Was your wedding the best day of your life?

[Opal93]

Mine wasn’t. But I’m glad it wasn’t! That would have meant life was all downhill from there! My hair was right in the middle of the worst stage of post partum hair loss, and it was so thin and straggly wearing it down as I wanted looked terrible. Wearing extensions wasn’t an option either as it had gotten so thin you could see every clip. The hairdresser did do her best with what she had to work with but it wasn’t what I’d have chosen. Also my makeup artist cancelled last minute and I had to find a replacement who did do a decent enough job but it wasn’t what I’d pictured. Several things went wrong , but nothing major. My son was 8 months old and in strange form and was glued to me. Also I found I was kind of hovering not really knowing who to sit with or speak to, as everyone sat in their own groups. My husband and his mates congregated in the smoking area watching football for almost all the reception! I didn’t expect him to be glued to me the whole night but come on, at least make the most of the entertainment we’ve paid for !! So, while I do look back fondly on it and it wasn’t a disaster, certainly not the best day of my life. Was your wedding the best day of yours?

Wedding was low key and I enjoyed it. My honeymoon was a very happy time of my life. I tend to think in periods of time rather than a day. Some years or months I think on as being good periods.

Yes. It was amazing, everything we could have hoped for. We've had some amazing times before and since but that day is definitely at the top. Our baby is due in 6 weeks though so we'll see if that changes things :)

At the moment no, I was nervous and although it was fun I wouldn’t have said it was the best day ever.

However looking back on the day, probably up there with one of the best. All out loved ones in a room at the same time, eating, drinking and dancing. I would relive it over in a heart beat

Happy day yes best day no , the best is yet to come

Yes loved it. Had so much fun. Didn’t drink so I could remember it all! Was a really great party! Not sure I looked the best I could but that doesn’t really matter. Great wedding.

Not the best day ever - beaten to that by the day DS was born, the day I got my degree results, also various festivals and holidays in my younger days with my now-DH. However, my wedding was the best party I've ever hosted wearing the most beautiful dress I've ever worn, which is good enough for me

No. We kept it small (40 guests) because I didn't want the stress of a big event, but I still found the admin leading up to it too stressful. Everything went entirely to plan, our guests seemed to really enjoy themselves and I felt the closest to beautiful I ever have, but still I think I would have been happier to have a quick registry office ceremony and then a meal with just our parents and siblings.

I've had much better days with my husband, before and after the wedding.

No for many reasons.

Wedding itself - family tensions, being left alone to do my own makeup and get myself dressed, pouring rain, DH was in bed (sick) 2 hours before the ceremony (the lady delivering the flowers told me, thanks!), a guest complained that there wasn't a fair balance between the 2 families (it turned out there wasn't a "fair balance" between her side and the other side of "her" family - as in between DH and DW's respective families of 1 of the bridal party, not between the bride and groom's families - so a matter for the DPs of that bridal party person who had made their side's list), I hadn't slept properly for a month so was exhausted, I forgot to pack something decent to wear the following day to travel to our honeymoon (or even a nice set of night attire) as there was too much going on everywhere so I was in an old pair of ganky jeans and a sweatshirt (luckily no one else was up as we had to leave the hotel before 8am to drive 3 hours to get our flight).....

It was nice, we made our commitment to each other, (DH made it through the day).

But also there have been lots more days and occasions where we have been actively very happy and excited, and no one else has taken that away from us.

And more than 20 years later, the difficult things about our wedding have faded into the past (except when someone asks me to remember) but our commitment to each other is still very strong.

Mine was freaking awesome, I often wish I could go back and live it again. Not my best as I have given birth to two perfect sons but definitely up there! My pictures were shit so I wish I could get better pics but apart from that wouldn't change a thing!

A good day yes but if I had once chance to go back and do a day again I'd pick the day my DCw efe born.

It wasn’t perfect but it was wonderful. Best day of my life up until then, yes. Best day of my life ever, no.

It was the best party of my life!

