Sharing bath water

[WiganNorthWest]

I remember we all used to use the same bath water one after another (parents too) when I was a kid but the thought of doing that now makes me cringe. Does anyone go in the same bath water after another family member?

I’m sure she can have her privacy if she wants it, bad mindedness.

Absolutely rank. Unless the person before you has showered before getting in...why the hell would you want to bath in someone else’s BO shit, and discharge particles?! Literally makes me wanna vom.

And no, I don’t use public swimming pools or hot tubs.

I'm really surprised parents are sharing baths with 10 year olds and 9 year olds aren't being given privacy from their younger siblings but I guess each to their own.

People today are really spoiled. How do you think we managed with bathing once a week?Or the days when it was a tin bath in front of the fire? You definitely only wanted to fill that up once!

Well eh yeah, but humanity has evolved, we no longer send kids down the chimneys either. No ones hankering after “the good ole days” of washing weekly. It’s not spoiled. It’s called the 21 century.😂

@SquirtleSquad

I'm really surprised parents are sharing baths with 10 year olds and 9 year olds aren't being given privacy from their younger siblings but I guess each to their own.

You are presuming lack of choice here.

@MAPEI

Absolutely rank. Unless the person before you has showered before getting in...why the hell would you want to bath in someone else’s BO shit, and discharge particles?! Literally makes me wanna vom.

And no, I don’t use public swimming pools or hot tubs.

You have issues.

This reminds me of the time I was at my then boyfriends house: around the age of 18 , and his adult brother popped his head in the kitchen one morning and asked if I wanted his bath water.
I was perplexed and asked what for? And he said, “ well I always check if anyone wants a bath before I run it away”
I nearly choked. I had only met him once before.
No, I don’t want to float in a bath of your used water, that could have pubes, bum crumbs and dead sperms in it for all I know.

Fucking nope.

@Fembot123, really? So nothing in the first paragraph of my above post is true? If you believe that, you have issues.

Even by the standards of the hyper hygienics on here, it’s unusual to avoid all public swimming pools.

Not usually but we've been having one bathroom replaced and for a couple of weeks had only a bath not a shower, so were having to bathe every morning before work, that's not a long soak it's a very quick dip, so DH would jump in after me, got to say I wouldn't get into his bathwater though. DS (2) will strip and try and get into the bath with either of us even if he's just had one so clearly he's not bothered

All those hysterical about children bathing together and shock horror an eight year old seeing his mother naked prepare to be revolted, last time I was at my parents' and my mum was in the bath I took her a cup of tea, I'm 36. Yes I saw her naked, she birthed me and breastfed me, her body literally gave me life. I don't care it hasn't traumatised me.

My boys share bath water, DS2 will jump in after DS1 because he likes his water cooler.

Then they soap up and rinse hair off properly under the shower.

I don't take baths unless I've pulled a muscle or I'm in a hotel where I have the time to run it really deep and relax for hours with a bottle of wine.

@KingdomScrolls

All those hysterical about children bathing together and shock horror an eight year old seeing his mother naked prepare to be revolted, last time I was at my parents' and my mum was in the bath I took her a cup of tea, I'm 36. Yes I saw her naked, she birthed me and breastfed me, her body literally gave me life. I don't care it hasn't traumatised me.

For me personally I was surprised but It's not so much children seeing their parents naked as children around that age wanting/deserving/needing privacy and parents setting boundaries to teach them about privacy but as demonstrated on these threads there seems to be a great deal of difference in what age that should be and how it's dealt with, if at all.

Although that may not have been aimed at me as I'm certainly in no way getting hysterical about it, just surprised as it's different to me.

Little bit 🤨 about the prudery on here about sharing baths with your 10yo kids or them seeing you naked. What's the big deal?

I'd rather my DS12 see my wobbly, hairy au natural body and not think that Insta bodies are the norm. Once he starts going urgh, mum, put it away I probably will. Not that I flaunt it now but it's just a body for god's sake.

(And yes, we do share bath water 😊)

Share bath water here. My DS goes in first, then me and then DP if he fancies a quick dip.
I remember when DS was younger and I used to have the first go. I had some new socks and bits of fluff came off my feet and were floating around. He screamed his head off, hence him having first go now!
I used to share with my DB when younger but our parents never did.

Goodness me there's some real hysteria on this thread.

Often OH and I get in the bath together of an evening. He usually gets out before me though as I like to read for longer than him.

Sometimes if I'm working late he'll have one first, then I top up his water and hop in afterwards when he's done.

He usually showers in the morning so he's very clean anyway. I usually have a quick blast of the shower when the bath water is gone just to rinse off and wash conditioner out my hair.

If he's been exercising and is sweaty or has been for a bike ride and is muddy - he does have a shower before the bath is run though!!!

Really entertained by the poster upthread who said it was fine for couples to go in together but "ew" for one to go in after the other... what on earth is the difference? 🤣

@Fembot123

"You can’t have a wild imagination if you think this is the MOST dirty and unhygienic practice EVER 😂 What about people who shit on each other for example"

This made me laugh out loud. Properly snort laugh. OH is giving me very odd looks now 🤣🤣🤣

I'll jump in the bath after my 6 year old, or sometimes we share a bath. My dh has showers anyway, but I don't think I would get in the bath after another adult had been in it first.

I used to love getting in the bath after my DF when I was a child, he had lovely hot deep baths! DP and I occasionally use the same bath now - but we only have a bath about once a year . .

Yup, I used to go in after my kids most nights. Don't have baths now,my knees are fucked I can't get out

Really entertained by the poster upthread who said it was fine for couples to go in together but "ew" for one to go in after the other... what on earth is the difference?

When you get in together, you’re both getting into clean water. When one gets in after the other, then that person is getting into water which the other person has washed their body in, the water becomes dirty from their washing their Arse, pits genitalia etc, and then you get into it. So it’s the difference between getting into clean water together, or dirty water that someone has just used to clean themselves with.

@KingdomScrolls

All those hysterical about children bathing together and shock horror an eight year old seeing his mother naked prepare to be revolted, last time I was at my parents' and my mum was in the bath I took her a cup of tea, I'm 36. Yes I saw her naked, she birthed me and breastfed me, her body literally gave me life. I don't care it hasn't traumatised me.

I still go to sauna with my mum when she's visiting, no issue seeing her naked or her seeing me naked. My 10 year old still comes to sauna with me and her little brother too, she has no desire for privacy yet.

Baths feel a bit different, but that's because it would be so cramped, unless people have really big baths!

*Yes because she is 9 and needs to have her privacy”

I think a lot of us are just naturally concerned about the girl here, but the poster is saying it’s her personal choice and she offers her her own bath.

It’s very unusual for a girl of this age to be wishing to get naked and in the bath with her seven year old brother, most desire, and all are entitled to body privacy. I’m guessing it’s not something she tells her friends about. But if she’s proactively choosing this when the other options are being made clear then it’s no one else’s business. The issue would only arise if this girl felt this was expected of her. Then it would be a significant issue, it seems that’s not the case. So, 🤷‍♀️