To not want to take part in the 8pm doorstep vigil

[MiscUser9823]

AIBU to not want to take part in the 8pm doorstep vigil?

My reasons - I like to keep to myself, my neighbours are hypocrites and virtue signallers, it wont make a difference, and I dont like being told what to do by.

I think all this standing on your doorstep allegedly showing community cohesion on one theme or other is getting ridiculous. When did private ways of dealing with issues on your own become not the right way to behave?
This is getting like 'poppy fascism'.

How do people find out about these things? It wasn't mentioned on the news last night.

Agree about the virtue signalling. My neighbours were proper NHS clap fanatics during lockdown 1 - despite the fact that they consistently vote for Tories every election - which seems arch hypocrisy to me.

I won’t be doing it. I can scarcely believe Boris Johnson has the nerve given it was mainly HIS ineptitude that lead to over a hundred thousand deaths. He’s a hypocrite of the first order.

I didn't know it was happening and won't be doing it, there was already a silence fgs (which I also didn't do).

I did the clapping once in appreciation of a (living!) nurse in our street but every week just made it meaningless imo.

I don't do silences for the dead, they're dead so they don't care. I'll do it if I'm out and people will be mortally offended if I don't but otherwise I'd never bother.

No, our dead are still very close to us. We remember them every day. We are silent for them when we think of them in our supermarket queues, or when we are doing the dishes, or in our dreams at night. We think of our parents who are alive, but can’t go out or hug their grandkids, of our children who have missed their schools and their hobbies and their friends, and those of us who have lost jobs and livelihoods. This is still with us. We are still doing this. We think about this enough, and we are silent. It is enough.

Well don't then.

It's starting to feel like people want applause for not doing the applause, etc. A sort of virtue signalling about not virtue signalling. Are we supposed to say "oh well done you, you're not like all those sheep"?

No doubt the ones that will make a big deal of observing it will be the same people who've mostly ignored all the restrictions. Oh, and all the "influencers" /famous families with their freshly done hair, nails, brows and Botox/fillers (scowling at you, Victoria Beckham, kisses xx)

(Like a lot of MNers also appear to be) I'm currently in a really cranky mood 😂

I have privately reflected lately on just how dreadful the past year has been and can only begin to imagine
how completely devastated so many families and individuals have been. I'm very aware of how fortunate I have been to have stayed healthy, along with incredibly vulnerable family members. I've lost my business, my income, future prospects and am hanging on to my home (and mental health) by the skin of my teeth. Am literally down to my last £100 today. But I feel incredibly grateful to not be mourning any untimely deaths. The enormity of overwhelming grief for so many is just heart breaking.

Didn’t know there was one no don’t think we’ll bother.

Sorry if it's already been asked but where did this idea come from?

No fucking way.

Nope...I don’t do vigils or doorstep clapping, they are very silly.

On one hand I think it's a touching idea but on the other I get a creeping feeling that I'm being a stooge for something Johnson can use to try to make himself look good.

As far as I'm concerned he's directly responsible for a lot of this terrible death toll and he shouldn't be given any chance to hide from that fact.

Didn’t even know this was a thing. During the first lockdown a handful of the neighbours clapped every week but it definitely tailed off towards the end. We never bothered, seemed like a waste of time.

I agree OP. It’s nearly the first anniversary of my DMs death and I wish to grieve privately.

Could have done without the earlier 1 minute’s silence at work too.

If it's virtue signalling to take part what type of signalling is it to announce on a forum that you're not taking part?

first I've heard of it and no I won't be doing it either.Never seen it mentioned as part of the 1918 pandemic either so just another way for judgy people to point the finger. You can take a moment to think of those who have died anytime and you don't need to prove it by standing outside for all to see.

I didn’t even know about any of whatever happened today was supposed to happen. 🤣 but no. I don’t do stuff like that.

It's virtue signalling bullshit. Why do you give a fuck what anyone else thinks?

First I’ve heard

Just ironing my sackcloth,
I got the ashes from my wood-burner stove earlier today.

I have this little hunch.

I imagine, getting on for late in the working day, possibly pushing into evening, that BoJo realises that it's ONE WHOLE YEAR since he 'had to tell us' all to lock down. (about three weeks too late but hey, what's a total pandemic car crash between friends?) He thinks 'By Jimbo! What a whacking great idea I have just had! Those plebs, they LOVE a bit of doorstep camaraderie! All that clapping and tooting and fireworks and whatnot. Let's make tomorrow a Special Day, one where the People of our great country can come together in solidarity and light their little beacons of hope in memory and hope. And let's name March 23rd Covid Day and do it in perpetuity. It'll be like, whatsit, that thing we all do in November. Is it November? I think it's November. Red flowers and silence and all that.'

He is a colossal, patronising twat. To think that this sort of grassroots, community solidarity can be imposed, top-down. You may not enjoy or agree with The Clap, or The Rainbows, but they were bottom-up initiatives that ordinary people decided might make us feel a bit better and together.

When I woke to this news on the radio this morning, I did wonder momentarily if I was in communist China. Fuck me, we'll be onto a Two Minutes Hate next.

I don't understand the need to start this thread .

There had better not be bloody fireworks

I won't be doing it. My mum died of covid a year ago next week and my dad died of cancer in November....I refuse to prioritise her death over his.