To point out what Lovebombing looks like.

[DM1209]

Day 2 of speaking to a guy with a view to dating. DAY 2.

Have done 1 video call, to ensure there is no catfishing going on, he is very, very attractive, smart and funny.

Granted that the conversation has been really easy, for long periods of time and he's very responsive and keen but there are elements of his communication which are really off.
Whenever I throw something back and ask him why he's so 'expressive', his response is that he is very open and very 'live in the moment'. I read that as he speaks without thinking and is very good at the OLD thing.

He messaged instantly with kisses at the end of his messages and has continued.

He'll make a sexual comment and then 'lol' at the end of it.

He is very open about his 'feelings'.

He's very complimentary.

He can hold a fantastic conversation and then he'll make it sexual again.

He is certain there is 'something' between us.

He is very focused on my appearance and when he first answered the video call he was nervous because he didn't expect me to look like my pictures. I think he was very practiced with that nervousness and he's done the same routine before.

I'm attaching a couple of screenshots. I am certain he's lovebombing me. I'm not concerned, I can absolutely hold my own and I've kept my responses very light, a little playful but firm when necessary.
It'll be interesting to get other peoples opinion though.

Am I being jaded?

@AnyFucker

Haven’t you got better things to do than play along with this shite ?

I would usually agree but lockdown innit.

Lockdown innit

That may be so, but perhaps I could interest op in the joys of paint drying

Will totally play along as and when it suits me.

I didn't communicate with him initially with a view to game playing, I was genuinely interested in him.

But his over the top declarations have made me laugh but have also made me think 'wtaf'!?

He may just be 'heart on his sleeve' type but it's not working for me and my instinct is telling me something is off.

As for finding the time, he's a distraction between my work, lockdown (when I'm not in the office) and also a training exercise for spotting those red flags. Right now he is a whole red flag in himself.

Plus he's very pleasing to look at

@happinessischocolate, this is brilliant. I definitely won't be progressing anywhere with him. Your response could be 7th time I blow him away!!!!

@AnyFucker

Lockdown innit

That may be so, but perhaps I could interest op in the joys of paint drying

I think that, in this case OP is actually performing some kind of civic duty. This is like the OLD version of keeping a 'Windows virus' scammer on the phone for 45 minutes whilst you pretend to look for your credit card details. At least OP is stopping him from bothering others with this shit, unless he is a practiced oversexed multitasker.

He wants a shag is all.

Tbh even posting this makes you sound a bit susceptible. Married in Vegas? Wtf?

I think it would be really inappropriate to post a picture of him.

He's done no crime and is entitled to privacy.

He just sounds like a Muppet.

I would never post any personal or what could be deemed as identifying information about him.

I think he and men like him are so used to women falling for this crap that they keep doing it. Considering that he keeps telling me now 'clearly you don't do romance' or 'of course I know you'll analsye this' tells me he is already somewhat aware that it's not working.

I believe he'll block me soon and move on to another woman. He's trying so hard and getting nothing positive out of me bar the odd, 'really, do you think that's normal?' Or 'how is that even logical?'

He sounds like a creep and I'd run a mile.

A shag is all he's after.

@DM1209

Sorry Vipers, will use laptop to attach screenshots.

So the conversations over the phone are very over the top. Over text he becomes more 'we WILL have sex!'

Over the phone so far we've had:

Let's go away together or when we go away together for weekend breaks and holidays we will do x, y and z.

Him telling me he knows already when we meet (we won't be meeting!) he will fall in love fast.

The old, 'I have never wanted children with anyone but you could persuade me'.

I'd love for us to get married in Vegas.

My personal favourite, I feel like I can be completely myself around you and I know this is going to be something amazing.

By the end of conversation 1, he had told me 6 times I had blown him away.

You've just said you won't be meeting, so what's the point of this thread?

Move on, he wants a shag you dont, well not with him anyway.

There really is no point in analyzing it to death. It's on online relationship and they are never what you expect them to be when you meet,

This probably works eight times out of ten for him. You are part of the two it doesn't work on.

All it proves is that he is just out for a shag. There's no way he could build anything real with anyone this works on unless he has the personality of plankton.

I wonder how long he will keep it up before he changes tack..

There’s an Instagram account called “Bye Felipe” and this sounds like some of the exchanges that get posted on there! Men who go in over the top affectionate, but then, when rejected, respond pretty badly.

That and dick pics.

I would be running a mile.

That would scare the absolute crap out of me.

Way way too much. Day 2 of just talking and he says all that?

That's too much. It should just be fun an flirty at this stage.

He's hoping for sex on first meeting.

He sounds like a creep

There are warnings on some of the Apps now about Romance fraud, men or women using dating sites to get money

@happinessischocolate

If you do dump him, tell him you just don't feel he's really interested 😂 totally confuse him

How can she dump him? She hasn’t even met him and apparently has no intention of doing so. Stop stringing him along, OP.

A note to other women. If you spend as long as the OP has comminicating on day 1 & 2 (online, on a video or voice call phone and texting) he will absolutely know that you have weak boundaries. There is no way I'd be giving a stranger that much time and attention. 30mins a day and cut them off people! You have a life, hobbies, friends and family. Lockdown or no lockdown, an interesting and fulfilled person is highly unlikely to waste so much of their day on a stranger's chat up lines.

My sister met someone like this on line. I told her from day one he was a unhinged creep . She did not listen . He was a creep , had loads of money off her . Cheated on her. Led her on . Then dumped her and got engaged within a month .

Honestly I don’t know why people fall for this .

@DM1209

I would never post any personal or what could be deemed as identifying information about him.

I think he and men like him are so used to women falling for this crap that they keep doing it. Considering that he keeps telling me now 'clearly you don't do romance' or 'of course I know you'll analsye this' tells me he is already somewhat aware that it's not working.

I believe he'll block me soon and move on to another woman. He's trying so hard and getting nothing positive out of me bar the odd, 'really, do you think that's normal?' Or 'how is that even logical?'

Oh no, I'd be telling him "that's nice darling" and "How lovely". Polite and nice distance so he keeps going as long as possible To do a real civic duty, convince him to get neutered. I had a dog like that and he's a lot happier since.

God, I really couldn't be arsed with all that rubbish, you're giving him far too much headspace.

Does he have any redeeming features? There’s none in the OP after the second x I would have blocked and deleted.