Sharing bath water

[WiganNorthWest]

I remember we all used to use the same bath water one after another (parents too) when I was a kid but the thought of doing that now makes me cringe. Does anyone go in the same bath water after another family member?

How odd bathing 9 and 7 year old together? 9 is way too old !

Relieved it’s not just me that was taken aback by this.

My dd started developing at 9, sorry bathing her with he brother is very wrong.

I don’t want to derail someone else’s thread via a throwaway comment about an aspect of my own family life that I’m not remotely concerned about. Yes, I always say yes if she asks and yes, I offer the option. It hasn’t occurred to either of them that bodies are anything to be shy about yet, and I have no intention of prematurely imposing adult hang-ups that are not necessary and will come soon enough.

I leave my baby’s bath in and top it up with hot for me sometimes. He probably wees in the bath loads but I don’t mind

@Paspourmoi

I don’t want to derail someone else’s thread via a throwaway comment about an aspect of my own family life that I’m not remotely concerned about. Yes, I always say yes if she asks and yes, I offer the option. It hasn’t occurred to either of them that bodies are anything to be shy about yet, and I have no intention of prematurely imposing adult hang-ups that are not necessary and will come soon enough.

Your daughter at 9 is too old to be bathed and too old to.share, I feel sorry for her

We have a huge, deep bath. DDTs are 9 (girls) and have bathed separately for a long time, they're too big to share and just make a bloody mess.

I hate baths so never have one. Husband has a weird idea you have to have a bath on a Sunday night so he does, here is no way I would get in the water after him.

Totally grose!! Tbh baths are bad enough when you're just bathing in your own germs let alone other peoples'.

My paternal grandparents used to try to insist on everyone using the same water (so that was my grandad, grandma, aunt, uncle, parents and then finally four kids (as toddlers/kids) all using the same bath water. My Mum put her foot down and ran a new bath for herself and the kids.

My kids are 12, 9 & 8. The elder one goes first, then the younger two jump in together.

Cant see the point in wasting water by refilling it each time (and low pressure means it takes forever to fill).

Usually we do showers, but our shower just broke.

You can’t have a wild imagination if you think this is the MOST dirty and unhygienic practice EVER 😂 What about people who shit on each other for example.

First time I have genuinely laughed out loud on MN (no tea spat out though )

I don't really fancy the idea of going in after my DH, but thinking about it, how is it worse than sharing a hot tub?

Er, thanks for that Flowers. What a weird thing to say.

I share a bath with my partner sometimes, or get in after him if he wants super hot water that I can't deal with. Everyone who thinks reusing bath water is grim/Victorian/the grossest thing ever: do you not also have baths together with your other half? It's a lovely way to relax together imo, we bring in a drink and set Netflix up on a laptop on a little table next to the bath. :)

@backinthedhss

These threads always remind me of going to an all girls school when everyone shouted "groooosssss" at the most innocuous thing.

I think it's totally fine to share bath water if you're not filthy. If you don't want to equally fine but there's no need to go on about how gross it is. It really isn't.

Exactly, most of us bathe regularly so it's just OTT

Be thankful we have hot running water which we do take for granted

I didn't even realise it was a thing people did. It's the dirtiest most unhygenic practice ever.

Do you not get out much?

You seriously can't think of a single thing that is dirtier/more unhygienic than sharing a bath?

i have no intention of prematurely imposing adult hang-ups that are not necessary and will come soon enough

It’s not about adult hang ups. That’s such an odd thing to write. It’s about your daughter being entitled to privacy around her own body. To understand what is private and that she doesn’t need to show to others. This is a natural part of growing up ans that children should be taught from a very young age. Much, much younger than nine. It’s nothing to do sith being adult. It’s about knowing parts of your body are private and you don’t need to take your knickers off in front of anyone if you don’t choose to.

No! Never! It doesn't feel right even imagining it. We dont have a bath anymore so makes no difference now. But no I could not get into a bath after someone else had washed themselves in it😳

DS (5) pees in the bath so no way I would be using his! 🤢

@Fembot123

When we were kids not only did we share baths we used to imagine we ran a cafe, fills cups up with the water and drink it 😂

If only I'd thought of that 😆 I settled for sucking the sponge, & thoroughly enjoyed it too.

Of course OP, we're on a water metre! Mainly showers these days though.

Germs indeed!

meter

DP gets in after me sometimes especially if I've used posh bath stuff. DS prefers a shower. I don't ever get it after DP as he's mucky after work and at weekends he gets in much earlier than I like to. Lots of over reacting on this post.

do you not also have baths together with your other half?

No, never. I don't enjoy baths and can't think of anything worse than sitting in one with another person drinking and watching Netflix. I find the whole ritual that some people have going on with baths to be very odd.

As little kids we did, and I would share with a partner now (but we’d be clean when we got in) - but no, not one after the other. Although if money is tight and you don’t have a shower I can see why you would.

My DD (11) still occasionally asks to go in the bath with DS (8), I am completely led by her them If she still wants to (and it is very infrequently now) then I don't mind. Being child led on something like this is fine.

Absolutely not. Gross.