Chucking plate and cup after eating

[Whenspringcomes]

Dd, 2, 8 is going through a phase of finishing her dinner and proceeding to chuck her plate and cup at me/on the floor. We’ve told her firmly, shouted (hate doing this) switched the tv off immediately if she’s been allowed to watch, kept her in the chair for longer afterwards so she’s not allowed to play because she’s throwing cutlery etc. Nothing works 🤷🏻‍♀️
Any suggestions of what to do/why she’s doing it? Is it a normal phase?

Is she in a chair she can get down from herself, or in a highchair?

Mine also 😭

Also, are they plastic? You could go the nice route and give her real crockery and explain that now she's a big girl she gets the proper ones but must not throw them because they will smash (be prepared for that to be tried once so don't use your favourites!).

@RagzReturnsRebooted

Is she in a chair she can get down from herself, or in a highchair?

I think she's 8

No it’s not normal for an 8 year old to throw things at you unless you mean 8 months?

Sorry, is your child 2 or 8, I'm a bit confused? As I think the answer will depend on the child's age.

2 yrs 8 months?

Do you mean your second daughter who is 8 months?

If she is 2 use stick on plates

Very unusual for an 8 year old. Are there other behaviours that are similar? Is something setting her off? If she is 8, she must have an explanation?)

Yup, it's a fairly common phase.
Can you get those plates with the big suction cup thing on the bottom?

Or be ready to whip the plate cup etc away as soon as she goes to throw it?

Or lots of praise for putting her plate and cup in the sink like a big girl?

Or here's some really bad on Mumsnet advice 😁 hold a pudding hostage in exchange for cup and plate. You can have your yogurt/ fruit/ biscuit / family sized triple choc cake once you've put your cup and plate in the sink / dishwasher.

@Theunamedcat

If she is 2 use stick on plates

My DD was strong and these would just result in the food going further

She means 2 years 8 months. Can be normal, I wouldn’t make a big deal of it. I would have her at the table rather than a highchair and use proper plates as above, explaining they wi break if she throws them.

@Theunamedcat

If she is 2 use stick on plates

I'd do that for an 8 month old. At 2 I would expect them to behave well and not throw plates.

If she is 8 months, yes it's normal. 12 to 18 months, maybe normal if she wasn't allowed to feed herself earlier.

2 years 8 months?

If she's 2 then this is not unusual! Irritating, but not unusual.

If she's in a highchair, I'd consider switching to sitting at the table with a booster if needed as she may be getting frustrated at being confined. Just teach her to get up and down safely.

Options:

1. 2 nd daughter 8 yrs old
2. 2 nd daughter 8 months old
3. 2 years 8 months old
4. 2 years old, 8 was a mistake
5. 8 yes old, 2 was a mistake

You might need to clarify pdq op, otherwise the opinions are gonna vary...

8 yr old won't be in a high chair

OP would hardly be asking if it’s a normal phase of her kid was 8 do people not use context clues anymore...?

OP, I expect she’s trying to get a reaction. I would calmly pick the dishes up and ask her not to, but not make a big deal out of it. She will soon grow out of it.

DS did that when he was younger, he's two and a half nearly nownand whilst he'll chance his arm and 'bounce' the odd pea he knows not to launch crockery/cutlery. We did find giving him 'big boy' plates helped , he recognises they'll break, and we let him choose a couple (h&m had a children's china crockery set with dinosaurs on it) , MIL bought him a beautiful Emma Bridgewater set, but he won't be getting that for a long time yet!

@arethereanyleftatall

Options:

1. 2 nd daughter 8 yrs old
2. 2 nd daughter 8 months old
3. 2 years 8 months old
4. 2 years old, 8 was a mistake
5. 8 yes old, 2 was a mistake

You might need to clarify pdq op, otherwise the opinions are gonna vary...

This is so MN! Thanks!!!

8? Or 2? Or 2 years 8 months? Or 28?

Watch carefully when she's finished and remove them before she has chance to do it - just swoop in and say "thank you". If she does it before you can stop her, a quiet "don't do that please" in a displeased voice should be enough to get the point across.
Maybe she needs more opportunities to throw things at other times - try balls outside?
No point whatsoever in punishment or discipline or reasoning or explanations at that age - they have very little impulse control. Just have to physically stop her by pre-empting it, and break the habit.