To point out what Lovebombing looks like.

[DM1209]

Day 2 of speaking to a guy with a view to dating. DAY 2.

Have done 1 video call, to ensure there is no catfishing going on, he is very, very attractive, smart and funny.

Granted that the conversation has been really easy, for long periods of time and he's very responsive and keen but there are elements of his communication which are really off.
Whenever I throw something back and ask him why he's so 'expressive', his response is that he is very open and very 'live in the moment'. I read that as he speaks without thinking and is very good at the OLD thing.

He messaged instantly with kisses at the end of his messages and has continued.

He'll make a sexual comment and then 'lol' at the end of it.

He is very open about his 'feelings'.

He's very complimentary.

He can hold a fantastic conversation and then he'll make it sexual again.

He is certain there is 'something' between us.

He is very focused on my appearance and when he first answered the video call he was nervous because he didn't expect me to look like my pictures. I think he was very practiced with that nervousness and he's done the same routine before.

I'm attaching a couple of screenshots. I am certain he's lovebombing me. I'm not concerned, I can absolutely hold my own and I've kept my responses very light, a little playful but firm when necessary.
It'll be interesting to get other peoples opinion though.

Am I being jaded?

@happinessischocolate

If you do dump him, tell him you just don't feel he's really interested 😂 totally confuse him

I actually think you’re treating him very cruelly. You don’t know him, or his motivation. He could be lonely and think this is how to do this. If you’re not interested move on. Don’t play him.

His messages are definitely OTT. He sounds like he is going to ask for your bank details or something any time now.

Why are you replying to him if he is giving you many red flags?

He doesn't know you, so all of the rest is just made-up guff for now. Why waste time on it, though? You dated, you found out what he's like and the type of things he'll say (he's like a preprogrammed dating robot but lots will like that). Just say it's not working for me and try and find someone more authentic.

He seems impatient and inconsistent.

Doesn’t bode well if you did end up shagging him.

Still no screenshots. I smell bullshit.

Is this a reverse written by a bloke ? To gauge women's response to 'this sort of thing.'

@DianaT1969

A note to other women. If you spend as long as the OP has comminicating on day 1 & 2 (online, on a video or voice call phone and texting) he will absolutely know that you have weak boundaries. There is no way I'd be giving a stranger that much time and attention. 30mins a day and cut them off people! You have a life, hobbies, friends and family. Lockdown or no lockdown, an interesting and fulfilled person is highly unlikely to waste so much of their day on a stranger's chat up lines.

Spot on.

@DianaT1969

A note to other women. If you spend as long as the OP has comminicating on day 1 & 2 (online, on a video or voice call phone and texting) he will absolutely know that you have weak boundaries. There is no way I'd be giving a stranger that much time and attention. 30mins a day and cut them off people! You have a life, hobbies, friends and family. Lockdown or no lockdown, an interesting and fulfilled person is highly unlikely to waste so much of their day on a stranger's chat up lines.

Ordinarily - maybe. But, furloughed in lockdown, kids in school, no where to go except a walk/run?....you've got all day.

This is so far off lovebombing. This is classic player. If you are on board with a quick shag and moving on, go for it. But he will be doing this to several other women at the same time so use protection. And considering CoVid I'd probably also wear a face mask and spray him with Zoflora before we got down to it.

Lockdown doesn’t mean you should demonstrate poor boundaries to creeps you meet online. If anything it’s a better reason not to.

Do what @happinessischocolate said 👏

What a dork.

Lovebombing is what we did to my cat who scratched & hissed at everyone.

If you enjoy the flirting then carry on, OP, else he's just a sex pest.

Not RTFT.
That's not what I think of as lovebombing. That's just some tosser on OLD trying to get a shag.

This isn't love bombing, it's a bored married man who desperately wants to get into your pants!

Sounds like he's throwing everything at this in the hope something sticks and you'll drop your knickers on first meet.

Here for the screenshots.

Red flag. Nope nope nope !

@happinessischocolate

If you do dump him, tell him you just don't feel he's really interested 😂 totally confuse him

Oh please do this!

Why do fellas think this sounds good? He's a walking/talking cliché. Good luck OP, hopefully he'll disappear when he doesn't get the nudes or sex chat.

He sounds a total chancer. Steer clear.

So you’ve had a video call and all this conversation by day 2? You’re both fast workers

What’s the point of this?

@Sparklesocks

Sounds more like he wants to get his leg over than love bombing

This Lovebombing is accelerating a new relationship so that you are commited, moved in, pregnant and met his DC in record time with declarations of "only you understand me" " you are not like other women" Then once you are trapped you see what he is really like -usually abusive.

Yours is just after a shag