Is it ever ok to wish someone dead?

[HeartsAndClubs]

Not just renouned criminals, but people who essentially co exist with us.

I think it’s fair to say that when e.g. Peter sutcliff and MAx Clifford etc died many people will have thought “good.”

And when Fred West and Harold Shipman died people would equally have been glad they were dead, but perhaps angry at the fact they took the cowardly way out.

But what about your average person who you just dislike for whatever reason?

My mum was telling me last week that she spoke to a neighbour whose brother used to be married to a family member. However, he and this woman are now estranged but only recently. He has recently been undergoing tests for a serious illness but she (the sister) doesn’t know that. My mum asked casually if she’d heard from him, and her response was “hopefully he’s dead.” and I couldn’t help thinking what an awful thing to say about anyone.

And yet I would probably think it of Peter Sutcliff, so when is it ok? Or isn’t it?

There's a lot of people I'd be happy to see dead, tbh.

Of course it is, there is no good or bad, Heaven or Hell, nobody is going to come for you if you wish ill on anyone that has done harm to anyone else.

I’m now of an age that I have seen enough evidence to know that bad is done to other people on a societal level every day, but they very rarely pay for it.

When I found out my violent ex had died I celebrated with champagne 🥂

@Cocopogo

*@FAQs* that is so sad. Why would anyone think that about their mum?

You've not been abused by your mother, have you?

faq that is horrendous. I am so sorry you went through that and your feelings are more than justified.

I wish my abusive ex dead. The world would be a much better place with out him here abusing people.

Yes when it comes to toxic people who ruin peoples lives x there's plenty of them about!

There are a couple of people i wish were dead! Not going to feel bad about it either, they are complete wastes of oxygen 🤷‍♀️

I wouldn’t wish anyone dead.

But I’d feel like celebrating the horrible bastard who bullied me for years, like you landofthefree

I wouldn’t be quiet about it at all.
It would be a happy day and those who matter would know why.

I think it's ok. Doesn't mean you are going to act on it. It's just a daydream scenario. There are a few people I would not be sad about if they popped off.

If my father died the world be a better place. He causes misery wherever he goes

I did in anger and unfortunately she died a couple of weeks later

Well, just because you wish someone dead, isn't going to magically cause them to die! It's not the kindest of thoughts, but thoughts don't kill.

I think Rudolh Hess had a similar view of Hitler at the Nuremberg trials but a fat lot of good it did him...

Wishing someone dead different to feeling gleeful about the prospect or fact of them dying. Knowing your abuser is dead is the only way some people will ever feel safe from that person. I think its entirely understandable to feel that way if you live everyday feeling anxious they might find you, try to insinuate themselves back into your life or you can't cut them out completely but they make your life a misery.

I can't help but feel it for Piers Morgan....

But I do feel bad about it.

is different

Well actively wishing someone dead won’t do them any harm, but it will harm you, so best to try and move on from that, even if it can only be to a place of not caring either way.

But if someone you think it’s seriously unpleasant dies, and you think ‘good’ - there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just honest.

My FIL (very abusive to both DH and MIL) had a heart attack, there were several people myself included hoping that he didn't recover.

My parents split very unexpectedly leaving the whole family and my very ill mum devastated. With that and the stuff that came out/treatment of my mum afterwards it would certainly have been easier and more bareable if my father had died.

@FAQs I get it. My mother is an abusive bitch from hell too and I would feel nothing if she died. Sooner the better really.

Yes it's fine, it's just words or thoughts, there are a couple of people I wish dead.
If I was out hiring a hitman that would be different

There are several people who have mocked me and bullied me in the past that I would quite like to suffer - not necessarily die. They need to suffer first, death can come later.

Sure, because wishes are meaningless. I mean, you can wish for anything - someone's death, a lottery win, a cure for cancer - nothing comes of it.

There is an elderly lady near me who treats her dogs like shit and I can’t wait for her to die and for those dogs to finally get the life they deserve.