God no! It was the wedding my mother wanted not the one I wanted!!! Looking back it was ghastly!
My son's wedding a while back was a huge hoot - they organised it themselves and it was totally joyous.

Yes, it was exactly the day we had wanted. Beautiful/special place, all our most loved people, fantastic weather, excellent food and a very relaxed atmosphere. I'd do it again in a heartbeat!

Married after both my parents had tragically died and I'd had a premmie baby so super emotional
I was slimmest I had ever been due to grief so that was great !
Glad I had cheap and cheerful

Mine was fab. Small and relaxed. But my 'best day ever' was getting a positive pregnancy test after 17yrs of ttc and being told I would never have children.

No, expensive mistake which was like a comedy of errors with everything that went wrong. We're divorced now

[quote SignsofSpring]@Chienloup your wedding sounds very similar to mine, central London, getting cabs, only a few people present, beautiful registry office and then meal in a private room, it was an absolute blast. I don't regret not having something bigger, we were so in love, I would have been happy to be just the two of us. I only had the slightly bigger (14 people!) event as I knew it was my mum's one chance to see one of her children married. No regrets.[/quote]
They do sound very similar.

It's funny - lots of people on here saying that their wedding couldn't possibly be the best day of their lives because it wasn't spontaneous or carefree - but ours really was. The only plan we had was the register office and the restaurant- the rest of the day we just walked into places for drinks and hailed cabs.
Then the following weekend we had a party in a pub with our friends. I put my wedding dress back on, and hopped on the tube to the pub. When the pub shut me, my husband, my best friend, and his husband walked down the road to Lucky Voice karaoke for a few hours before stopping in for burgers before getting the night bus home.
Everything about our wedding was carefree.

Not the best. In fact I'd call the run up too and immediate aftermath of my wedding one of the most stressful parts of my life. Certain family members were an absolute nightmare during the planning stages, I'm really not exaggerating it was awful. I would never do it again. Well, I would but some people would be getting told straight, I'm not the push over I was then, it's our day, back off.

The wedding itself though? Lovely. All the stress of the previous 12 months melted away and I married the love of my life. Can't ask for more than that. I wish I had given myself time to decompress a bit afterwards though. I let myself be pushed into how things 'should' be done.

If my DD ever gets married I have made a promise to myself that I will not do to her what others did to me and if I see someone trying it I will call that shit right out. It's her (and her future partners) day, guests and choice of venue and not in anyway about me and her father or some random cousins she wouldn't know if she tripped up over them. If she wants to elope that's fine,
I get it. I'll be here with open arms when she gets back. 👍🏻

@Chienloup mine was pretty carefree as well, I let my husband choose the venue and arrange the dinner and that was it. I chose my dress, that's all! Perhaps that's why it was so much fun, it was more like an adventure. I don't know if I'd do that now, perhaps I was less controlling then.

No.

Mum had big white wedding and warned me her day had been rushing around for everyone esle.

So we kept it super small - less than 10 did restaurant afterwards and party at our home. Still immediate family were difficult- and best man's wife a pain in the arse.

We got talked out of a wedding abroad - which I do reget though MIL was talking about hanging around for the entire honeymoon - actually we got talked out of a honeymoon by bestman and his wife and ILs and then spent our first christmas with IL which was awful.

In long run it probably help as I heard a lot of baby child advice from that quarter and it was much easier to question or ignore as I really don't think we were their priority.

I'm glad we didn't spend more though. Watching the wedding dress TV shows can be upsetting as no-one wanted to do any of that with me and I compromised massively in what I wore.

Not for me - we both looked back & would have changed a few things. I let my DM in particular have a bit too much say in what went on.

No. I would do everything differently if I did it again.

Maybenot my best day but it was a good, happy day i enjoyed. Marriage later ended in shit which has tainted it somewhat.

It was basically just a party though at the end of the day. I've had far more profound experiences.

It was a wonderful day and we enjoyed it, but it wasn't the best day in our lives.
We never went into wedding planning with the silly fairytale, all about us, special princess day, spend a lot of money on the world's most magical perfect day approach.