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Was your wedding the best day of your life?

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Opal93 · 22/03/2021 20:40

Mine wasn’t. But I’m glad it wasn’t! That would have meant life was all downhill from there! My hair was right in the middle of the worst stage of post partum hair loss, and it was so thin and straggly wearing it down as I wanted looked terrible. Wearing extensions wasn’t an option either as it had gotten so thin you could see every clip. The hairdresser did do her best with what she had to work with but it wasn’t what I’d have chosen. Also my makeup artist cancelled last minute and I had to find a replacement who did do a decent enough job but it wasn’t what I’d pictured. Several things went wrong , but nothing major. My son was 8 months old and in strange form and was glued to me. Also I found I was kind of hovering not really knowing who to sit with or speak to, as everyone sat in their own groups. My husband and his mates congregated in the smoking area watching football for almost all the reception! I didn’t expect him to be glued to me the whole night but come on, at least make the most of the entertainment we’ve paid for !! So, while I do look back fondly on it and it wasn’t a disaster, certainly not the best day of my life. Was your wedding the best day of yours?

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AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 23/03/2021 12:11

@LavenderLollies I was watching the football too Grin

MiddleParking · 23/03/2021 12:27

Some of you clearly went through a different childbirth process to me Grin

LavenderLollies · 23/03/2021 12:31

@MiddleParking

Some of you clearly went through a different childbirth process to me Grin
Mine was absolutely horrific to be honest... Five day induction and ventouse, episiotomy, permanent birth injuries and so forth. I still consider it to be the best day of my life though as I birthed my son and met him for the first time. Even though I’m having therapy for birth trauma! 😂
Springingintospring · 23/03/2021 12:34

Yes

Siennabear · 23/03/2021 12:35

No. It was pleasant I guess. I was quite anxious about everything but also had an 8 month old at the time so worried about it all going well and him not getting upset (afternoon/evening event).

If I could go back I would have got married before having our child so I could enjoy it properly.

Although we love each other and plan to be together forever, etc, we are both not wedding people it was more a practical thing.

Laserbird16 · 23/03/2021 12:37

No. It was very nice though. I enjoyed having friends and family around us. The birth of my children was by far the best! And they keep being delightful...most of the time

Chillychangchoo · 23/03/2021 12:39

No. The birth days of my children were my happiest, followed by my wedding day. It was just us too as we eloped.

bert3400 · 23/03/2021 12:45

Yes mine was, we had the most amazing day. A small wedding in a large Finca in Spain. Only close family and friends. I looked amazing as had been really working out for months. We had a really special band and some spectacular drummers from Barcelona. We had been together 15 years before we got married and are still very happy 8 years later . My first marriage (30 years ago) was one of the worst days of my life Grin

cptartapp · 23/03/2021 12:47

No. Although we've been married twenty years and lost family members since.
Family holidays with DH and the DC have been the best.

randomlyLostInWales · 23/03/2021 12:47

@MiddleParking

Some of you clearly went through a different childbirth process to me Grin
The best bit with pfb was the two hours after birth and it would rank high in my best ever bits of life- before horrific postnatal ward- when we got to meet her and feed her.

However at same time I was exhausted, sore, hungry, really thirsy and never more desperate for a wash in my life as I was sweaty and cover in meconium and blood and on edge as different people kept wondering in saying they'd run a bath or get up to the postnatal ward in a minute with me still partially dressed and getting hang on bf and door wide open to corridor.

onlythewildones · 23/03/2021 12:50

My wedding day was one of the best days of my life. My brother's wedding day was another one of the best days of my life. Several of my close friends' wedding days would also rank up there. All those days have been not just enormously fun but also incredibly meaningful to me.

Watching two people who are deeply in love with each other make a commitment to each other, surrounded by so many people who love and support and wish the best for them, plus the opportunity to catch up with lots of old friends and family members, plus all the celebrating and good food and dancing... I would find it hard not to find those 'best' days.

floridamanatee · 23/03/2021 12:52

No. I look back and wonder what I was thinking. I got married in my husband's hometown which is over 100m from my own so my guests had to travel a long way. My husbands family didn't contribute financially yet still dictated how everything should be. We had to get married in their family's local church even though neither of us are religious. MIL ruined the day by bitching about everything, yelling at my bridesmaid, shouting at me for not 'entering the reception correctly' and ruined my dance with my dad by dancing with the groom directly infront of us. I let it go on the day because I wanted a relaxed, happy day but when I look back I wish wish wish I hadn't bothered. I'm still married but honestly don't think it changes anything. We should have just saved the money.

