To not want to take part in the 8pm doorstep vigil

[MiscUser9823]

AIBU to not want to take part in the 8pm doorstep vigil?

My reasons - I like to keep to myself, my neighbours are hypocrites and virtue signallers, it wont make a difference, and I dont like being told what to do by.

Why are you promoting it then, OP? I had no idea about it until I read your thread.

Just don't do it, you're a free person.

I’m not aware of one I thought it was just light a candle at 8pm .

It sounds like a lot people didnt hear about it...?

I only just found out as well.

I don't like this kind of antivirtue signalling. Just don't do it no need to explain why you don't want to. Live and let live.

Hey OP,

If it helps, I work for the NHS and have worked in a covid ward. I won't be taking part in any vigil or clapping etc.

The pandemic is far from over and clapping unfortunately doesn't solve anything. I don't mean to sound so pessimistic about it but I just think it's all a bit of a show.

@PandaFluff

Thanks, glad to know its not just me that feels this way.
Sometimes I feel like the only sane person left in an insane world.

I won't be doing it, most of my street probably will.

I didn’t know about it,but I won’t be doing it.

Perfectly reasonable. Keeping yourself to yourself is enough. I feel the best way to remember is by my actions such as wearing a face covering in a shop or when I am on public transport. I never joined in the clapping for carers for example.

Maybe stop spreading the word about it then... Your post was the first I'd heard of it.

[quote MiscUser9823]@PandaFluff

Thanks, glad to know its not just me that feels this way.
Sometimes I feel like the only sane person left in an insane world. [/quote]
I don't agree with you. I find the moaning about other people wanting to do a vigil or clap etc annoying. Just don't join in. No one is making you.

What vigil?

I haven't heard.

I can’t understand why you feel the need to give this any headspace at all. Lots of people will join in and will find it a positive thing to do and lots of people won’t. It literally doest matter. No one will care what you do. Some people always claim that they have received rude comments for not joining in but I find that hard to believe TBH.

I think you are unkind to brand all your Nieghbours hypercrites and virtue signaler because that are going to do it. That seems very judgmental and unkind.

I don’t join in with this type of thing but I don’t see anything wrong with it either.

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If people don't want to do it they don't have to. It's not compulsory. If they want to do it then they can.

I think people have a choice and that is fine - but I have noticed there are now in many communities people who remind others about the doorstep activities and sort of appoint themselves as wardens. People's choice we all have different ways of dealing with things or remembering things or might simply want to forget the last year that is all fine but please everyone is entitled to their own actions as the last time I looked we lived in a free country!

I doubt anyone will turn up with a gun to make you.

Its virtue signalling

Will it stop the virus?
Will it help anyone?
Is it a total waste of time?

The last one is the only "yes" answer.

No .I don''t ever partake in any of these doorstep things. Everyone in the country knows how many people have sadly passed away, and it should be remembered, but on a personal level at home, and not coming out in the streets and lighting candles,or the banging of pots and pans for the NHS.

You don't have to do it. I won't be.

I won’t be doing it, just like a didn’t clap like a deal on my doorstep every Thursday.
If it achieved anything I would, but it doesn’t.

I wasn’t even aware there was one. YANBU.

I get up at 1:30am for work, so will be in bed way before 8, so just like with the NHS clap etc. I won't be able to participate. Not sure I would bother even if I didn't have to get up in the middle of the night. It's a personal choice and there's no right or wrong.

You are not unreasonable... howeverbyou are unreasonable to post about it... you don't want to do it... so don't.... who cares just move on with your life... why do you need it to be excepted by a load of internet randomers ... I won't be doing it but I feel no need to justify it to others.