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Chucking plate and cup after eating

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Whenspringcomes · 21/03/2021 18:37

Dd, 2, 8 is going through a phase of finishing her dinner and proceeding to chuck her plate and cup at me/on the floor. We’ve told her firmly, shouted (hate doing this) switched the tv off immediately if she’s been allowed to watch, kept her in the chair for longer afterwards so she’s not allowed to play because she’s throwing cutlery etc. Nothing works 🤷🏻‍♀️
Any suggestions of what to do/why she’s doing it? Is it a normal phase?

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MsChatterbox · 21/03/2021 19:06

If she's 2 years 8 months then either completely ignore it (it's most likely an attention thing even negative) or don't give her a plate. Just put food directly onto her tray.

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 21/03/2021 19:08

if she is 8 and that childish, liquidise everything and feed it in a bottle.

Amorousfrog · 21/03/2021 19:09

[following to find out if dd is 2, 8 or somewhere in between]

Tankflybosswalkjam · 21/03/2021 19:10

If she’s 28 she needs to knock that shit off. I bet she doesn’t do that at work OP.

AGurneyAunt · 21/03/2021 19:11

Obviously she means 2.8 (as in, 2yrs 8 months). I don't know why people are determined to be 'confused' by that Hmm

arethereanyleftatall · 21/03/2021 19:11

@CreosoteQueen

OP would hardly be asking if it’s a normal phase of her kid was 8 Hmm do people not use context clues anymore...?

OP, I expect she’s trying to get a reaction. I would calmly pick the dishes up and ask her not to, but not make a big deal out of it. She will soon grow out of it.

Did you see the thread a while ago where a mum wouldn't ever let her 6 yr old out of her sight in her house/or outside of it? She felt it wasn't safe. Even took the child in to the bathroom with her when she needed the loo. The thread was about whether you ever left toddlers unattended and this mum was absolutely horrified. My point being, you just never know on mn!
MrsTerryPratchett · 21/03/2021 19:12

@AGurneyAunt

Obviously she means 2.8 (as in, 2yrs 8 months). I don't know why people are determined to be 'confused' by that Hmm
Really, it could just as easily be DD2, 8 yo.
arethereanyleftatall · 21/03/2021 19:13

@Tankflybosswalkjam SmileGrinSmileGrin

yahyahs22 · 21/03/2021 19:21

Just here so I can find out this childs age, or adults age if she's 28. In that case she's my age and maybe she's been drinking every evening

Givemeabreak88 · 21/03/2021 19:28

But who says 2 years 8 months, surely you just say 2 or nearly 3 no need to still be counting in months so no it’s not obvious

LST · 21/03/2021 19:29

Need to know how old this child is!

Wroxie · 21/03/2021 20:01

Barring a developmental delay, a child of nearly 3 throwing their plate after every meal is not normal. Maybe as a one-off if there was a tantrum or meltdown but certainly not as just a 'thing she does'. I spoke to a very normal 3-year-old on Zoom today (my niece) and she explained the difference between butterflies and moths to me (she got it a bit wrong to be fair, she might not make it as an entomologist). I can no more imagine her throwing her plate as a matter of course than I could imagine her mother doing the same.
Can your child explain why she does it when you ask?

RedGoldAndGreene · 21/03/2021 20:07

Assuming that this is a 2yo or 2y8m child, how's her language? What do you want her to do when she's done? If it's something like saying "finished" then has she got an older sibling who can model this?

It's very normal for a 1yo/2yo to chuck cutlery once finished, bored or wanting attention. Can you work out which one it might be? Have you considered taking her plate when she seems finished so she can't throw food?

Tinkerbell456 · 21/03/2021 20:09

Is she Greek?

ElderMillennial · 21/03/2021 20:10

@Amorousfrog

[following to find out if dd is 2, 8 or somewhere in between]
Same
saltinesandcoffeecups · 21/03/2021 20:13

@Tinkerbell456

Is she Greek?
OPA! Grin
NannyR · 21/03/2021 20:17

I usually move children into normal plates around two and a half, very cheap ones as occasionally they do get broken, but the shock of seeing it broken and going in the bin means they usually only do it deliberately once. She's old enough to encourage her to scrape her plate in the bin and put it in the dishwasher or sink when she's finished eating too.
I wouldn't go down the route of suction plates - that's treating her like a baby and giving her the expectation that she should behave like a baby.

CecilyP · 21/03/2021 20:19

If she’s 28 she needs to knock that shit off. I bet she doesn’t do that at work OP.

Love it! And no dafter than any of the other suggestions on this thread! I was thinking of Greek myself. I would just watch her like a hawk and whisk away as soon as she’s finished. Though she’ll probably hate you spoiling her fun.

marmitepasta · 21/03/2021 20:25

'Is she Greek?'

Lol love it!

Honestly if she is 2, I would not be making a massive thing of this, she's obviously looking for a reaction.

Original poster
Whenspringcomes · 21/03/2021 20:47

Omg 🤣sorry everyone, she’s 28, should have clarified

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Whenspringcomes · 21/03/2021 20:48

Joking obviously, she’s 2 years and 8 months, don’t know why I was being so specific tbh 🤷🏻‍♀️She’s almost 3

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Whenspringcomes · 21/03/2021 20:51

She’s still in a high chair but really independent, speaks in full sentences etc, so knows she’s very able to say she’s finished and I’ll take it away. It’s only a very recent thing but seems to be doing it more and more, afterwards she sort of smiles/laughs 😩it’s hard to not do anything about it when a plastic cup is aimed straight at our heads, she can’t just be allowed to think it’s ok, but nothing works 🤷🏻‍♀️
Her final molars are coming through, could this be influencing her behaviour? She’s also so bloody hyper recently too,

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Greenmarmalade · 21/03/2021 20:54

Ignore completely and don’t even mention it. Actively give praise for the good things- sitting nicely, etc.

Totally normal- all of mine went through this. I sometimes used to swipe the plate when I saw the signs that they’d finished eating. More often, I’d put the food on the tray with no plate!

2 year olds are just bonkers.

Greenmarmalade · 21/03/2021 20:55

If she’s smiling, she’s enjoying/exploring the reactions and drama 😆

Mummy7777 · 21/03/2021 20:55

This thread made me laugh! Thanks MN

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