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To not want to take part in the 8pm doorstep vigil

143 replies

MiscUser9823 · 23/03/2021 14:58

AIBU to not want to take part in the 8pm doorstep vigil?

My reasons - I like to keep to myself, my neighbours are hypocrites and virtue signallers, it wont make a difference, and I dont like being told what to do by.

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Lilmzsnowflake · 23/03/2021 15:49

Big nope from me. Don’t do virtue signalling and fortunately have no neighbours who would notice if i did or not.
I only became aware of this on school pick up anyway.
At 8pm I’m busy regardless. If anyone did question me about it I would tell them that.
Didn’t do anything earlier in the year either, other than abide by restrictions and go to my frontline healthcare job. I wonder how many of the pot bangers can say the same?

1Morewineplease · 23/03/2021 15:50

Wasn't there a minute's silence earlier today though ?

ReverendRicketyCricket · 23/03/2021 15:52

I can't imagine why you're asking for validation and approval from the internet about whether you should not do something that is not compulsory and about which most people do not know or care. Very strange. Do it or don't do it - up to you.
I won't be doing it and I couldn't care less if anyone else does or does not.

UnderHisAye · 23/03/2021 15:53

Could not give less of a flying fuck about any of it. Clapping on doorsteps while people are gasping for air is utter nonsense.

QuiteContraryMarie · 23/03/2021 15:53

I never do doorstep vigils. Doesn’t mean I don’t care about the reason behind it.

Aprilx · 23/03/2021 15:54

Never heard of an 8pm vigil.

BountyIsUnderrated · 23/03/2021 15:54

Only heard of this now, I won't be doing it but my thoughts go out to all those who have lost someone. Flowers

whiteshark · 23/03/2021 15:56

Never heard of this.

Also I didn't know about the 12 o'clock silence today until I saw it on here.

I am curious, how do people find out about these events?

Francescaisstressed · 23/03/2021 15:57

I've lost 6 family members to Covid over the last year, and I don't plan to be on my doorstep. I'll light a candle and think of them tonight but I don't feel the need to stand on a doorstep to make a point/sshow of it for others. It's personal to each person wha they want to do but sometimes I get sick of the 'show'. The neighbours who post about it on Facebook or reprimand those who don't etc

MarshaBradyo · 23/03/2021 15:58

8pm plus the midday one?

JustanotherTuesday · 23/03/2021 15:58

Some neighbours of mine who live in the close opposite are still doing the Thursday night clap.
It's just virtue signalling really.

RedToothBrush · 23/03/2021 15:59

@MiscUser9823

AIBU to not want to take part in the 8pm doorstep vigil?

My reasons - I like to keep to myself, my neighbours are hypocrites and virtue signallers, it wont make a difference, and I dont like being told what to do by.

Then don't.

Simple.

Lots of other people won't.

RichardMarxisinnocent · 23/03/2021 16:00

Wasn't aware of it, won't be taking part (and couldn't even if I wanted to as live in a flat so don't have a doorstep to stand on)

TheOneWithTheBigNose · 23/03/2021 16:02

@whiteshark

Never heard of this.

Also I didn't know about the 12 o'clock silence today until I saw it on here.

I am curious, how do people find out about these events?

The silence and tonight’s ‘vigil’ have been featured quite heavily on MSM. It was top feature on BBC news, for example.
Chimeraforce · 23/03/2021 16:02

Do what you like. We've been dictated to enough. I'm not.
A vigil solves nothing but if doing it gives comfort to some then all good.

utilisateur · 23/03/2021 16:02

Exactly, it's not over yet. Plenty more scientific advice for this government to ignore yet.
Plenty of new variants to keep out of the country yet (but no plans to make travellers to quarantine....)

utilisateur · 23/03/2021 16:03

from Europe

SanFrancisco49er · 23/03/2021 16:04

@MiscUser9823 bit beside the point but if your neighbour was watching from a 2nd floor window to see who took part in the old doorstep clap, then she wasn't taking part herself?!

Sitchervice · 23/03/2021 16:04

I'm not doing it. I didn't do the clap either it was sooo annoying. Like what's it going to do for anyone? It's like changing your Facebook profile pic. Does nothing. Better to donate to a charity.

Whammyyammy · 23/03/2021 16:05

YANBU. I wasn't awake of any vigil, and won't be doing either.

jessstan2 · 23/03/2021 16:06

@1Morewineplease

Wasn't there a minute's silence earlier today though ?
Yes. I am quiet anyway, being on my own so it made no difference to me but as it happened I had a 'phone call around that time so was talking. That was unusual because I generally avoid the telephone or have it switched off but I was glad to speak with this person.

We can remember those who died without silence and vigils.

GintyMcGinty · 23/03/2021 16:07

I won't be.

I clapped every bloody week for carers and now they throw it back in our faces.

I have had enough of these doorstep things.

XenoBitch · 23/03/2021 16:08

YANBU
I wont be taking part either. I also never clapped. I just wish this date would disappear into obscurity.
Happy '3 Weeks to Flatten the Curve' Day.

oakleaffy · 23/03/2021 16:09

Just more virtue signalling.
I didn’t know it was going to happen, but having a private minutes silence is better.

The other clapfests degenerated into a semi street party, which seemed a bit odd and not in the spirit of the thing.
Will be interesting to see if it takes off.

I did clap for the first evening last year, it was in darkness.

AgeLikeWine · 23/03/2021 16:10

YANBU.

I don’t do public virtue-signalling, so I won’t be taking part. I didn’t clap, either.