TokyoSushi · 23/03/2021 12:54

No, I mean it was nice and all that, and we're still happily together 11 years later, but I've had far better days such as the birth of the DC and some holidays. I certainly wouldn't spend that amount of money on one day again!

Bluntness100 · 23/03/2021 12:57

Certainly not the best day but defintely we had a huge amount of fun. The best day ever was having my daughter.

We got married on the beach in the Caribbean,,we got a bit pissed before hand as they had delivered champagne to our hotel rooms as we were getting ready, me in our room with a group of girls I’d met there, him with their male partners in one of their rooms, and then the hotel delayed the ceremony due to a passing storm.

The hotel coildnt do enough for us, they kept coming up to see if we wanted more champagne, delivered the flowers, delivering snacks, seeing if I wanted help with my hair, make up, dress, and keeping us appraised. When we were told it was time, they even sent staff to walk behind us to carry umbrellas just in case a rain shower happened again.

So when it went ahead we were all a bit off our faces, happy and giggly and in great moods. When we said our vows pretty much every hotel guest had gathered round to watch and gave a massive ear splitting good natured cheer.

Then after the photos, we went for a special dinner, one big table for all of us, we then ate wedding cake and danced to our wedding song and partied into the wee small hours as one larger group all together.. it was lovely, stress free and a shed load of happy fun for everyone involved.

I think it’s sad how your husband behaved, I think that was rather shitty of him and hope his behaviour hasn’t continued during your marriage.

TechnoDino · 23/03/2021 12:58

No.

PembrokeshireDreaming · 23/03/2021 13:04

It was a great day but definitely not "the best day of my life". I wouldn't have wanted it to be.............I think it's ridiculous to suggest that your wedding day should be the "best day of your life".

ChocOrange1 · 23/03/2021 13:27

It was certainly one of the best.

gwenneh · 23/03/2021 13:29

No. It was lovely, it was a good party, it has great significance to us, but we've had even more amazing days since.

LancesGold · 23/03/2021 13:31

My wedding day was hands down one of the best days of my life. Perfect from beginning to end.

Didn't stop my husband leaving me and our tiny DC two years later thoughSad

renovationfatigue · 23/03/2021 13:33

No. To be honest I was dreading it and knew I wouldn't enjoy it. I hate being the centre of attention and was so nervous of doing something wrong. I would have had a really small one if it hadn't been for our families. Absolutely loved our honeymoon though, the thought of that got me through the day and on reflection it was better than I feared!

Bells3032 · 23/03/2021 13:33

Definitely but have also had some equally amazing days of my life.

GlumyGloomer · 23/03/2021 13:35

No, too much pressure, too many people. Also no to the days my kids were born, much too debilitating. I can think of 2 particular perfect days. One was on holiday in Australia, and amidst the backpacking and hostels we had one day where we splashed out on a bit of luxury. The second was the day I got engaged, also on holiday, this time to Italy.

wishes1111 · 23/03/2021 13:35

No.

I mean, I loved it, felt magical etc, I felt beautiful in my dream dress but I remember being shoved in the photo booth for the 1000th time and my face ached from smiling and I was SO tired and overwhelmed that I cried at 12am in my honeymoon suite 😂 going for a wee, sweating as I got married on the hottest day of the year wearing a big dress.

I'd say my honeymoon was the highlight.

Peterpainter · 23/03/2021 13:39

I was going to say it’s a tie between my wedding day and the day my kids were born but I didn’t have to have my vagina stitched back together on my wedding day so I’m going for that Wink

I loved every minute of it!

VienneseWhirligig · 23/03/2021 13:41

My honeymoon was fab and much more enjoyable than my wedding day, even though that was really great too. We went to Amsterdam and had the best Chinese meal I've ever experienced (didn't go into the coffee shops, and couldn't find the red light district 😳)