

He is very focused on my appearance and when he first answered the video call he was nervous because he didn't expect me to look like my pictures. I think he was very practiced with that nervousness and he's done the same routine before.

I'm attaching a couple of screenshots. I am certain he's lovebombing me. I'm not concerned, I can absolutely hold my own and I've kept my responses very light, a little playful but firm when necessary.
It'll be interesting to get other peoples opinion though.

Am I being jaded?

Sounds more like he wants to get his leg over than love bombing

He sounds a bit practised at it all. There are no screenshots attached, btw

Doesn’t really sound like love bombing to me, but it also doesn’t sound like you are into him so probably best to just leave it anyway.

Not love bombing. That goes on over longer periods.

He's just being an arse. Ditch !

Isn't lovebombing more about overwhelming someone with attention, gifts, declarations of love that are too early to be serious, gifts etc.

This sounds maybe more of a 'player' type.

Sounds like 80% of the conversations I have on OLD. Wouldn't call it love bombing

That's not lovebombing. That's irritatingly forward about sex. Not the same thing at all.

If he hasn't proposed to you or asked to have your children yet, its not lovebombing. He's a more refined joey basically. Well refined maybe isn't the word, but he'll use bigger words than joey.

I love joey by the way, that's not a downer on him, just the best example I could think of.

That’s shag bombing, not love bombing.

@ClarkeGriffin

If he hasn't proposed to you or asked to have your children yet, its not lovebombing. He's a more refined joey basically. Well refined maybe isn't the word, but he'll use bigger words than joey.

I love joey by the way, that's not a downer on him, just the best example I could think of.

How YOU doin'? 😁

@SarahBellam

That’s shag bombing, not love bombing.

Yup.

OP, he just sounds like a bit of a creep.

Think he just wants a fuck really.

How have you got all of this on day 2?! On day two I would only just be replying to the second message If I got sexual comments that early on I'd be ditching them anyway.

Screenshots!

Be cautious but on day 2 it is too early to tell. Nothing sounds terrible to me. Having fantastic conversations is certainly a plus so early.

Love bombing is more showering you with attention, compliments and gifts. Then after a time controlling you by stopping the attention if you don't behave how he wants.

This definitely isn't his first rodeo. He's worked out what works for him and has got it down to a fine art. It sounds like you're suspicious of him, which is good, but remember you don't know him properly. He could turn out to be great. Or your suspicions could be well and truly correct, in which case you sound more than capable of dealing with it.

Not lovebombing (yet), but OTT and creepy. Too much too soon, and would put me off.

@CandyLeBonBon

I'm doing good baby how you doin'?

I am currently sat alone in the crater made my my exdh's lovebombing within first few dates -

"That's your favourite city? Mine too. I'll take you there"
"So and so says you're my soulmate"
"No kidding, I'm afraid of reptiles, too"
"You're so beautiful"
"We have SO much in common"

Blah, blah

Yuk
Slime ball alert
Keep us posted 🤣

Sorry Vipers, will use laptop to attach screenshots.

So the conversations over the phone are very over the top. Over text he becomes more 'we WILL have sex!'

Over the phone so far we've had:

Let's go away together or when we go away together for weekend breaks and holidays we will do x, y and z.

Him telling me he knows already when we meet (we won't be meeting!) he will fall in love fast.

The old, 'I have never wanted children with anyone but you could persuade me'.

I'd love for us to get married in Vegas.

My personal favourite, I feel like I can be completely myself around you and I know this is going to be something amazing.

By the end of conversation 1, he had told me 6 times I had blown him away.

@DM1209

Sorry Vipers, will use laptop to attach screenshots.

So the conversations over the phone are very over the top. Over text he becomes more 'we WILL have sex!'

Over the phone so far we've had:

Let's go away together or when we go away together for weekend breaks and holidays we will do x, y and z.

Him telling me he knows already when we meet (we won't be meeting!) he will fall in love fast.

The old, 'I have never wanted children with anyone but you could persuade me'.

I'd love for us to get married in Vegas.

My personal favourite, I feel like I can be completely myself around you and I know this is going to be something amazing.

By the end of conversation 1, he had told me 6 times I had blown him away.

Blimey he's going in hard and fast isn't he. It would totally put me off even if he was genuine, are you going to play along or just dump him now?

If you do dump him, tell him you just don't feel he's really interested 😂 totally confuse him

Haven’t you got better things to do than play along with this shite ?

How can you not just laugh in his face. I guess this routine must work otherwise he’d stop doing it. I’d be inclined to let him carry on ( then report back to us) just to see how far he will go.