Is it ever ok to wish someone dead?

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Not just renouned criminals, but people who essentially co exist with us.

I think it’s fair to say that when e.g. Peter sutcliff and MAx Clifford etc died many people will have thought “good.”

And when Fred West and Harold Shipman died people would equally have been glad they were dead, but perhaps angry at the fact they took the cowardly way out.

But what about your average person who you just dislike for whatever reason?

My mum was telling me last week that she spoke to a neighbour whose brother used to be married to a family member. However, he and this woman are now estranged but only recently. He has recently been undergoing tests for a serious illness but she (the sister) doesn’t know that. My mum asked casually if she’d heard from him, and her response was “hopefully he’s dead.” and I couldn’t help thinking what an awful thing to say about anyone.

And yet I would probably think it of Peter Sutcliff, so when is it ok? Or isn’t it?

[quote FAQs]@Mrgrinch no, not really, my ‘mum’ beat, burnt me, boiled my hands, made me stand naked for hours at a time and enslaved me to do everything for her from cleaning, cooking to brushing her hair, and if I didn’t get it right the first applied, she is a pretty disgusting human, my experience my thoughts so yours are irrelevant.[/quote]
I don't know her but based on what you've said I'm glad too. Hope you are Ok

I wished someone dead once. They had done something awful to someone I love and made their life miserable for many years. One evening while talking about them I said “I wish Xx would just hurry up and die”.

The next day they died of a sudden heart attack.

I’m now very careful not to wish ill upon anyone - not that I think I caused it, but I did feel terrible afterwards.

I think it's okay and I think it's okay even if the person you wish dead hasn't raped or killed.

Some people are just rotten. They don't do illegal things but they really enjoy hurting others and see it as entertainment. I don't think these people add anything good to the world and they can cause so much harm to people's mental health/jobs/friendships/relationships.
I'm sure a lot of us have had the absolute misfortune of having one of these people in our lives at one point. Human hurricanes.

I think it's fine. I wish many people dead tbh. This world is full of utter parasites. As long as you don't try to kill them!

Obviously it's easy to say you wish these horrible people would die, but ultimately I don't think wishing people dead leads you to a good place mentally (I guess that is easy for me to say relaxing at home in a safe 1st world country, but I think it is true)

I think it's a terrible thing to say out loud (I guess you can't help it if you really do feel it), and I don't think it's "ok"...but ultimately it isn't going to cause anyone to die.

I've been wished dead by several people and I've outlived them.

Of course it is. But only if they've been deliberately, unfairly and viciously awful to you. Only if their behaviour is so appalling that nobody could condone it.

Wishing it, luckily, has zero effect on whether or not it will actually happen. (although you can take comfort from the fact that it will one day)

There is an elderly lady near me who treats her dogs like shit and I can’t wait for her to die and for those dogs to finally get the life they deserve

Have you reported her?!

Yes. I wish my sister was dead. She's a psychopath who has destroyed my life.

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N’ah I spent 17 years as a child wishing my mother dead, now she has cancer, oh well."

@Mrgrinch What a disgusting thing to say."

Clearly you have a good relationship with your mother. I can 100% relate to wishing my mother dead. She enabled my sister to torture and torment me for years when I was growing up. It's not a disgusting thing to say at all.

There are some people whose death would greatly improve the lives of others who don't deserve the hell they are being put through. And yes, I do sometimes feel how much better it would be if the abusive horror just dropped dead in the street one day and the victims could get on without them.

For instance, one of my friends would be much happier if she were an orphan, as well as financially better off and free from constant whinging blame games.

I would never say so to her or to anyone who knows them, but so many good people die out of the blue and are terribly missed, while nasty bits of work sometimes seem to be immortal.

I used to wish my business partner (now ex) dead. In fact I got so desperate I fantasised about killing him (poison since you ask). But I couldn't do it and it was never a possibility. I couldn't do that to his family for one. In the end I got a solicitor. Much better!

I think when you feel trapped and are being abused it's something that can enter your mind. I used to think about putting on my shocked face for the police 😂.

I also think that if a virus suddenly wiped out every paedo, rapist, and abuser of people and animals (not talking about abuse in the Peta sense) suddenly I would shed no tears. We need to lose some people anyway, it would be nice if it was the ones that harm others.

I can think of one person.

I wish a lot if people dead. Its normal. You cant like everyone.

I was glad when my mother died.

@MrsDThomas

I wish a lot if people dead. Its normal. You cant like everyone.

There's quite a difference between not liking someone and truly wishing they were dead.

I bitterly regret discovering my ex husband after he tried to commit suicide.

It's fine. There are many scenarios in which it is perfectly justifiable to wish someone dead. Wishing doesn't make it happen, and there are some people whose only 'contribution' to the world is to cause pain to others. Some people whose deaths would mean they stop hurting other people who don't deserve it.

I wished death on a much loved family member as they were so unwell it was cruel to keep them alive.

I can completely understand why you may feel this way.
I have on numerous occasions. It does not make me a bad person.

I think it's okay (or at least normal human nature) to be quietly relieved when someone that really made life difficult for you died, or to quietly hope that they did of natural causes soon, but I don't think that's the same as openly calling for their death, iyswim.

There are a few people I wouldn't mourn, but I wouldn't actually wish it on them either.

No definitely not although unfortunately people have said it me when I was in school.